There's a conversation you and your partner aren't having. It might be the one that turns into the same argument every time, so you've both learned to leave it where it is. Or it might be one you've simply never thought to have, and years have gone by without either of you noticing.

In this episode, we sit down with Tina Mathanda, a Perth psychologist who specialises in couples and Tracey's business partner of seven years across 23 relationship retreats, to unpack the conversations couples stop having, why the same fight keeps coming back, and why the problem is rarely the thing you're arguing about.

We explore what couples therapy really looks like from the inside: the patterns people bring from childhood, the conversations they've stopped having, and the small daily moments that decide whether a relationship can absorb a bad day.

Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into:

• Why the same fight keeps coming back wearing a different outfit
• The Gottman 5:1 ratio, and how couples build enough credit to survive one bad moment
• What defensiveness, stonewalling, contempt and criticism look like at home (Scott owns up to all four)
• The couple in their 60s who hadn't been on a holiday since their early 20s, over a conversation they never came back to
• How to call a timeout when you're flooded, and who has to reopen the conversation afterwards
• Spontaneous vs responsive desire, and why one partner's switch stops flipping

If you've ever walked away from a conversation with your partner thinking "that went nowhere again", this episode gives you the map of what's going on underneath it, and something to do about it tonight.

Connect with Tina Mathanda:Website: www.southperthpsychology.com.au

Reconnect Relationship Retreat

Our next Reconnect Relationships retreat is on Monday 9th and Tuesday 10th November 2026.

Two days to work on your relationship with both Tracey & Tina in the room.

Details at https://www.reconnectrelationships.com.au/

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Reconnect to Self Retreat - Oct 23-25

Friday 23 – Sunday 25 October at Moondyne Estate in the Chittering Valley, just over an hour from Perth.

Three days, nine guided exercises run by Tracey, and only 10 spots.

May sold out.

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Have you ever sat down to rest and felt guilty within about ninety seconds? Not tired. Guilty.

Like rest is something you have to earn, and you haven't earned it yet.

Most high performers aren't bad at resting, they just can't shake the feeling that stopping is a kind of failing. And they usually don't stop until something makes them.

In this episode, we sit down with Fleur Marks.

20 years in senior leadership at one of the world's largest advertising agencies, running American Express across Asia Pacific, and author of the new book The Overachiever's Reset: A Better Way to Succeed, Without Losing Yourself — to unpack what happens when a rare autoimmune disease and then cancer strip away your ability to achieve anything at all, and you meet who you are without the performance.

We explore the version of success that looks flawless from the outside and costs everything on the inside — and what Fleur found on the other side of losing the career, the house, and the identity she'd built her whole life on.

Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into:

• What a normal week actually looked like — two countries a week, London in the morning and New York at night, two children under five
• The four words from her five-year-old daughter that stopped her cold
• What "FINE" really stands for, and why high achievers reach for it every time
• Why she dragged herself out of bed after chemo to make perfect school lunches — and the belief underneath it
• The three types of "enough", and which one has you working past midnight
• Why resilience, the thing everyone praised her for, was the thing that broke her

If you're the one everyone relies on, the one who's always fine, this is the episode to sit with.

Fleur is living proof that the small things you're too busy to notice are the only things you'll want back.

Connect with Fleur Marks:Website: https://fleurmarks.com.auInstagram: @fleurjmarks

Reconnect to Self Retreat - Oct 23-25

If this episode landed, our October retreat is the structured version of everything Fleur talks about here.

Friday 23 – Sunday 25 October at Moondyne Estate in the Chittering Valley, just over an hour from Perth.

Three days, nine guided exercises run by Tracey, and only 10 spots.

May sold out.

Visit www.traceyquayle.com if you'd like the info pack.

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Have you ever wanted to quit something right when it started getting hard — even though you loved it?

This is episode 50, and it's just the two of us.

We get honest about the parts nobody sees: the self-doubt, the hard feedback, what this has cost our relationship and our time, and why we're still showing up to record every single time.

Through real stories from behind the scenes, we dive into:

• Why we almost gave up more times than we can count (and the one thing that kept us going)
• The feedback that nearly stopped Tracey from releasing episode one — and how she came back from it
• The "stands vs. the field" mindset Scott uses to handle criticism, on the podcast and everywhere else
• How AI has cut our production time in half — the exact workflow behind our research, editing and trailers
• Why we stopped tracking views and subscribers, and what we focused on instead
• What we actually want this show to become, and what success means to us now

If you've ever stuck with something nobody understood, or wondered whether it was worth it — this one's for you.

Reconnect to Self Retreat - OCT 2026

The Reconnect to Self Retreat is open for October — 23rd to 25th.

For anyone caught up in the busyness of life, who frequently puts others before themselves and who doesn’t take time to recharge and reconnect with what brings them joy, this is for you.

It has been created to help you:

• Understand why it is important to look after yourself and your nervous system

• Learn emotional regulation techniques and the science behind them

• Get to know yourself again

• Slow down, find balance and connect to nature

• Get excited about life again and the infinite possibilities it holds

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Ever get a full eight hours of sleep and still wake up exhausted? You're not imagining it, and it's not a discipline problem. There's a specific reason sleep quantity doesn't guarantee sleep quality, and once you understand it, a lot of your bad mornings will suddenly make sense.

In this episode, we sit down with Dr Jemma King — behavioural scientist, sleep researcher and author of the new book Sleep First — to unpack exactly why this happens, what's really going on in your brain and body when sleep falls apart even though the hours add up, and how to get it back.

Dr Jemma has spent years working across stress and performance with Australian Special Forces Commandos, Olympic swimmers and McKinsey executives, and her focus has now narrowed to the one thing underneath all of it: sleep.

We explore the nightly "cleaning shift" your brain runs while you're unconscious, why alcohol and sleeping tablets rob you of the deep repair your body needs, and how missing REM sleep can quietly reshape what you're scared of.

Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into:

• The glymphatic "cleaning process" that flushes toxic build-up out of your brain every night — and exactly what shuts it down
• Why caffeine doesn't actually give you energy — it just blocks the signal that you're tired
• The two-hour window before midnight where most of your growth hormone gets produced — and what you lose by missing it
• The "midnight librarian" theory of REM sleep, and its surprising link to fear conditioning and PTSD
• Why oxytocin might be the most underrated stress antidote you're not using
• The simple bedroom, morning and evening changes with the biggest impact on sleep quality

If you've ever woken up foggy after what should've been a full night's sleep, this episode explains exactly why — and what to do about it.

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BreatheDEEP™ is a live breathwork experience set to deep house music — held in an intimate venue with atmosphere you can feel.

You lie back, breathe with intention, and let the music do the rest.

Find out more here: ⁠traceyquayle.com/breathdeep-live⁠

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Do you feel stuck in life — like you know something needs to change, but you have no idea where to start?

Have you ever wondered why reading another book or watching another video never actually moves the needle?

In this episode, we sit down with Tamsin Simounds — leadership coach, keynote speaker and author of The Experiment Mindset — to unpack why traditional goal-setting keeps so many of us stuck, and what actually creates lasting change.

We explore how imposter syndrome hit Tamsin hardest right as she was succeeding early in her career, why she spent a decade building her coaching business on the side before she ever left her corporate job, and the science-backed method that came out of it.

Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into:

• Why gathering more information is keeping you stuck (and what to do instead)
• Why imposter syndrome hit hardest the moment she got her first promotion
• The sunk cost fallacy — and why it's running more of your decisions than you think
• What an "expander" is, and how the right person in your life can make the impossible feel possible
• The three levers of change — environment, physiology and psychology — and where to actually start
• Why "push through it" is sometimes the worst advice — and what to do instead
• Why Tamsin just launched an activewear startup — and how it's the ultimate proof of concept for everything in this episode

If you've been sitting on a decision, a career change, or just a feeling that something needs to shift — this episode gives you a real place to start.

Connect with Tamsin:

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BreatheDEEP™

Speaking of trying something new — our first BreatheDEEP™ LIVE event is happening Friday 7th August at Laceys Gym in Joondalup.

Tracey leads a guided breathwork journey while Scotty spins a live deep house set alongside her — just 40 spots, so grab yours if it's calling you.

You can learn more here

About Us:

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Have you ever been so far down that you genuinely couldn't see a way out? Not just a bad week — but months, then years, of not being okay? That's where today's guest was. And what he built from that place changed the entire country.

In this episode, we sit down with Graeme Cowan — co-founder of R U OK? Day, author of Great Leaders Care, and host of The Caring CEO podcast (ranked #2 globally for workplace mental health) — to unpack what severe depression, an ICU admission, and a five-year recovery really look like from the inside, and what Graeme has since learned about building a life and a career that doesn't cost you your mind.

We explore how one of the most significant mental health movements in Australian history grew directly from one man's darkest chapter — and what that means for all of us who are quietly struggling.

Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into:

• What severe depression actually looks like from the inside (and why it often hides behind a high-performing exterior)
• The surprising origin story of R U OK? Day — and why it almost didn't happen
• The Mood Meter: the simple self-check tool from Graeme's book that's changing how leaders track wellbeing at work
• Why 99.67% of workplace mental health suffering is invisible to official systems — and what that means for your team
• The four pillars of a thriving life: Mindset, Vitality, Intimacy, and Prosperity
• Why hope isn't soft — and what Scott learned the hard way when a doctor took his away
• The one thing Graeme does every single day that's kept him well for over two decades

If you're going through something right now — or leading people who might be — this episode is worth your full attention.

Connect with Graeme Cowan:
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📖 Great Leaders Care — available in all good bookstores
🎙️ The Caring CEO podcast — search wherever you listen

Resources:

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Self Care Scorecard

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Have you ever been told you're too nice? That being kind makes you a pushover? That real strength means being tough, not warm?

In this episode, we sit down with Sophie Bretag — author, award-winning keynote speaker, executive HR consultant, and self-described Chief Kindness Officer — to unpack why everything you've been taught about kindness might be wrong, and what the science actually says about its impact.

Sophie's new book The Kind Way introduces the Kind Human Quotient (KHQ) — a four-pillar framework for leading and living with genuine kindness — and she breaks down how it applies to workplaces, relationships, and the way we show up for ourselves.

Through real stories and hard-won insight, we explore:

• Why kindness is consistently mistaken for weakness — and why that belief is costing you more than you realise
• The surprising science behind the kindness ripple effect (witnessing an act of kindness has the same neurological benefit as giving or receiving one)
• Why "clear is kind" — and how courageous conversations and firm boundaries are actually acts of kindness, not the opposite
• The Know Yourself pillar: why most of us don't actually know ourselves as well as we think — and why that's the foundation of everything
• Why the people who give the most to others are often the least kind to themselves
• The myth of work-life balance — and what actually matters when your values and your calendar don't match

If you've ever softened who you are to fit into a world that rewards toughness, this episode will reframe kindness not as a compromise — but as your greatest strength.

Connect with Sophie Bretag:

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LinkedIn

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Have you tried everything — the doctors, the supplements, the lifestyle changes — and still can't figure out why you feel so flat, so heavy, so stuck? What if the answer isn't in your head at all, but in your body?

In this episode, we sit down with Jenny Shortland — Advanced Diploma in Functional Kinesiology and founder of Align Kinesiology — to unpack what kinesiology actually is, how it works, and why so many people only find it when everything else has failed.

Jenny's story starts where a lot of ours do: exhausted, running on empty, pushing through life like she was moving brick walls just to get through the day. What she discovered — first as a client, then as a practitioner — is that the body holds onto stress, emotion, and unresolved energy long before the conscious mind catches up. And once you start to clear it, things shift in ways that are hard to explain and impossible to ignore.

Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into:

• What kinesiology actually is — and why muscle testing tells your practitioner things you haven't said out loud
• Why so many people arrive as a "last resort" (and why that's exactly when it works best)
• The connection between physical pain and trapped emotion — and why you can't have one without the other
• How the subconscious rules you wrote before age 5 are still running your behaviour today
• Why kinesiology isn't an alternative to medicine — it's a tool you should be using alongside it
• The surprising ways Jenny works with children, animals, and people who can't even be in the room

If you've ever felt like something is off but can't quite put your finger on it, this episode might be the missing piece.

Connect with Jenny Shortland:

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Have you ever held back from something you really wanted — a risk, a change, a life that felt a little too big to ask for?

What if the thing stopping you was a fear you didn't even know you could lose?

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Mary Helen Hensley — speaker, author, chiropractor, and near-death experience survivor of over 30 years — to explore what happens to a life when fear of dying simply... disappears. And what the rest of us can take from that, whether we believe in what she experienced or not.

Mary was 21 years old when a car accident changed everything. What she came back with wasn't just a story — it was a completely different relationship with risk, with purpose, and with what it actually means to be alive.

Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into:

• Why a near-death experience doesn't just change what you believe — it permanently changes what you're capable of
• The moment she made a conscious choice to leave her body (and why she came back anyway)
• What it felt like to watch her own accident from above — and why it didn't feel like what you'd expect
• How her life review revealed she was the architect of her own reality all along
• Why the greatest side effect of dying is that you stop hesitating
• The one question she wakes up with every day that cuts through everything else

You don't have to have a near-death experience to take the lessons from one. This episode will leave you asking what you're still waiting for — and why.

Connect with Dr. Mary Helen Hensley:Website: www.maryhelenhensley.comInstagram: @maryhelenhensley

Loverlution: www.maryhelenhensley.com/loverlution-transformational-masterclass

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Have you ever sat in couples therapy, done all the "right" things… and still felt like you and your partner were miles apart?

In this episode, we sit down with Jonathan Robinson — former psychotherapist, bestselling author of 16 books, and one of the early pioneers of MDMA-assisted couples therapy — to explore why traditional therapy often falls short, and what 40 years of working underground with over 700 couples has revealed about what it actually takes to reconnect.

We explore how fear keeps couples stuck in the same patterns, why both partners need to feel safe at the same moment for real breakthroughs to happen — and what becomes possible when that wall finally comes down.

Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into:

• Why most couples wait 6 years before seeking help (and what it costs them)
• How MDMA removes the fear response that keeps partners from being truly honest
• Why both people being open at the same time changes everything
• The "joy muscle" — and why most people don't know they can train it
• What Jonathan learned doing sessions over Zoom (the results surprised everyone)
• The difference between a relationship that's struggling and one that's ready to transform

If you've ever felt like you and your partner keep hitting the same wall, or wondered whether there's a faster path to genuine connection… this conversation will challenge what you think is possible — and open the door to something better.

Connect with Jonathan Robinson:

www.ecstasyasmedicine.com

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