The lessons are simple. We must always communicate effectively, honestly snd lovingly even when it’s hard. Otherwise if we avoid the discomfort of a difficult conversation, we choose the pain of losing that relationship and the latter is far worse. It is also very important to be selfish sometimes and put ourselves first, especially if one is a people pleaser, which I am recovering from. Being selfish from time to time will prevent moments of extremes - being extremely selfish, which may leave you depleted and is a betray of self, or being extremely selfish and mean which no one should ever tolerate.