Recover Yourself: Out from Under the Influence

I did bad in school. It’s no secret, but that experience kept me from seeking higher education. I also lived many years denying my own intelligence in an attempt to not have to face the pain of not fitting in. Many of you may know I do not enjoy reading, that is not an easy thing to own about oneself while surrounded by readers. It should be said that those who I surrounded myself with did love me, but it was my perceptions and fears that kept me from receiving it. All of that was because I was afraid I still didn’t fit in, that I was still a failure.

ENTER SUPER COURSES: I was introduced to the work of Ken Bain through an article he wrote in The Chronicle of Higher Education entitled The Future of Teaching (https://www.chronicle.com/article/why-post-pandemic-your-campus-needs-more-super-courses) The interesting thing about this article and “Super Courses” Ken’s book that I immediately listened to, is that it spelled out my learning process. In a nutshell, it promotes the idea of failing and trying again, and again. I love learning but I would never go into a classroom again. My life is a Super Course and I drive it forward every day.

This podcast is a Super Course on recovery. I have covered huge aspects of the topic ranging from personal experiences to causes, concepts, and conditions. We have covered the science, and now the contributions of education, and in upcoming episodes new ideas around harm reduction and care. And, all the while, asking the big question, “How, and what, do we Recover?” There is obviously no answer to that but there is information that will help you get curious about it, and that is what I want to do, help you be more curious.

Kenis president of the Best Teachers Institute, a historian, and a learning researcher. His latest book is Super Courses: The Future of Teaching and Learning, published this year by Princeton University Press. He is on Twitter @KenBain1

In June Ken, and Super Courses will take center stage at the 25th annual Best Teachers Institute program, more details here http://www.bestteachersinstitute.org/summer-institute

Get your copy of Super Courses here https://www.amazon.com/Super-Courses-Teaching-Learning-Scholars/dp/0691185468

As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out.

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In this episode, I am speaking with Judy Grisel about the A and B processes. And this is something we all have to face. Have you ever drunk coffee to feel more awake and then, when it wears off you are more tired? That is the A and B process at work. The thing is though, as you hear in our conversation, that after a time, and increased use or abuse, the A process has to be used consistently just to feel normal. So, if you have been drinking coffee every morning for years it is likely that you, like Judy, will have to continue to drink coffee every day just to feel normal, because otherwise, you’ll feel like crap. 

Judy Grisel, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized behavioral neuroscientist with expertise in pharmacology and genetics whose research focuses on determining the neural liability toward drug addiction. Her laboratory at Bucknell University is especially interested in identifying innate factors that influence the rewarding effects of abused drugs because initial sensitivity predicts disordered use. Recent work has focused on the role of endogenous opiate neurotransmission in sex differences in binge alcohol drinking. Professor Grisel teaches General Psychology, Introduction to Neuroscience, Psychopharmacology, Neuroethics, Behavioral Neuroscience, and Clinical Neuroscience, and author of Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction, a New York Times bestseller and NB Book of the Month. 

Opponent Process Theory https://615f2205-b9ed-4547-8ec9-9f1729f471a4.usrfiles.com/ugd/615f22_280363794a7c467387404bca7d9c2c29.pdf 

Science Plays the Long Game https://615f2205-b9ed-4547-8ec9-9f1729f471a4.usrfiles.com/ugd/615f22_ff3dea45daef4b87a26a50731f4fb484.pdf

JAMA Article https://615f2205-b9ed-4547-8ec9-9f1729f471a4.usrfiles.com/ugd/615f22_ce27f6893e624d30bd2f7d6141d9f7a4.pdf 

Judy’s Bucknell Website with talks and other in support content: https://www.bucknell.edu/fac-staff/judy-grisel 

Scientific Publications by Judy: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/?sort=date&size=50&term=Grisel+JE&cauthor_id=32315606 

Never Enough https://www.amazon.com/Never-Enough-Neuroscience-Experience-Addiction/dp/0385542844 

I encourage any and all of you to reach out to Judy directly with questions at [email protected]

If you are a parent or the adult child of a parent you are caring for or if you are a professional caregiver in any field, you face the very real threat of burnout nipping at your heels every day. This podcast can help you take a step back from that and get a wider perspective but working with me on a 4 session Recover Yourself package can finally put to bed any fear of burning out. Once you know how to recover yourself out of any situation, you’ll begin to gain more with every little thing you give. You’ll become unshakable and avoid conflict and stress without even knowing they were an option.

As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/

This episode is for Caregivers. If you are a parent, or a child caring for an elderly parent, a counselor, clinician, or even a sibling, this episode unpacks so much of the complex backdrop of caregiving. Over the past year, we have seen those in our lives who have usually been the most resistant, get taxed to their limit. This is because the normal resilient load has been multiplied, not only by more people but by more problems as well.   

As the world gets taxed, and it gets increasingly difficult to avoid that we are physically, emotionally, and spiritually taxed to an unhealthy degree, those who are in the caring roles need to start getting recognized. There is no way around it those who care about burnout and fatigue are neither being thanked or adequately compensated for what they are offering the world, and that needs to change.  

My guest this week is Dr. Eboni I. Green, a registered nurse, and family caregiver. She holds a Ph.D. in human services, with a specialization in health care administration. Green has contributed to several publications and given presentations that focus on training, assessing, and supporting caregivers throughout their caregiving journeys. Green is a published author and has written three books focusing on family caregiving: At the Heart of the Matter Caregiving in the New Millennium, and Reflections from the Soul.  

If you are interested in the Emma Tool mentioned in this episode you can find it here https://emma.caregiversupportservices.com/index.asp  

If you are a parent or the adult child of a parent you are caring for or if you are a professional caregiver in any field, you face the very real threat of burnout nipping at your heels every day. This podcast can help you take a step back from that and get a wider perspective but working with me on a 4 session Recover Yourself package can finally put to bed any fear of burning out. Once you know how to recover yourself out of any situation, you’ll begin to gain more with every little thing you give. You’ll become unshakable and avoid conflict and stress without even knowing they were an option.   

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Energy is all around us and we interact with it at every turn, in every moment. There are things that energetically lift us and other things that weigh us down. How we interact with energy is one thing we can look at whenever we experience any sort of malady we can think of, even being a victim.

This week I am talking with Dr. Marina Kostina about the energy of the choices we make. If everything we do has an energy cost associated with it then every choice, we make is filled with potential and if we can make better energetic choices we can move in a better direction. We all follow energy but sometimes when that disrupts follow our “rules” it can feel quite uncomfortable, and thus we turn from feeling though it and act upon it.

Questions:

1. Where have you interacted with your guiding energy? Did you follow it or did you turn from it for a more intense “better” feeling?

2. What can be gained by following an energetic pull, even if that might invite a feeling of discomfort?

3. What actions are being asked of you by this energy, that you are either avoiding or afraid of considering?

Find out more about Dr. Marina Kostina at https://www.drmarinakostina.com/

If you are a parent or the adult child of a parent you are caring for or if you are a professional caregiver in any field, you face the very real threat of burnout nipping at your heals every day. This podcast can help you take a step back from that and get a wider perspective but working with me on a 4 session Recover Yourself package can finally put to bed any fear of burning out. Once you know how to recover yourself out of any situation, you’ll begin to gain more with every little thing you give. You’ll become unshakable and avoid conflict and stress without even knowing they were an option.

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So what is a pacifier? It is anything you do to soothe yourself when you are feeling uncomfortable. Some of these, like drugs, alcohol, or gambling have been known to cause serious problems in some people’s lives. That is primarily because people feel extreme levels of discomfort and want soothing. That, and the amount of dopamine, and other chemicals, these substances and activities are known to release, are such, that the person can easily be taken well beyond comfort and straight to escape. When these two aspects feet each other, the pain and the soothing, it could be a recipe for disaster.

Today, in our consumer society, we’ve learned so much about how to activate these dopamine responses in people that almost everything we engage in is connected to “feeling good.” This creates a dangerous environment because if something doesn’t engage a dopamine response it is likely that a person will feel discomfort because they have an expectation of things making them “feel good.” It is this that then turns people to a pacifier.

The thing about pacifiers is that they are often the things we enjoy doing. However, there are times when we will engage them less as a healthy enjoyment and more as an escape. Duston and I talk about reading and exercise being used as pacifiers as well as drugs and alcohol. We have to understand that it is within the expectation to be comfortable, or happy, that can get us turning to our pacifiers and those can turn out to become addictions in our lives.

I agree that there are some substances that are far easier to become addicted to than others. However, in the world of addiction, we are going to want to step away from trying to define things as addictive or not addictive. This sort of approach has primarily been used to allow people to engage in pacifiers, at a greater level than is healthy, simply because they are not classified as addictive. These definitions also create bias, as well as stigma, depending on what drug you are engaging. If we look at “Cali Sober” there is a further stigmatizing of opioids and alcohol, which are deemed addictive, while marijuana and psilocybin as seen as saviors due to the widespread idea they are not addictive. As it relates to stigma, the idea of being addicted to a substance frame the one who suffers from addiction as weak.

Questions:

• Throughout your life you have had many different pacifiers, some of which you still use some of which you do not. Can you spot 5 things that you have used as pacifiers throughout your life?

• Of those 5 things, can you identify times you are drawn to use them? If they are no longer options in your life can you identify what made you stop using this in particular? Did something replace it?

• Can you identify in your life, an action or substance that you may sometimes use as a pacifier, but other times is simply for the enjoyment of engaging in it? What are the differences between the two ways of engaging?

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It is so important for us to look inward especially as caregivers of any kind. We want so often to be of help simply because we may feel lost ourselves. When we look to help are we looking to solve the problems of others? Or are we looking to be a temporary post for them to lean on while they get their legs under them again?

I have spoken with many people on this podcast about how the role of the teacher, as we have grown to understand them, is changing if not being removed completely from our experience. I noticed it a number of years ago as the industry of the personal coach started emerging. It is a tell-tale sign that something is amiss when everyone is clambering at something that previously was paid no attention. Today we are being called to be ourselves in a new way, whereas a decade ago it was “Be Yourself – as long as it fits into what we can understand.” Today we are seeing that still spread like wildfire of course but under the surface of that you can witness the next wave of “Be yourself and I don’t even need to tell you, or show you, what that means.” We are evolving and if you have a keen eye for who you are and how you are connected to the rest of us, then you know it’s true.

If you are a parent or the adult child of a parent you are caring for or if you are a professional caregiver in any field, you have the very real threat of burnout nipping at your heals every day.

Questions

- What actions do you take in your life that you would never consider questioning? What would happen if you were to question them?

- Can you name something that you learned by observing or experiencing as a child, and have previously expressed as something you were "Taught?" As an adult is that, which you learned, accurate? How does that lesson show up in your life today? Can you change the meaning of that experience?

- In your own words describe what a frame of reference is. How has that changed since you were a child? In the last year? In the last week?

As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. These starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/

The most important relationship we have is with ourselves. Now that I’ve said that let’s look at romantic relationships in recovery. You’re move to recovery was done for you; I hope. Your partner is going to experience a lot of benefits from your hard work but that doesn’t mean they don’t have work to do as well. In this episode I am talking with Chantal Jauvin about her new book Love Without Martinis which is all about relationships after treatment.

In it she lays out the ASCENT approach which stands for

§ Assess your readiness to change.

§ Structure your time.

§ Create your community.

§ Engage in your life.

§ Nurture your spirituality.

§ Treasure your partnership.

Each one of these is for each individual to achieve on their own, this isn’t one sided because if your relationship is one sided something is wrong.

You can get your copy of Love without Martinis anywhere you buy your books for further links visit Chantal’s website here https://chantaljauvin.com/product/love-without-martinis/

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The Long Game is not always something that is obvious. The world around us, especially here in the United States, wants us to focus on the Short Game. The Short Game gets us leaning on others, Google, status, money, and all sorts of things to help us feel more comfortable. We can fool ourselves into thinking the Short Game is the goal, like marriage. When the Long Game, which is hidden behind the Short Game, is where we are going to experience the most fulfillment. As it relates to marriage, the Long Game is wanting what is best for ourselves and our partner regardless of the status of the marriage. If we cannot embrace that idea we may be playing a Short Game.

This relates to our recovery as well, if our goal is to count days, or define our lives from the perspective of a beverage choice, we are playing a dangerous Short Game. Your recovery is going to offer the world so much more when we can embrace the idea that we are recovering ourselves. I say this because you are much more to the world than your consumer loyalty.

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a. What is a Short Game in your life today? Is that contributing to a Long Game?

b. How would you like others to change to make your life, or the world, better? What expectations do you hold that cause you to believe this is a reasonable request to have of others? Would you be willing to change to make the world a better place for those people that you want to change?

c. How are you conceding to the beliefs of others? (this often looks like arguing an irrelevant short game rather than focusing on a Long Game) How can you begin to focus on the Long Game? What would that do to how you approach the situation you are interested in altering?

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Zero Tolerance is kind of a big deal. Like trickle-down economics, it doesn’t work but we (our society) keep on working it. When we turn away from the facts around zero tolerance like it causes more harm than good, which has been proven time and again, we are just kicking the can down the road. You see, Zero Tolerance is a bill that is going to have to be paid, but, and this is just like addiction, if we don’t face it head-on and make the changes we need to make now, well, we’re just paying the interest and the principle is still due.  

Every day a child is born into a zero tolerant culture we are teaching them to treat themselves and others with zero tolerance. This is a vicious cycle that, if we started to address today would take at least a generation to start seeing the effects of that change. The United States, maybe the world, is not quite ready to throw out zero tolerance, but you can start to face it in your life.  

Dr. Stephanie Rose bio https://uca.edu/healthsci/facultystaff/rose/  

You can access UCA’s addiction studies department on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/UCAaddictionstudies and check them out if you are interested in their online program where people can become certified Addiction counselors with their Bachelor in Addiction Studies program. 

Learn more by attending programs offered by the UCA Addiction Studies Program. 5 free online webinars are being offered this Summer to those interested in attending. The topics include:  

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If we insist on waiting for the best time to do what we want to do or to do what is good for us, we’ll never get around to it. There is no perfect time to do anything. So, any time is the perfect time to do everything. I cannot tell you how frustrating it is to hear people use the phrase “Bucket List,” if you want to do something start doing it now. And that is no different when it comes to our vices.   

The last 2 years I spent smoking I did not enjoy it, but it was an identity I carried, and it was just too scary to change that identity. And, although I am ashamed of this, it took my girlfriend at the time to announce where was quitting to get me off my ass and do the same. I do not want to sit around and wait to do something that I want to do and that will put me in a healthier orbit.  

This episode is with Allison Walsh, the Vice President of Business Development and Branding for Advanced Recovery Systems based in Central Florida. Allison is an author, podcast host, and former Miss Florida. Her story includes a battle with Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia Nervosa, and with 19 years in recovery, she has a lot of perspectives to offer, from her experience both personally and professionally.   

We are unwrapping a lot in this episode and addressing the idea that, on paper, there is never a good time to start a transformational journey. Luckily, we can always start right now. No matter what is in our way, or on our mind, we can do it and it only takes making up our mind to do it, once we do that, the first step takes itself.  

Allison’s Podcast She Believed She Could www.shebelievedshecouldpodcast.com   

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