Let’s talk about loneliness.

Not the quiet moments of solitude we choose, but the aching isolation that burrows into your bones, amplifying every twinge of chronic pain and whispering you’re unseen.

Growing up in a cult like the Jehovah’s Witnesses, I felt this keenly.

Every morning at primary school, I endured the pain of my classmates leaving for assembly while I sat alone in the classroom, rubbing my shins feverishly to ease excruciating agony and generate warmth in the wide-open space of manufactured desolation.

Some teachers left the light, others didn’t.

For the 1 in 10 women living with endometriosis, this kind of pain is all too familiar a companion [1]

When your life has been profoundly shaped by medical gaslighting and systemic neglect, like it has for so many of us living with chronic pain, loneliness is more than a feeling—it’s a daily battle that defines our resilience as warriors.

Now imagine one act of kindness—a single gesture that says, “I see you.”

It’s not just a moment; it’s a spark that ripples outward, creating connection and love that can ease the weight of pain and alienation.

Enter Mansi: The Ripple Maker.

With 1 in 4 adults reporting loneliness [2], Mansi’s movement is a beacon of hope.

For many years now, Mansi has been handing out handmade tokens of appreciation to those society overlooks—baristas, janitors, mammogram technicians.

These aren’t mere trinkets; they’re heartfelt works of art, crafted to say, “You matter.”

For women with chronic pain, who often feel invisible in a world that dismisses our struggles, Mansi’s movement is a lifeline—a reminder that one kind act can shatter isolation and foster healing.

In Season 2, Episode 3 of Phoenix Sound, we sat down to chat about how her Radical Acts of Kindness are breaking the cycle of loneliness and sparking connection with people all over the world.

As a solo podcaster pouring my heart into this while navigating endo pain, this conversation feels like a love letter to every endo warrior, every spoonie, every woman who’s felt the sting of dismissal or the flicker of hope that connection is possible.

Here’s why this episode will move you:

When she travelled to Australia and New Zealand last December, Mansi stepped away from Instagram and Facebook to be present with her family. With over 10,000 followers, she expected someone to notice her absence—yet only two people reached out. This echoes Cal Newport’s Digital Minimalism, which argues that social media offers shallow interactions, not true belonging [3].

For women with chronic pain, who often rely on online communities, this is a wake-up call: real connection happens when humans connect without machine-led mediation and Mansi’s story shows us the central role creativity plays in forming an authentic connection with others, but perhaps most importantly first, with ourselves.

Her tokens restore dignity to those pushed to the margins, like a mammogram technician who kept one for years, pulling it out to remind herself “I matter” during tough moments.

For women with chronic pain, this is a reminder: creativity can soothe emotional and physical wounds.

Loneliness and chronic pain feed each other, but Mansi’s acts of kindness disrupt this cycle and during our chat she shares some truly remarkable stories about the healing impact she’s been able to create with people over the years through her intentional art making practice.

For women, Mansi’s work is a call to reclaim our space through creativity. In a world that expects us to endure pain silently, carving out time to create isn’t being selfish—it’s self-first – putting our needs ahead of everyone else’s.

Mansi’s tokens, which take hours to craft, are demonstrating firsthand that love is a verb, a doing word.

I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did.

Here’s a roadmap to guide you through Phoenix Sound Season 2, Episode 3 with Mansi, The Ripple Maker (33:26):

· 2:10: Mansi shares her kindness movement, giving tokens to unseen workers and embracing Substack as The Ripple Maker.

· 4:47: Mansi on ditching social media, unnoticed by 10,000+ followers, echoing Digital Minimalism’s call for real connection.

· 7:17: Mansi and Kel discuss restoring human decency by seeing beyond labels like “janitor” for true connection.

· 8:29: The mammogram story: Mansi’s token uplifts a healthcare technician, cherished for years as a symbol of worth.

· 13:15: Mansi explains how creativity helps women reclaim space, rippling healing to families and communities.

· 15:47: Kel shares poetry as an endo pain outlet; Mansi suggests nature as a simple creative healing practice.

· 28:45: Mansi reveals no token rejections in 7 years, urging listeners to overcome fear of looking foolish.

· 32:26: Kel closes, urging endo warriors to try one kind act and share ripples on X/Substack (@phoenixsoundpod)

References:

* [1] For the 1 in 10 women living with endometriosis

* Source: World Health Organisation (WHO). (2021). Endometriosis Fact Sheet.

* Link: https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/endometriosis

* [2] With 1 in 4 adults reporting loneliness

* Source: Cigna. (2018). U.S. Loneliness Index.

* Link: https://legacy.cigna.com/static/www-cigna-com/docs/about-us/newsroom/studies-and-reports/combatting-loneliness/loneliness-survey-2018-full-report.pdf

* [3] Cal Newport’s Digital Minimalism

* Source: Newport, C. (2019). Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World.

* Link: https://www.calnewport.com/books/digital-minimalism/

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