In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy discuss one of the most dangerous character defects: Denial. Denial holds all of us back from true sobriety in our recovery, especially sex and porn addiction. If we are in denial, we are not able to face the daily challenges that will inevitably pull us back into the grip of active addiction. Jeffrey explains how denial and pride have held him back from the sobriety he has been seeking in his life, and Troy gives his take using 12 step recovery program principles.

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We apologize for the gaps between episodes where we miss a month every once in a while. The two of us try our best to keep the podcast going amidst our daily lives, and our commitment to our own recovery. We have hired some more help to administrate the podcast and make it much smoother for us, so we hope moving forward we will be able to publish episodes more consistently for all you who listen.

We see that you all enjoy the podcast. We see all the countries you're from, and we are astounded at the reach we have amongst our fans despite being a fledgling podcast. We love you all and appreciate the fact that you "keep coming back" to listen! Let's all make it a sober day today! One day at a time...

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Ep 42 - To God, to Ourselves and to another Human Being

In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy discuss the depth behind this phrase within the fifth step, and how to apply this thinking to our daily life in recovery. Addiction is a threefold disease: the allergy of the body, the obsession of the mind, and the spiritual malady. So we have a threefold solution: receving support from God, ourselves, and another human being. In whatever conception of God (Higher Power) that works for us. The fifth step is not a one time thing we finish with our sponsor and then move on. The twelfth step says "practicing these principles within our lives", which implies that we can take the learnings of each step with us to use within our day to day, moment to moment journey of recovery.

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Jeffrey and Troy talk about how in 12 step programs, we are encouraged to define our own conception of our higher power. Nobody will force on you a certain belief system in 12 step programs, which is a relief to many newcomers. They discuss how their own conceptions of God have changed over the course of their recovedy journey, touch on atheism in recovery, as well as give advice to newcomers who are just getting started with "the God concept". Hope you enjoy this episode!

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In this epsiode, Jeffrey and Troy discuss the somewhat touchy subject of day count. Day count in AA or other substance abuse programs represents a tangible metric of sobriety. But what about in the Sex and Porn addiction space? Day count can be somewhat difficult to determine because there are so many behaviors that may be unhealthy for us, rather than simply one thing. Jeffrey and Troy share their experiences with day count in all of their program contexts, and intend to relay a message of hope and self-compassion for all of their listeners.

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In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy share their experience around the idea of "wearing life like a loose garment". Sometimes taking a step back to recover from life, and even from "recovery fatigue" is important. To stay sober, we also have to live our lives, do our work, and pursue our interests, as well as embrace the 12 step tools. Jeffrey and Troy discuss the importance of finding balance in life and recovery in order to "live life like a loose garment".

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In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy are accompanied by the legendary Bill and Doctor Bob, straight from 1935. The four of them discuss the sixth step, and what it means to be "entirely ready". This step is often overlooked, but it is critical in overcoming the character defects that keep us mired in our addictive behaviors. Even in sobriety, these defects can prevent us from living a contented, happy life.

Also Jeffrey and Troy apologize for not getting an episode out in December! Jeffrey started a new job recently and things are a bit crazy. We're starting the new year strong and we will keep posting to do our best to spread the message of recovery!

Thank you for a great 2024 and let's get ready for a sober 2025!

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Jeffrey and Troy discuss how the internet has dramatically changed the landscape of access to sexually stimulating content. The internet is a dangerous place for sex and porn addicts, and the two discuss their experiences around how to define stimulating content as "porn", and admit powerlessness over ALL of it. Whether or not it would normally be considered pornography.

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Jeffrey and Troy discuss the benefits of a creative practice to help us stay free from our addictive behaviors. When we are living our lives and creating, we stay away from isolating and self-destruction.

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Jeffrey and Troy discuss the dangers of how our addiction continues to progress, getting worse and worse. Because of that, we need our recovery to be equally progressive; engaging deeper each day to improve our quality of life and reach closer towards maintaining the state of serenity that our higher power wants for all of us.

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In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy, along with their esteemed guest Bill W, discuss the important slogan of “shame to grace”. They touch on how shame drags us back into the addiction, and how we find hope in recovery and gain the grace we need to stay sober from our higher power.

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