Lets be honest here.. We all have boarded the struggle bus at some point in life. Sometimes it even takes us awhile to hop off. 

This week I didn't know what to talk about because I gave been on the struggle bus like it is my full time job. 

Then I reminded myself that everyone is aloud to have an off day, or week, and goodness can still be shared through authentic off season. 

Here is the deal, we can not make this messy place a comfy home here where we stay. Allow yourself to be there, and then bust through to keep moving forward.

Remind yourself that worries and anxieties of the world do not just go away, and there will always be something in each season of life. You will have to learn the skill of over coming to keep going.

If you can not control it, let it go! When you allow the worry to overcome you, and you have zero control over it, it then controls you.

Step back, give yourself time to feel the emotions, but do not act out of the emotions. Act out of the truth you know and believe. 

Take the time to talk yourself off the crazy struggle bus. Get back into the stride of working for the life and the YOU, you are working for! 

You can have it all! When you choose, set your sights, and put in the WORK! 

No one just wakes up with their "dream" life. They have to work to create it.

If God puts the desire in your soul, then He has given you the ability to achieve it. To DO IT.

- The Balance

How to keep your priorities straight on the journey

1- Make a list of your "non-negotiables" 

These are the things that you WILL NOT give in on for any sized goal. Example: Faith, Family, Self worth.

2-  Now list out your "adjustable"

These are the things the are important, but can be moved around to fit into the season of life your in. Example: Night out, gym, vacations. 

3- The "fillers" 

These are the things that do play any importance in your life, and are there just because. Example: Netflix, Social Media. 

Making this list helps you keep your priorities at the top, while knowing where you can give (sacrifice) to be moving forward. 

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Leave me your thoughts in the comments and reviews. 

Thank you for sharing life with me, friend! 

This is the perfect topic for starting a New Year out fresh! 

5 keys to KEEPING your MOTIVATION through out the whole course of your year, and working towards your goals of growth.

Getting really excited in the moment is why you start, in today's chat, we are going to talk how to keep that energy! 

What happens when the energy fades?

This is one of the greatest areas of growth for me over the last year or so, and looking back now, I see these 5 things as the foundation of what I learned to overcome! 

Save this for a rainy day, when you need a pep-talk.

I will be your personal hype-girl ALWAYS! 

I believe in you and ALL of things you set your mind to this year! 

Lets connect! Find me on Instagram @efined.to.shine 

Much love to you, friend!  

We are almost done with 2020! Most are saying worst year ever, I say it all depends on your perspective! 

Lets talk about how to see ALL of the positive this year has brought you, and how to start this next year with BIG BOLD intentions! 

Where you mind goes your energy flows! 

Todays episode is another piece of the communication puzzle.

How true growth shows its self in the way we speak to, and treat, others. 

We are talking about how to stand up for what you believe in, AND still communicate with confidence, grace, and love.

Our emotions change with the rising sun, so we must learn to communicate out of our own integrity, versus our emotions. 

I want to connect with you! Fine me at  Instagram and tell me how you can connect with this weeks episode. 

Today we are talking about raising your ceiling, setting the bar high,  and shooting for the stars. 

There is always room to grow when you are constantly raising the ceiling.

Don't get trapped in the limitations of your own mind.

Today we are going to talk about the how. How do we set our bar high, and achieve it?

3 things that we can use from right where we are. 

Our past - Our present - Our future

We are here to grow, without expectations and boarders, into the best version of ourselves! 

START NOW AND DON'T STOP UNTIL YOU GET THERE

Couple talk with Jordan and I(Alexcis) about love languages.

Check at the bottom of the notes for the link to the book "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman and visit the site to take the quiz.

Where we are always growing into the best version of ourselves without expectations or perfectionism. 

How you can put another piece to the puzzle for a healthier, and more open, communication.

Healthy communication creates freedom from misunderstandings, and misunderstandings is where a large part of disagreements/ disappointments stem from 

Find the way you naturally accept love, and how your spouse needs you to show love! 

 Take the Quiz NOW

Book by Gary Chapman

Being grateful and content with what you have, and how far you have come, gives you faith to keep going. ALWAYS be GRATEFUL never settle. 

Are you the comfort zone type who finds it hard to push yourself towards growth? OR Are you the type reaching for more, that you sometimes forget to live in your present life?

In today's episode we with talk about how to find your groove in working towards your goals with gratitude and contentment along the way.

You may have the faith to fly, BUT gratitude keeps you grounded! 

Lets connect through Insta @refined.to.shine 

Tell me what this weeks episode means to you. 

Lets chat identity! This is one of my favorite topics to talk about! 

There is SO much power in knowing who YOU are and living for that, not for a "type". 

There is no such thing as "normal" or "average" 

YOU get to be exactly who YOU are and that is ALWAYS enough!

STOP chasing the image of who you want be, and start living in the person that YOU already are. 

YOU know YOU better then anyone, and only YOU can choose where you go from here. 

BE intentional 

 BE authentic 

BE teachable

I am here with my husband Jordan talking REAL life relationship! Intro to who we are and how we got here.

On todays Episode we will talk about the 5 pillars we believe can give you a solid foundation to build a relationship on that can withstand the test of time. WE believe that there is nothing that a relationship, built on solid foundation, can not overcome and come out stronger on the other side! 

Now, there are a million and seven things that go into a strong and healthy relationship. BUT these are the few that come to mind when we look back over the course of our own relationship that has been test and tried, and growing stronger everyday! 

If you are not yet dating or married this is perfect! This can give your an idea of what is important to you in a life partner. You can go into a relationship with confidence in what you are looking for. 

If you are dating with the intentions to marry, this is a MUST have conversation before getting married. Being on the same fundamental foundation gives you so much to build on in your time together. Especially when you get past the surface talk.

If you are currently married, this is something we STILL keep as our foundation to always come back to when we need it. To stay grounded in what we see for our life and family. It is sort of like our compass, to keep us going in the right direction.

Here are the 5 pillars, and we talk in depth about each, and why we see them as important. 

1 - Communication 

2 - Belief/Religion 

3 - Family Dynamic/Kids

4 - Expectations/Role

5 - Finances/Life goals