Rejection, The “Pullback”, and Texting with Hillary

Welcome to episode 201 of the Love Live Connection podcast. If you are dating, or have ever dated, you are probably familiar with the feeling of rejection. My wonderful client, Hillary, jumps on a call with me to discuss how to deal with rejection, “ghosting”, and texting expectations. Hillary tells me about a recent date that faded into the ether and how it’s impacting her interaction with a new guy. Together we discover that old patterns can reappear in unexpected ways and I give her some tips on what to do when that happens.  2:18 - What is the “pullback”?  5:45 - Be sure to check out my totally free 60-minute workshop, “New Year, New Boo”.  7:30 - Welcome Hillary! She asks, “How should I deal with rejection?” and, “How do I know if it’s pullback or just busy-ness?”  12:00 - I explain that rejection hurts, whether it’s an ego sting or dashing our dreams of what could be.  15:50 - It’s important to sit with those negative feelings but don’t devolve into a pity party.  18:30 - Hard lesson: Stop getting advice from friends.   23:30 - We determine that Hillary is seeking validation through daily communication with her dates.  26:35 - Finding someone who texts as often as you want probably means they have other qualities you do not want.  29:20 - How doing inner-child work can help reduce our anxiety around fear from rejection.  37:35 - The coffee pot problem: My favorite analogy for real versus imagined issues.  39:40 - The symptom versus the cause. What triggers you isn’t always what’s really bothering you.  After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Register for the FREE workshop, “New Year, New Boo”, right here.  Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.