If intimate betrayal has left you feeling not enough, unchosen, unseen, or deeply shaken in your sense of value, this episode is for you.

In this heartfelt conversation, Jane explores one of the most painful impacts of betrayal: the way it can distort your sense of self-worth. She gently unpacks why betrayal is never a commentary on your value, even though it can feel that way in the aftermath.

You’ll hear why betrayal is rooted in disloyalty, secrecy, deception, and power imbalance — not in any deficiency in you. Jane also explains why it makes sense that your worth feels under attack after betrayal, especially when manipulation tactics like blame-shifting, gaslighting, and DARVO have left you doubting your reality.

This episode also explores how trauma affects the nervous system and can turn pain inward, leading to self-blame and disconnection from your truest self. Jane offers a compassionate reframe: your worth has not been lost — but your connection to it may have been damaged through trauma.

With warmth, honesty, and practical wisdom, Jane shares 6 grounded ways to begin reclaiming your sense of worth, including:

• reconnecting with the qualities that reflect your truest self
• listening to and responding to your body with care
• telling the truth about what has happened to you
• setting effective, self-honouring boundaries
• making values-based choices that restore agency
• accepting your humanity without shame

Jane also shares part of her own journey of questioning and reclaiming her worth, offering hope that healing is possible, and that the real you is still there — alive, precious, and waiting to be reconnected with.

If you’ve been carrying the weight of betrayal and wondering whether you still matter, this episode is a tender reminder: your story is painful, but it does not define your worth.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why betrayal is not about your worth
• Why it makes sense that betrayal feels like an attack on your value
• How trauma and the nervous system can fuel self-blame
• Why lost self-worth is often really lost self-connection
• Six practical ways to nurture a stronger connection to your true self

If late nights are especially hard and your thoughts won’t switch off, Jane has created a gentle resource called the 1AM Audio Companion to support you in those tender hours.

Find it here: https://www.quietwisdom.com.au/cantsleepaudiocompanion

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