On this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I sit down with Cole Grace, a combat veteran and author who knows firsthand how inner resilience is built—moment by moment, and thought by thought. Cole shared his guiding mantra: “Don’t freak out, figure it out,” a powerful quote rooted in his time working with roadside bombs in the Army. We explored how this simple phrase shifted his focus from fear and worry to problem-solving, both in high-stakes combat situations and the frustrations of everyday life, like getting a flat tire. Cole opened up about the neuroscience behind mindset changes, the importance of practicing tools like gratitude and mission statements when you’re feeling good, and the reality that even those with intense life experience still need reminders to reframe negativity. If you’re seeking practical wisdom for handling stress, changing your mindset, or finding meaning during tough moments, Cole’s stories will resonate. His journey is a testament to building inner calm—even when life feels chaotic on the outside.

Connect With Cole Grace

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@cgrace

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Chapters

00:00 Writing A Personal Mission Statement
00:41 Practicing Tools Before You Need Them
00:57 Welcome And Guest Introduction
01:32 Cole’s Story And Background
01:40 Cole’s Favorite Quote
01:44 “Don’t Freak Out, Figure It Out”
01:52 How The Quote Emerged In The Army
02:27 Handling Emotions Under Pressure
03:18 Personal Stories Of Problem Solving
04:38 From Bombs To Flat Tires
05:21 Reframing Everyday Frustrations
06:18 Why We Worry So Much
07:31 Human Nature And Worst-Case Thinking
09:13 Putting Life In Perspective
10:34 Technical Difficulties As Life Lessons
11:02 Cole’s Own Struggles With Minor Stress
12:13 The Fear Of Suffering Vs. Suffering
13:09 Beliefs, Mindset, And “Bad Luck”
14:11 The Power Of Focus And Attention
15:45 How Your Profession Shapes Your Lens
16:12 Reticular Activating System Explained
17:09 Practicing Positivity Takes Work
17:23 How Freaking Out Makes Things Worse
18:08 Road Rage And Combat Trauma
19:16 Conscious Awareness And Reframing
20:04 Vulnerability And Ongoing Growth
21:02 Writing A Mission Statement For Clarity
21:36 Practicing Skills When You’re Well
21:55 Navigating Pressure With Intention
22:28 Cole’s Book And Core Practices
23:55 Gratitude, Affirmations, And Mindset
23:58 Gratitude And Positivity In Practice
24:03 Where To Find Cole Grace
24:38 Closing And Gratitude

On this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Mathias Lemos Castillo, a passionate community advocate and cultural bridge builder, to explore the powerful mantra: “Lift as you rise.” Mathias shares how this guiding principle shapes his life and work, especially when it comes to fostering authentic collaboration over competition. We dive into his journey leading the Latino Professional Association of Madison, and the transformative mindset shift from scarcity to abundance that comes with building others up as you grow. Mathias opens up about key mentorship moments, navigating transitions in leadership, and practical ways to empower the next generation – no matter where you are in your own career or personal path. Whether you’re searching for actionable inspiration, or a new lens on service and success, this episode is packed with wisdom on forging deeper connections, creating lasting impact, and redefining what it truly means to rise together.

Connect With Mathias Lemos Castillo

Website: https://consultantmlc.com/
LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/mlemoscastillo/

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Chapters

00:00 Collaboration vs. Competition
01:21 Introducing Mathias and the Quote
02:12 The Meaning of “Lift as You Rise”
03:27 Mindset Shifts Toward Abundance
04:26 Discovering the Quote’s Impact
06:14 Latino Professional Association Story
08:22 Personal Examples of Lifting Others
11:10 The Power of Collaboration
13:56 Building Synergy in Leadership
16:10 Responsibility and Setting an Example
18:47 Lifting Others Isn’t Transactional
20:01 Reflecting on Lifting as We Rise
20:35 How to Connect With Mathias
21:20 Final Thoughts and Call to Action

This episode was a refreshing reminder that taking action matters more than waiting for perfection. My guest, Adam Torres, co-founder of Mission Matters Media and a prolific podcast host, shared the quote that’s been his guiding star: “Do what you can with what you have, where you are” by Theodore Roosevelt. Through candid stories—from launching his first book by dictating chapters on his phone to building a media company from scratch with minimal resources—Adam illustrates how small, imperfect beginnings can lead to substantial success. Listening to Adam, I was struck by how often we use lack of resources as an excuse, when what we really need is the courage to start and the persistence to keep building, one step at a time. Adam’s real-world examples and transparent journey offer a relatable and motivating perspective for anyone navigating obstacles or doubting if they’re “ready” to pursue a dream. You’ll come away from this episode with a renewed sense of agency and the inspiration to start—right where you are.

Connect With Adam Torres

Website: https://www.askadamtorres.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/askadamtorres/

LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamtorres8/

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:39 Adam Shares His Favorite Quote
01:30 Overcoming Limitations and Starting Out
02:15 First Encounter With the Quote
03:27 Making Do With Limited Resources
04:09 The Journey of Writing His First Book
06:35 Applying the Quote in Recent Projects
08:28 Misinterpretations and Deeper Meanings
10:24 Staying Inspired and Avoiding Excuses
13:17 Comparing Journeys and Inspiring Others
16:52 Company Culture and Practical Application
18:48 Adapting the Quote on the Journey
19:55 Where to Connect With Adam
20:26 Rapid-Fire Motivation
21:26 Closing and Farewell

On this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Laurel Roberts-Meese, a seasoned trauma therapist and founder of Laurel Therapy Collective. Laurel shared one of her guiding quotes: “May the space between where you are and where you want to be inspire you.” Together, we unpacked how this mantra shaped her journey—from juggling four jobs while slogging through the long and underpaid road to therapist licensure, to building her own thriving practice. Laurel’s perspective is refreshingly honest; she doesn’t sugarcoat the grit it takes to move from survival mode to living with intention. Now, as she mentors and nurtures the next generation of therapists, her story is a testament to dreaming big, taking one step at a time, and even savoring the tough transitions. If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed by the distance between your “now” and your dreams, Laurel’s insight will inspire you to see that space as a place of possibility—no matter how small the next step might seem.

Connect With Laurel Roberts-Meese
Website: https://www.laureltherapy.net/

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Chapters

00:00 Hitting Career Goals And What’s Next
01:20 Meet Laurel Roberts-Meese
01:57 Laurel’s Inspiring Quote
02:14 Meaning Behind The Mantra
03:00 How The Quote Became A Daily Anchor
04:28 Laurel’s Burnout And Career Struggles
07:39 Steps Toward Her Ideal Practice
08:25 Building A New Generation Of Therapists
09:21 The Vision For A Small Team
10:16 Wisdom Community Break
11:04 Keeping Dreams Personal
11:25 Overwhelm Vs. Inspiration When Goal Setting
12:40 Advice For Young People Finding Direction
13:55 The Five-Year Plan Practice
15:00 Start With What You Don’t Want
15:47 Navigating Survival Mode
16:44 Small Steps Toward More Ease
17:23 Dreams, Horizons, And Shifting Goals
17:32 Laurel’s Disneyland Daydream
18:40 Inspiring Listeners To Dream Small, Too
19:21 How To Connect With Laurel
19:51 Closing Reflections And Thanks

In this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I’m joined by Dr. Jad Wehbe, whose critical take on familiar quotes offers a refreshing and much-needed reality check for anyone on a mental health journey. Dr. Jad’s favorite quote turns the popular wisdom “time heals all wounds” on its head: he asserts that “time is not a healer.” Instead, he shares how true healing requires proactivity and self-awareness, shaped by both his personal background and clinical experience. We dive into some pervasive but potentially harmful quotes—like “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” and “happiness is a choice”—unpacking their risks, the nuances often left out, and how reframing them can protect and empower those struggling. Dr. Jad introduces us to the “four Cs of happiness” and emphasizes that happiness isn’t a mere choice—it’s a skill we must learn. This conversation is packed with actionable insights for anyone seeking practical wisdom, critical thinking, and fresh motivation on their own healing and growth journey.

Connect With Dr. Jad Wehbe
Website: https://www.thebridge-institute.com/
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thebridge_institute/

LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/company/thebridgeinstitute/

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Chapters

00:00 Why “Time Is Not A Healer”
01:32 Introducing Dr. Jad Wehbe
03:08 Challenging Assumptions Around Quotes
04:04 When Healing Doesn’t Happen With Time
05:40 The Dark Side Of “What Doesn’t Kill You…”
07:35 The Side Effects Of Popular Quotes
08:41 Rewriting Harmful Motivational Quotes
11:43 Updating “No Pain, No Gain” And Others
14:10 “Happiness Is A Choice”—Or Is It?
15:50 The Four Cs Of Happiness
18:24 The Impact Of Childhood On Happiness
20:54 Comparing Skills To Learning Happiness
23:08 The Cost Of Waiting For Time To Heal
25:12 “Loneliness Is The New Cigarette”
26:16 Where To Follow Dr. Jad

I had the pleasure of sitting down with Paris Cluff—financial coach, father of five, and someone who’s weathered both life’s losses and incredible comebacks. Paris shared one of his favorite quotes: “Money doesn’t make you, it reveals you. And then it magnifies you.” Our conversation took a deep dive into what this means in practical terms. Paris opened up about losing everything and rebuilding not just his finances, but his outlook. We unpacked how money is more of a mirror than a maker, and how becoming the kind of person you want to be—before the money comes—is essential. Paris offered actionable wisdom for anyone working to build wealth with integrity, reminding us that true abundance starts with beliefs, attitudes, and service. If you’re ready to rethink your relationship with money—or just need a boost of honest inspiration—this episode is for you.

Connect With Paris Cluff
Website: https://pariscluff.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/pariscluff/

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/pariscluff/

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Chapters

00:00 Treating Money Like a Friend
00:44 Introduction to Paris Cluff
01:17 Paris Shares His Favorite Quote
02:42 Does Money Make You?
04:36 Environment vs. Attitude and Belief
06:09 Magnifying Good Through Wealth
08:22 Building Character Before Wealth
09:16 Paris Rebuilds After Losing Everything
11:02 The Power of Service and Mindset
13:22 Thoughts Become Reality
14:36 Letting Go of Resentment
15:53 Beliefs, Value, and Abundance
17:31 Learning Lessons from Experience
21:46 Money Myths and Parenting
23:25 Enjoying the Journey, Not Just the Goal
25:07 Stoicism and Wealth
25:42 Connecting With Paris Cluff
27:05 Closing Remarks

In this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I have the pleasure of sitting down with Amy Adler, president of Five Strengths Career Transition Experts and a seasoned career coach with a knack for helping executives find their next big opportunity. Amy’s favorite quote, “Wherever you go, there you are,” is a powerful reminder that we can’t escape ourselves or the core issues we face—whether in our careers or personal lives. Amy vulnerably shares how, as a young adult, she tried to hide from life’s pressures, only to realize that confronting challenges is the only real path forward. Our conversation dives into practical wisdom about breaking free from avoidance, the difference between changing your attitude versus your behavior, and why self-reflection is the key to actual change. If you’ve ever felt stuck, feared making tough decisions, or doubted your own ability to adapt, Amy’s insights offer both inspiration and actionable strategies. Listen in for a heartfelt, wisdom-packed conversation on growth, agency, and embracing who you truly are.

Connect With Amy Adler
Website: https://fivestrengths.com
Twitter: https://x.com/AmyLAdler

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Chapters

00:00 Cognitive Dissonance And Change
00:43 Welcome And Guest Introduction
01:16 Amy’s Career Story
01:39 Amy’s Favorite Quote
01:43 Meaning Of The Quote
02:11 Running From Yourself
02:19 Amy’s Personal Story
03:12 Advice From A Mentor
04:03 Dealing With Difficulties
05:10 “Pulling A Geographic”
05:42 Real-Life Examples From Clients
07:06 Problems That Follow Us
07:31 Quote’s Cognitive Dissonance Connection
08:47 Attitude Versus Behavior Change
09:57 Resolving Tension: Choices We Make
10:41 Knowledge Problems Aren’t Real Problems
11:23 Join The Email List
11:29 The Empowerment Of Learning
12:14 Courage And Self-Reflection
13:27 Barriers To Change
13:34 Valuing Looking Smart Over Learning
14:23 The Value Of Asking Questions
15:10 Informational Interviewing In Practice
16:14 Benefits Of Listening More
17:18 How Our Choices Shape Us
17:59 The Importance Of Knowledge Exchange
18:05 Avoiding Versus Addressing Problems
19:26 Sharing Expertise And Helping Others
20:02 Wrapping Up With Amy
20:26 Connect With Amy
20:52 Show Outro

In this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I’m joined by Jem Fuller—a conscious communication coach from Australia whose life reads like a true adventure story. Jem shares his favorite mantra: “In this moment, right now, you are exactly who you are supposed to be.” We dive deep into the concept of self-acceptance, exploring how this idea shaped Jem’s recovery and growth after losing his marriage, job, and home. Jem is wonderfully candid about his journey, revealing how he had to literally brainwash himself—repeating “I am enough” daily—to release self-doubt and step into growth and new opportunities. His insights will resonate with anyone struggling with self-worth or ready to take that leap toward their passions, even when the inner critic tries to hold you back. If you need a reminder that you have everything you need to start where you are today, this conversation is for you.

Connect With Jem Fuller
Website:https://jemfuller.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemfuller/

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Chapters

00:00 Jem’s Awakening and Mantra
00:49 Welcome to Relatable Wisdom
01:23 Jem Introduces Himself and Quote
01:41 Breaking Down “You Are Enough”
02:29 Past, Present, and Who We Become
03:27 Overcoming Self-Doubt
05:25 Rewiring the Brain with Affirmations
06:07 The Power of Belief and Ideas
07:11 Bad Ideas vs. Bad People
08:10 Seeds of Inspiration and Change
09:12 Internalizing Society’s Voice
10:01 You Are Not Your Thoughts
10:22 Knowing vs. Realizing Wisdom
11:38 When Mindsets Truly Click
12:30 Self-Rejection Before Trying
12:45 Belief Determines Possibility
13:17 The Unexpected Power of Belief
14:21 A Life Unimagined
14:54 The “Wow” Moments of Growth
15:02 Connecting Across the Globe
16:07 Giving Permission to Shine
16:45 What Others Think Isn’t Your Business
17:31 Shortchanging Ourselves with Doubt
17:59 Creating Your Own Luck
18:37 Taking Action Over Outcomes
18:47 New Connections and Possibilities
19:08 Anything is Possible
19:10 Actions Produce Results
19:35 Thanks and Episode Close
20:02 Where to Find Jem Fuller
20:35 Final Thoughts and Farewell

On this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I sat down with Josh Thompson, the founder of Bright Beam SEO, whose life and business journey are shaped by a deceptively simple yet powerful quote: “Be careful what you get good at.” Josh shared how this advice from his uncle has deeply influenced his approach to life, business, and personal growth. From his admiration for his father’s relentless work ethic to the unique challenges of managing ADHD, Josh’s reflections reminded me—and hopefully you—that what we choose to master ends up shaping our lives, for better or worse. We explored the duality of developing skills for ourselves versus for others, and why focusing on what truly matters to you can fuel extraordinary progress via the compound effect of daily action. If you’ve ever struggled with indecision, fear of missing out, or sticking to a path, Josh’s candid wisdom offers a relatable push for intentionality and resilience. It’s a refreshing look at why the journey—and the person you become along the way—matters as much as the destination.

Connect With Josh Thompson

Website: https://brightbeamseo.com/

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Chapters

00:00 Admiring Hard Work And Early Struggles
00:29 Josh Thompson’s Introduction And Philosophy
01:06 “Be Careful What You Get Good At”
02:00 The Deeper Meaning Behind The Quote
03:01 Choosing Your Path And Facing Overwhelm
05:05 The Power Of The Compound Effect
06:27 Failure, Success, And Defining Your Metrics
08:18 Adapting Goals And Measuring Progress
10:35 Making Success A Non-Negotiable
11:40 “Burn The Bridges” And Commitment
13:03 Is Anything Truly Good Or Bad?
15:46 Revising The Quote For Deeper Clarity
17:12 Creating Necessity And Self-Discipline
19:41 The War Mentality In Business
22:46 Self-Improvement Through Business
24:50 Pursuing Growth And Building Resilience
26:25 The Freedom To Try And To Fail
28:13 Action, Speed, And Outpacing Fear
29:32 Key Takeaways And Final Insights
30:45 Running A Business Versus Doing The Work
32:23 Where To Find Josh Online
33:34 Closing Thoughts And Farewell

On this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Paul Howard Flowers Jr., an inspiring entrepreneur and father with a deep commitment to faith, family, and uplifting others. Paul’s favorite quote, “Be the change you wish to see in the world” (Gandhi), isn’t just a mantra for him — it’s a lived philosophy, so much so that he has it tattooed on his back. We dive into what it truly means to “be” something, exploring how validation and permission from others can hold us back from stepping into our true purpose. Paul’s journey takes us from college days of personal development to ongoing lessons in embodying change, rather than simply talking about it. He shares how authentic action and forming an inspired “why” are essential, whether you’re starting a business, writing a book, or seeking personal growth. If you’re wrestling with permission, self-doubt, or the urge to make a difference, this episode will motivate you to take meaningful steps — and be the change, inside and out.

Connect With Paul Howard Flowers Jr.

https://www.linkedin.com/in/paulhflowersjr/

Twitter: https://x.com/paulhflowersjr

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Chapters

00:00 Validation and Global Commonality
00:39 Welcome and Guest Introduction
01:15 Paul’s Name and Favorite Quote
01:42 The Power of “Be the Change”
03:28 Diving Into the Essence of “Being”
04:30 Ontology and Living Your Identity
05:41 Method Acting and Embodiment
07:01 Credentials, Skills, and Permission
08:30 The Search for Validation and Consensus
10:00 Societal Training for Validation
11:25 Examples From Religion and Education
12:50 Redefining Validation and Permission
13:55 Credentials, Proof, and Trust
16:11 Mental Health, Trust, and Self-Identification
16:27 Intention Versus Identity
17:13 Theory Versus Practical Communication
18:35 Core Skills: Reading, Writing, Speaking
20:42 Practicing Communication & True Mastery
22:11 Action Over Intention
22:45 Bringing the Conversation to a Close
23:04 What Does Change Really Mean?
23:52 Vision, Mission, and Action Plan
25:24 Avoiding Pseudo Change
25:57 Inspired Why and Real Motivation
27:15 Freedom as an Inspired Reason
27:49 Continuing the Conversation and Farewell
28:56 Final Thanks and Outro