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In this message from the Breaking Chains series at Redemption Church, Pastor Chris Fluitt explores how real freedom begins by naming the chain and breaking the shame that keeps us stuck.
This message is for anyone tired of hiding, tired of pretending, and ready for real change that lasts.
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Name the Chain, Break the Shame
Breaking Chains – Freedom Without Shame
Pastor Chris Fluitt
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Message Transcript – Name the Chain, Break the Shame
Breaking Chains 1: Name the Chain. Break the Shame.
Pastor Chris Fluitt, Redemption Church Plano Tx, February 1, 2026
Key Scriptures (NIV): Genesis 2:25, Genesis 3:7-10, John 8:31-36, 2 Timothy 1:16
Big Idea: You cannot heal what you are ashamed to name.
Freedom begins when shame loses its power.
Welcome to Redemption Church. My name is Chris Fluitt, and I’m really glad you’re here.
Our heart as a church is simple: to help people find and follow Jesus. We believe that happens best when we are honest about our struggles and bold about the hope we have in Him.
Today we’re starting a new series called Breaking Chains: Freedom Without Shame.
Breaking Chains – a sermon series from Redemption Church about addiction, habits, shame, and real freedom.
If you feel stuck, tired, or unsure what’s next, I want you to hear this clearly: you are not alone, and you don’t have to stay where you are.
If you feel stuck, tired, or unsure what’s next… I have good news for you!
You are not alone.
You are in the right place.
You are in a NO SHAME zone.
Before we get into today’s message, here’s where we’re headed this month. No mystery, no guessing.
SERIES DIRECTION
Feb 8 – Super Bowl Party + Halftime Worship
Community on purpose. Invite people who would never come to a normal church service.Feb 15 – Lies That Lock Us In
It’s impossible to LIVE different if you don’t BELIEVE different.Feb 22 – Becoming Free + Helping Others Break Free
Freedom that lasts. Freedom that multiplies.That’s our direction.
Mark you calendar. Make plans. Invite your friends!
BREAKING CHAINS GUIDE
Freedom Without Shame – a free guide from Redemption Church to help you understand addiction, habits, and shame and take next steps toward real change.
Alongside this series, we created a short Freedom Without Shame guide.
It’s science-informed and Scripture-aligned.
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Take 10 minutes with it this week.
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We do not just want you inspired on Sunday.
We want you equipped for real change.
Let’s get into today’s message.
Name the Chain. Break the Shame.
Name the Chain, Break the Shame – Week 1 of the Breaking Chains series at Redemption Church.
Everyone has a chain.
Everyone knows shame.
Most people carry both in silence.
I want to start by saying this: I know what it is like to have chains and shame.
I’ve fought several addictions in my life.
And I’m not telling you that for shock value. I’m telling you that because I get it.
Fighting habits takes a lot of energy and focus.
You can white-knuckle it for a while. You can make promises. You can try harder.
But fighting shame is different.
Shame doesn’t just say, “You did something wrong.”
Shame says, “There’s something wrong with you.”
And once shame gets its hooks in, it pushes you into hiding.
It convinces you to stay quiet.
It tells you you’re the only one.
It tells you if people really knew, they’d walk away.
And sometimes it even tells you God is done with you.
And as long as shame stays in control, chains stay in place.
Most of us are not cruising through life. We’re coping.
Get Real Stats
74% of American adults started the year trying to change at least one habit. Most people want to change something.Psychologists estimate about 45% of our daily behavior is habitual. Almost half of what we do runs on autopilot. Habits run our life!National health data shows 1 in 6 people have a substance use disorder.The majority of people experience shame around their struggles and failures. Shame is one of the main reasons people hide instead of ask for help.Confession and communication bring positive effects in the majority of cases. People who honestly talk or write about painful experiences often see measurable improvements compared to people who keep everything inside.Now, it’s easy to hear those numbers and think,
“Yeah, that’s the world out there. But we’re Christians. We’re different.”
But being in church does not erase this struggle.
Followers of Jesus wrestle with habits, addictions, and shame too.
So this is not just a “them” problem.
It’s an “us” problem. Whether it’s obvious or hidden, each of us is dealing with a chain and a shame.
Does God have anything to say about this subject of chains and shame?
1. God’s original design – no shame
“Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” (Genesis 2:25)
That was God’s design. God created the world and called it GOOD.
Adam and Eve were…
Fully seen. Fully known. Fully loved.
No hiding. No fear. No shame.
Shame was not part of God’s original plan. What changed?
2. When sin enters, shame follows. (Genesis 3)
The serpent deceives.
Adam and Eve disobey.
And immediately everything shifts.
Genesis 3:7-10 shows the pattern:
When God calls out, Adam says:
“I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.” (Genesis 3:10)
Sin didn’t just break rules.
Sin broke relationship.
And shame was the immediate result.
Sin leads to shame.
Shame leads to hiding.
Hiding strengthens chains.
And if the enemy can keep you hiding, he can keep you stuck.
Fast forward to Jesus in John 8.
3. Jesus names chains without shaming people
“Everyone who sins is a slave to sin…
So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” (John 8:31-36)
Jesus does not minimize the chain.
He names it: slavery.
But He does not shame the person wearing the chain.
He acknowledges the bondage, then offers freedom.
Because Jesus knows something we forget:
Freedom begins with honesty, not pretending.
Throughout the Gospels we see this NO SHAME pattern:
No Shame Pattern
Jesus touches the uncleanHe eats with sinnersHe defends the woman caught in adulteryHe restores dignity before He corrects behaviorJesus never shamed broken people.
He exposed lies so people could be healed.
And on the cross, Jesus carries our shame.
Shame didn’t come from Jesus.
Freedom did.
4. When people are ashamed, they distance themselves
“May the Lord show mercy to the household of Onesiphorus, because he often refreshed me and was not ashamed of my chains.” (2 Timothy 1:16)
In 2 Timothy 1:16, Paul talks about a man named Onesiphorus. Look at Paul’s description of Onesiphorus… He often refreshed me and was NOT ASHAMED OF MY CHAINS.
That line matters because it implies something else was happening too.
Paul was in jail for “the crime” of telling others about Jesus… Some people were ashamed of Paul’s chains.
Some people stayed away.
Some people looked the other way.
Some people did not want to be associated with him.
But Onesiphorus was different.
He didn’t pretend the chains weren’t there.
He didn’t ghost Paul.
He didn’t say, “Call me when you’re doing better.”
No embarrassment.
No distancing.
No avoiding.
That is a picture of gospel culture.
Not shocked.
Not judgmental.
Not stepping back.
So let me ask you gently but honestly:
What is the chain you have been hiding in shame? Maybe it’s:
porn you keep going back to and swearing you’re done withthe drinking you keep justifyingthe weed you keep minimizingthe gambling you keep hidingthe anger you can’t controlthe scrolling you can’t stopthe spending you keep covering upthe secret you hope no one finds outthe pattern you promised you’d never repeatthe lie you keep believing about yourself or about God“Why do you have to make it awkward Pastor? Naming all of these things is awkward.”
You cannot heal what you are ashamed to name.
Freedom doesn’t begin when you try harder.
Freedom begins when you stop hiding.
That does not mean you tell everyone everything.
It means you refuse to carry it alone.
Maybe your first step is to write it down.
Maybe it’s to say it to God in a raw, honest prayer.
Maybe it’s to share it with a trusted friend, a leader, or a Connect Group.
Hiding is not the path to freedom.
Confession and Communication is the path.
THE CULTURE WE ARE BUILDING
This is a shame-free place.
This is the kind of church we’re committed to being.
We are not ashamed of your chain.
We are not here to label you.
We are not here to gossip about you.
We are not here to keep you at a distance until you look put together.
You don’t have to be fixed to belong.
You don’t have to clean up before you show up.
You don’t have to pretend to be okay.
At Redemption, we believe:
Honesty is the doorway to healing.
So here’s what we practice:
Chains lose their power when they are named in the presence of grace.
We’re not here to expose people.
We’re here to help people experience freedom in Jesus.
Who is ready to be free?
Who is ready to be a part of a SHAME FREE and POWERFUL church?
Who is ready to be prayed for by people who do not judge them?
Who is ready to pray freedom over someone else?
3 Shame Free Actions
1. Name the chain
In prayer or in writing, name what you’ve been hiding. Call it what it is, not what you wish it was.
2. Break the silence
Tell one safe person. A leader, a trusted friend, a spouse, a group. Refuse to carry this alone.
3. Step into freedom
In a moment we’re going to worship.
And while we worship, I want to invite you to do something brave.
Not because you’re the worst.
Because you’re done hiding.
We believe Jesus still frees people.
We believe chains still break.
We believe the Holy Spirit still transforms hearts.
So during worship, our prayer team will be ready.
Isolation strengthens chains.
Community weakens shame.
Jesus brings real freedom.
Download the Freedom Without Shame Guide
Real change doesn’t come from shame. We created a free resource to help you take practical next steps toward freedom.
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Some people are ready to:
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No pressure. No shame. Just real people taking real steps toward freedom.
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