“I let myself be alone, I let myself feel it, not as something to be ashamed of or think I was broken, but as a moment to just be.”
In this premiere episode of Reign Check, I open up about my journey from people-pleasing and escaping loneliness to finding power in solitude.
For years, I believed being alone meant being unwanted. I threw big parties, bought friendships, and constantly shapeshifted to fit in - hoping it would make me feel seen and accepted. But underneath it all was a fear of sitting with my true self.
In this episode, I share the moments that shifted everything for me: when I realized that solitude isn’t a punishment - it’s a pathway to self-discovery.
Tune in as I unpack how I learned to stop chasing validation and start embracing independence for what it truly is: a beautiful and liberating thing.
- The chameleon effect: How I changed myself just to fit in
- Material validation - Using gifts to "buy" friendship and acceptance
- How Reign felt most lonely when surrounded by people
- The unhealthy habit of being “busy” to escape my insecurities
- Finding more meaning in a few authentic connections
- The importance of surrounding myself with people who lift me up
- Solitude is seen as a strength and empowering rather than shameful
- Learning who I truly am when not performing for others
- Accepting that embracing aloneness is a process, not an overnight change
“Even though I wanted to be seen so much, I actually hid myself from the world so much more.”
“Once it started getting into the point where I was buying love for people, it started becoming I was forcing myself to be seen. I was forcing myself to be heard. I was forcing other people to look at me—And that's where you start disappearing.”
“I get to be okay with the fact that at the end of the day, I'm always going to be here for myself through it all, through all the chameleon effects, through all the popularity stages, through all the weirdo stages, I am always here for myself.”
“Instead of just trying to fit in or trying to surround myself with people who didn't fulfill me or didn't make me feel wanted or wanted to be there, I let myself be alone. I let myself feel it.”
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