On today’s episode of finding healing and redefining your identity. Elizabeth and I shared very practical steps in order to find healing after rape/sexual abuse.

What made her discover that she was being raped so late in life?

We then proceeded to tackle issues centred around raising awareness and educating children at early life stages.

We tackled other questions like:-

How rape/sexual abuse affect your relationship?

Why do rape victims stay silent?

Why speaking up is so powerful?

Hence, we also shed light on the importance and power of speaking up, as well as conquering guilt, shame and fear and practical steps in finding healing and redefining your identity.

Love always,

Refocused

On today’s episode of Daddy issues, we are joined with an amazing guest, who shares her story on being abused by a father figure in her life. She is real, transparent and candid with the psychological scars it left on her, but not only does she share her vulnerability with us, she also shares her newly found hope, opening up about how she conquered and is still in the process of overcoming her bruised past. Sexual abuse is a monster we all have to collectively fight, we digressed into feminism, rape culture, consent, upbringing, the me-too movement and all other areas that intertwine. I hope this message lightens the faint-hearted and uplifts the overwhelmed. Love always, Refocused

In today’s episode we tackled the general question often asked in relationships, “how does one achieve a healthy compromise” if at all compromise can ever be healthy. Also we addressed if one must always lower their standards in order to achieve a healthy compromise!

And we finally deconstructed the difference between tolerance and compromise. I hope you enjoyed the segment as much we enjoyed recording it. Love always, Kuku

What are you bringing to the table???Last week we spoke about the ideal qualities we ladies love to see in a man. This week’s episode is a hard to swallow pill for us ladies, as often times we desire people’s sons to measure up to a standard that we fail to live up to! How can we be better? How can we end the double standards we’ve created? No! we are not perfect, neither are we trying to be. However it’s okay to be a master piece, and still a work in progress. So let this message not only alert you on the short comings in your behaviour and attitudes, but inspire you to become a better version of yourself, firstly for yourself and then for the man you deserve. Love always, Kuku

Join I and Stephanie in this educative episode, that will assist you in your choice for an ideal partner.

What is an ideal man?

What are the top qualities we look for in a partner?

Why do our “types on paper” and our “types in reality” often lack correlation?

Why do we settle for the men we choose? When all is said and done, what really matters in choosing an ideal man...

Love always,

Your amazing host Kuku!

Shooting your shot has become a real trend nowadays, however what are the common misconceptions around this topic? Why should you shoot your shot and why should you absolutely not try it. Well I’ll be sharing my personal experience as well as lessons I learned and common misconceptions about the art of shot shooting 🤣 So Grab your popcorn and enjoy ❤️

#love #shootyourshot #confusethedevil #nomoreclownery #valentines #stillsingle

The new year resolution culture is not new to any one, we all get hyped and aim to achieve set goals for the new year, but how well do we do in reaching our targets? Join Boitumelo Mocheko and I as we go through the year, regularly reviewing our goals every month. This may be the fool proof accountability system you never thought you needed in order to achieve your goals. Love always, Refocused x

In this episode, we are joined with one of the most amazing people I’ve ever met, Boitumelo Mocheko. We deconstruct the societal standards of beauty, and encourage you to establish unique and healthy standards. We are transparent with what we struggle with and how we conquer certain insecurities. How insecurities impact a relationship is also discussed, with tips on how to better your relationship and uplift each other. Please pardon the quality, love always xx

This is a brief introduction of what this podcast is about and what to expect from it. Today I shared lessons I learned last week on what’s worth holding on to, what’s not worth holding on to “ and the courage to know the difference. I also remember I didn’t get to say what I heard from the pastor, lmao he said “self control is not the ability to control one self, but the opportunity to choose who will control you” So what are you holding on to so tightly, and what have you awarded the power and authority to control you ?