Regret is one of our most powerful feelings and regrettably one of the most misunderstood.

Regret covers a myriad of circumstances from wishing we would have eaten oatmeal instead of the cinnamon danish this morning for breakfast to feeling remorse for not telling a loved one how much we loved them before they died.

The Four Categories of Regret:

1. Foundational Regrets - did not make choices that give enough stability and security

Not saving enough money or not paying attention to health.

“If only I had more…”

2. Boldness Regrets - did not take a chance on doing something I should have

Starting a business, not asking someone out, not speaking up

“If only took a risk …”

People who took risks and failed still were glad they took the risk because it taught them something

3. Moral Regret - did something they should not have or did not do something they should have

Affairs, bullying, stealing, cheating

“If I had that decision back I would have…”

4. Connection Regrets - did not stay in touch and as a result we drifted apart.

Disassociated with family and/or friends

“If I would have stayed connected to…”

It is not too late to reach out and awkwardness is most often rewarding to those who take the initiative.