Recorded Conversations

Cory Kingstrom joins the conversation.

Today’s topic indulges the question, “How do you fight right?

Cory and Danielle discuss what they’ve learned from Dr. Julie Schwarz Gottman and Dr. John Gottman’s new book, “Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection.” Danielle received this book as a complimentary gift from Harmony Books. Thank you for the gift!

The conversation indulges what our takeaway is from understanding conflict under a new lens, the lens of connection. We discuss conflict styles and Cory and Danielle do not see eye-to-eye on which type of conflict style fits best.

The conversation then turns toward Internet Authentication. Should the government verify all social media and internet users or should people be afforded the cloak of anonymity?

The conversation then morphs into a discussion on Red Pill agendas and why Andrew Tate and his ilk are dangerous to discourse. From there, we briefly delve into “What is stoicism?”

And finally, we delve into the infidelity conversation and discuss how abandonment issues can create conflicts in relationships.

This episode is filled with so much substance, nuance, and two individual perspectives compassionately considering one another in an authentic, connected dialogue.

Be sure to share the podcast if it inspires you. Check out Danielle on twitter and TikTok:

Twitter: https://twitter.com/DKingstrom

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Episode 119 is a monologue. Today, Danielle shares her thoughts about TRP- The Red Pill Ideology-that is infecting society. 

This monologue includes portions of a study conducted by Matteo Bottoa and Lucas Gottzén. The study is called: Swallowing and spitting out the red pill: young men, vulnerability, and radicalization pathways in the manosphere. 

Topics include: Emotional exploitation and the currency that costing you your dignity. Manosphere groups and Red Pill content exploit the emotional experiences of their audience for profit while leaving men perpetually stuck in depression, isolation, while encouraging growing feelings of resentment and hatred of women. 

Please enter the listening stratosphere with an open heart, and open mind, and open ears. Thank you for compassionately considering the perspective of Danielle Kingstrom

The study discussed within this episode can be found here:

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/09589236.2023.2260318

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Dovid Feldman joins the conversation. He is a licensed marriage therapist

Today’s topic indulges the question, “How do you rebuild or strengthen your marriage?”

Dovid Shares the 5 foundations for a great marriage. These are: Gratitude, Listening, Communication, Boundaries, and Sexuality.

The conversation indulges the spike in sexlessness in marriages and long term relationships. Dovid offers some great ideas that can help you cultivate a structure to maintain erotic enthusiasm and ensures needs are being met. He notes that the plan to “just have sex when you feel like” is the reason sexuality is the foundational focus in his course. If you wait for when you “feel” like it, how long are you waiting?

The conversation then turns to how to implement and differentiate desire and intimacy in the marriage. He speaks of the Jewish idea of implementing a degree of abstinence to help keep desire alive.

When discussing boundaries, Dovid notes the importance of understanding how only how to set the boundaries, but how to receive them as well. And reminds us that boundaries are designed to separate us while also bringing us closer. It’s a paradox we must manage.

This episode is filled with so much substance, nuance, and two individual perspectives compassionately considering one another in an authentic, connected dialogue.

For more insight and inspiration, be sure to follow today’s guest on X (formerly Twitter- forever Twitter):

https://twitter.com/dovidfeldman

And check out Dovid’s website to build a great marriage:

https://dovidfeldman.com/

Daniel Raz joins the conversation. He is a health and fitness coach that helps men go from 300 lbs. to 200 lbs. without going to the gym.

Today’s topic indulges the question, “How do you shift your mindset so that you can elevate your health?”

Dan discusses how his plan is about sustainability, not just about dropping a few pounds but about implementing a new lifestyle so that you can develop a new relationship with your body and the food you eat. Do you need to go to a gym to get results that make you feel better? Dan says no, there are simple things you can implement into your day-to-day life that show results. He realized during the pandemic shutdown how many people were suffering and so he created a new approach to health and fitness that starts with home. Change starts at home, with yourself.

Coaches and fitness trainers are helpful to our society because at times, we need help in taking the next step. When someone is there to support you in your accountability for your health, you are more likely to succeed with your health and body goals.

What holds people back from implementing changes to their health and body? Our habits and our own internal shame can be an impetus that blocks our belief in ourselves to make changes. Change is scary, even when it comes to changing the food you eat and the way you move your body. Dan recognizes that when you go to the extremes of change, you’re more likely to back away and stop. His regiment includes tiptoeing into change so that one can be practical without taking too much time out of their day. Often, a new goal to lose weight or get in shape includes making extreme changes that interrupt your daily life, and that’s because we typically go headfirst into the deep end of health and wellness.

A simple step to implement change starts with a water bottle. Keep water available and close to you to make it easy to do the right thing. Dan’s philosophy is founded on making things simple so it’s easy to make smarter choices.

This episode is filled with so much substance, nuance, and two individual perspectives compassionately considering one another in an authentic, connected dialogue.

For more insight and inspiration, be sure to follow today’s guest on X (formerly Twitter- forever Twitter):

https://twitter.com/DanielRaz_Fit

And check out Daniel’s website to develop a new relationship with your body and your health:

https://www.danielrazfit.com/

Lastadolphin joins the conversation. (Today’s guest wishes to remain anonymous and will be referred to by his Twitter (X) handle.) However, if you are seeking motivation, I highly encourage you to follow him.

Today’s topic indulges the question, “How do you shift your mindset so that you can elevate your marriage?” Caution: this episode contains sexual topics.

Why do we get stuck in our emotions? We indulge that question with curious uncertainty and confusion. Expression of emotions are cathartic, it feels good to express our feelings, but what do we do with those feelings? And aren’t men supposed to be problem solvers?

Without the language to express one’s emotions, many stay focused on expressing the one emotion they know how to express, which is often anger. Are men socialized to avoid emotions? We discuss that possibility.

How does a man navigate his primitive sexual desires and learn how to redirect sexual energy. How to turn away from porn dependency by discovering what’s underneath. Remember, porn is a symptom of a problem, not the problem itself. Many porn dependencies stem from uncertainty and insecurity about sexuality or stem from a stunted growth. Lasta explains…

This episode is filled with so much substance, nuance, and two individual perspectives compassionately considering one another in an authentic, connected dialogue.

Mentioned in this podcast: Island of the World by Michael O’Brien, masculinity, masculine emotional awareness, Mark Queppet, emotional maturity, conflict resolution.

If you are interested in participating in the Reforged Marriage Course, be sure to find Lasta on twitter and DM him for more details.

For more insight and inspiration, be sure to follow today’s guest on X (formerly Twitter- forever Twitter)

https://twitter.com/lastadolphin

Sheepdog (formerly WoundedSheepdog) joins the conversation. (Today’s guest wishes to remain anonymous and will be referred to by his Twitter (X) handle.)

My guest has been in a relationship for over 20 years, is a father, and has a lot of unique experiences to share with those who may be struggling in a sexless or sexually declining relationship. His tweets are inspirational, insightful, and accountable. So, if you are seeking motivation, I highly encourage you to follow him.

Today’s topic indulges the question, “How to encourage conscious relationships without endorsing the gender war.”

Caution: this episode contains sexual topics.

Sheepdog has been through an inspiring transformation and shares his background story and journey from emotionally retarded to emotionally intelligent. We discuss why the Red Pill Agenda is a harmful mindset that encourages men to see women as objects, not people. We also discuss why porn can be degrading to our beliefs about sex and intimacy and how porn can negatively impact our expectations.

We then talk about how we learned there was so much more to sex than the basic flat concept floated around by social, cultural, and media narratives. Also, chatter about why taking the O out of the sex session can lead to better sex and connection. While being goal-oriented is an attribute to the boardroom, it isn’t an attribute to the bedroom. Emotionally connected sex is THE BEST sex you can have, bar-none.

Romance is important, rituals are important. It does not mean you are a “simp” or a “cuck” if you like to appreciate your lady or receive affection from your lady. Love isn’t logical, nor does love aim to fit the mold of the Red Pill Agenda.

We discuss the importance of touch, which is EVERY SINGLE PERSON’S LOVE LANGUAGE. Danielle talks about why it’s important to see your spouse as a human being and not just some label or category or affiliation. We need to see each other as equal in value and worth. We must remember we are on the same team.

Danielle expounds on an idea mentioned by Sheepdog in one instance regarding ego and speaks to why we sometimes straddle ego and authentic self in the bedroom, why we need a story line (mental arousal) while we are in present moment with the touchable, physical NOW.

Sheepdog then highlights the trends of relationship orientations, such as “Trad-Con” relationships, in which the demands and expectations for this type of relationship demean and objectify women. How the Red Pill movement is really just an Agenda of Agent Smith.

Must the man lead? And if he’s unconscious, CAN he lead? What does it require for a man to lead? Sheepdog says patience!

Then we take a dive into the controversial topic of infidelity and forgiveness. How do you take accountability for infidelity? What happens on Discovery Day (D-Day, as Sheepdog calls it)? How do you rebuild trust? Can you love again after an affair?

Toward the end of the conversation, we share our learning and teaching experiences in the realm of parenting and specifically, how to talk to your children about sexuality and intimacy and how to encourage their curiosity.

This episode is filled with so much substance, nuance, and two individual perspectives compassionately considering one another in an authentic, connected dialogue.

Mentioned in this podcast: Zuby, Andrew Tate, Fresh and Fit Podcast, Red Pill Movement, Wife Worship, TradCon, Biblical Marriage, Obligatory sex, Chump Lady, Adam Lane Smith, She Comes First by Ian Kerner, LastaDolphin.

For more insight and inspiration, be sure to follow today’s guest on X (formerly Twitter- forever Twitter)

https://twitter.com/Woundedsheepdog

In this episode, Zach Watson joins the conversation. Zach is a creator and teacher. He helps men realize how they are contributing to mental loads with their wives. Zach and I met via TikTok and while we disagreed with each other's views, Zach saw something worth pursuing in conversation and understanding. This discussion today is really about exchanging views and learning to understand where the other is coming from, despite our agreeability to the views. I found this to be a really interesting conversation about two different philosophies that ultimately can help strengthen relationships and bring people closer in marriage. For those who have open minds and open hearts, this conversation will invite you to think for yourself about roles, responsibilities, and relationship conflict-resolution plans. Zach offers his unique male perspective while I share my perspective. Notice how neither one of us tells the other they are wrong about how we see the world? I was honored to share space with Zach Watson. To find more about Zach, check out his other sites:

https://www.tiktok.com/@zachthinkshare

https://www.youtube.com/@UCzLtdm3s96Vv5KeGojM77Ow

https://www.instagram.com/zachthinkshare/?hl=en

https://stan.store/zachthinkshare

https://open.spotify.com/show/00yIunwOpcCymvruv1FL7o

On this episode, Three, The Entertainer joins the conversation. Three shares with us his views on spiritual awakening, what activated his awakening, and why he is on a mission to create a connected tribe of spiritual warriors. If you are stuck in the Matrix and scrambling to find a way out, this conversation is for you. We talk about sound healing and how music can impact your energy levels. We also discuss eroticism, connection to physicality, divinity, and reality. Three shares some intriguing ideas on how we can better sexually educate ourselves so that we aren't dependent on gratification and stimulation of sex but can fold the layers of arousal into all dimensions of life. This was truly a phenomenally connected and engaging conversation that you will love as much as I loved participating.

Be sure to check out Three, The Entertainer:

https://open.spotify.com/artist/0Pd5i...  

  / @threetheentertainer  

https://www.tiktok.com/@UCB5ugqSS6IoG...

And you can also find him on IG and Facebook.

Today, Chris Krazter joins the conversation. Chris is the author of two books, Leatherbound Terrorism and Stupid $hit Heard in Church. He is a former ELCA pastor, with a Masters in Divinity, who left Evangelical Christianity for transformation. His books outline his storyline of transformation or "Christian Deconstruction." Chris shares with us the curiosity, doubt, and skepticism he wrestles with on his new journey toward understanding God. 

We discuss things like what confronts and inspires one to question their beliefs. We talk about the problematic ideologies associated within some churches and belief systems of our country. And then the conversation takes a nose-dive into divergence and disagreement to an abrupt ending of the interview. Unfortunately, the guest and I have since parted ways, but I am grateful for his story and sharing of space on this episode, both controversial and contentious, but otherwise a prime example of humans being human. 

Chris Kratzer's books can be found on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=stupid+shit+heard+in+church&crid=2JLZGB95T83HQ&sprefix=%2Caps%2C117&ref=nb_sb_ss_recent_2_0_recent

https://www.amazon.com/Leatherbound-Terrorism-Chris-Kratzer/dp/0692191623/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=leather+bound+terrorism&qid=1686015276&sprefix=leather+bound+ter%2Caps%2C146&sr=8-1

and you can listen to Chris's podcast here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-is-brave-be-brave/id1557318353

Enjoy the episode!

And visit https://www.daniellekingstrom.com/ 

Brad Vetter joins the conversation today to share his experience with being in relationship with a narcissist and why those with NPD aren't irredeemable. Narcissists get a bad name and Brad believes that we need to extend a bit more empathy to those wrestling with their coping mechanisms.  

We also tackle issues surrounding relationship conflicts, what interferes with intimacy, why social media is such a distraction and device of division for the dating scene, and what remedies are available for navigating a healthy, conscious, connected relationship.