If you’re setting goals or resolutions for 2025, this episode is for you!

This year, I was asked a question that stopped me in my tracks and shifted my entire approach to goal setting. The end result was goals that made me feel joyful instead of shitty.

Now, I’m sharing that question with you.

You’ll Learn:

• My theme for the year
• Why thinking you need to “fix yourself” will sabotage your goals
• How to use the 7 “life areas” to set meaningful goals 
• The reflection question that stopped me in my tracks

Listen to learn the process I used to create a vision, goals and some actions steps for 2025. 

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This year, I was asked a question that stopped me in my tracks and shifted my entire approach to goal setting.

What about your life doesn’t need to improve or change?

When I read the question, I immediately felt myself push against it. I was like, “Oh, I don't want to think about what’s going well.” To be honest, it took me a couple of days to get back to this question. 

Maybe you’re like me when it comes to goal setting: I usually approach them from a kind of a “manager type” - let's find out all the problems in this system, and let's address those problems. 

I usually start with questions like: Where are the gaps? Where are the problems? What are the things that are going wrong? What needs a Re-Solution? The “fix it, change it, stop it, solve it” thing. 

But this year, when I opened up Ameila Knott’s “Reimagining Resolutions” workbook and she asked me to look at “What about my life doesn't need to improve or change?" I saw very clearly how much I was using goal-setting as a “whip” to compare, measure, and criticize myself.

(This workbook is SOOO good, and Amelia is sharing it with the Calm Mama community for free! Get your copy of Reimagining Resolutions by clicking here.)  

 

Reimagining Resolutions in 2025

Creating goals and dreams from a negative headspace of scarcity and “not good enough-ness” is like letting our inner critic give us a pep-talk. Not fun. (My inner critic can be pretty mean, although she’s much nicer than she used to be.) 

When we let our most negative self define us, we’re left feeling “less than” and hopeless. No wonder most of us give up on our goals by mid-January…

But this year, very cool things happened when I spent time reflecting on my life from a place of gratitude, hope, satisfaction and contentment. Mostly I didn’t feel like shit. Instead I felt so joyful!

The best thing you can do for yourself right now is...

• Imagining that your life is GREAT exactly as it is today. 
• Acknowledging what you’ve already achieved and created. 
• Giving yourself credit for the things you’ve overcome. 

This is the mindset you want to be in BEFORE you think about what you want to create or do in 2025.

From that headspace, you can take a look at the 7 major life areas (Spirit, Mind & Emotions, Body, Relationships, Livelihood, Play, and Space & Things) and decide if you WANT to work on anything new or different. I talk all about these in the episode. 

You don’t have to do any of this, btw. You can let everything be good exactly as it is. Contentment is a super power.

 

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