Relationship Factor

In this episode of Relationship Factor, Kingsley chats with Registered Psychotherapist and founder of “Mind Over Borderline” Melanie Goldman to explore what it means to love and be loved by someone living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Melanie offers a compassionate approach at understanding how BPD traits can manifest in relationships and impact intimacy, conflict and sexual connection. 

Borderline Personality Disorder relationships often have a "push and pull" dynamic which can be very overwhelming for both partners involved. Beneath this intense dynamic, however, are very human needs for safety, closeness and understanding. 

This episode challenges the stigma and stereotypes associated with Borderline Personality Disorder. Melanie reminds us that with the right support and relational tools, meaningful and fulfilling relationships are possible.

Whether you identify with BPD yourself, love someone who does, or are simply curious about the dynamics of intense relationships, this episode offers insight, compassion, and hope.

You can find more information about Melanie’s work and support groups at https://mindoverborderline.ca/work/

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Parenting is tough. Parenting alone is even harder. It’s a reality that many don’t talk about. 

In this episode Kingsley sits with Registered Social Worker, Opeyemi Durodola to discuss the lived experience of single parent families, highlighting the emotional, financial and relational challenges that can come with raising children on your own. From navigating identity shifts to managing burnout and building support systems, this episode offers an honest look at both the weight and the resilience of single parenthood.

Opeyemi is the founder of Standing Tall Together Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to empowering BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, People of Color) single and blended families through culturally responsive support, advocacy and education. 

You can learn more about Standing Tall Together at https://standingtalltogether.ca

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So many women feel immense pressure to “bounce back” after having a baby — to return to a previous version of themselves as if pregnancy never happened. Kingsley chats with Confidence Coach, Alyssa McMasters to explore the evolving relationship many women have with their bodies after pregnancy. Alyssa asks us to challenge the notion that a woman’s body needs fixing after pregnancy. What if the season of motherhood is less about changing your body and more about allowing it to exist as it is? 

Kingsley and Alyssa unpack the societal expectations placed on women’s bodies following pregnancy and the quiet shame that can grow when these changes go unspoken. Alyssa shares how adopting a mindset of neutrality can help women reclaim control over postpartum insecurities and move toward a more grounded and confident sense of self. 

You can find out more about Alyssa and her work on her website: https://www.letmeintroduceyourself.com/aboutme

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New Episode: Knots & Connections — Inclusivity in Rope Bondage (with Sacred Ties)

How do you make rope spaces safer, smarter, and radically welcoming? In this conversation, Kingsley sits down with Sacred Ties (Lorena & Derek) to unpack inclusive, trauma-informed rope bondage—from consent and accountability to accessibility for different bodies, abilities, and histories. We challenge common myths, talk through risk-aware frameworks, and explore how educators can balance fun, safety, and structure while keeping community care at the center.

Sacred Ties are Edmonton-based rope educators known for adaptable, learner-first teaching and clear, consent-driven classroom standards. Their work focuses on creating spaces where beginners feel supported, marginalized voices are respected, and aftercare is part of the plan—not an afterthought.

Connect with Sacred Ties
Website: https://sacredtiesrope.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sacredtiesrope/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Sacred.Ties.Rope
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sacredtiesrope6521

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What happens when exhaustion collides with faith—and what does recovery look like on the other side? Kingsley is joined by Fred & Taku to explore burnout through the lenses of relationships, spirituality, and everyday family life. Drawing on clinical social work practice and lived parenting experience, they unpack the signs we miss, the beliefs that keep us stuck, and the practices that actually help us heal. We talk emotional honesty in faith communities; holding anger, grief, and desire without shame; and the skills of repair—empathy, accountability, courageous communication—that strengthen connection.

You’ll learn: early warning signs of burnout, how beliefs shape stress responses and relationships, and practical rhythms for recovery (boundaries, rest, repair) with a faith-inclusive lens.

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What does healing look like where gender, migration, labour rights, and mental health intersect? In this powerful conversation, Kingsley sits down with Samu Ngwenya Tshuma—a policy consultant and women’s rights advocate—to unpack the systems that drive gender-based violence (GBV) and the evidence-based practices that help prevent it. We explore survivor-centred, trauma-informed approaches; how data can shape better policy; and the everyday actions that build safety and dignity for women and girls.

Samu has consulted for the UN Spotlight Initiative, the UN Special Rapporteur on Extreme Poverty & Human Rights, and the International Labour Organization (ILO), with a focus on evidence-based policymaking and scaling what works to eliminate GBV.

Connect with Samu
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samu-ngwenya-tshuma-5b79b6107/

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New Episode: The Weight We Carry with Jessica Yip 

Calling in “The One” Coach & Executive Life Coach

What does love look like when you're carrying the weight of generational expectations, unspoken sacrifices, and inherited silence? In this thought provoking episode, we sit down with Jessica Yip to explore how being a child of immigrants shapes our relationships—with ourselves and with others.

Jessica shares how growing up feeling lonely or misunderstood can lead to unconscious self-sabotage in love, and what it takes to break those patterns. With compassion, wisdom, and lived experience, she invites us into the work of healing, honoring where we come from, and choosing connection over survival.

As a leading Calling in “The One” coach, Jessica has the privilege of working directly with Katherine Woodward Thomas, NY Times Best-Selling Author of Calling in “The One”: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life and Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After, as her Program Director and Faculty Coach for coaches-in-training.

Jessica also support clients to turn their dreams into reality as a "Your Big Voice Master Coach" and Executive Life Coach, bringing playfulness, wisdom, and over a decade of experience in transformative coaching, leadership development, and somatic attunement to each session.

Jessica is proud to support clients from all walks of life, especially children of immigrants like herself and those who grew up feeling lonely and misunderstood, yet are now ready to break the cycles of unconscious self-sabotage that have been passed on through generations.

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Visit Jessica's website: https://jessicayip.com

Jessica's Retreat Information: https://jessicayip.com/inspiredliferetreat/

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Get ready for a powerful conversation about how our earliest experiences shape the way we love, connect, and heal. In this episode, we’re diving deep into early childhood experiences and the lasting impact of trauma on intimacy, emotional connection, and overall relational well-being.

We’ll explore how attachment styles formed in early life influence adult relationships, the ways unresolved trauma can show up in our connections and sexual wellness, and the role of trauma-informed care—including emerging approaches like Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy—in fostering healing and resilience.

Leading this conversation is Kelly, a Clinical Social Worker and therapist at Kind Heart Therapy, who brings a wealth of knowledge from both her professional practice and her experience as a parent. Joining her is Kingsley Moyo, Registered Psychologist at Life Collective Counselling, who offers grounded insight and thoughtful questions throughout the episode.

Tune in for a heartfelt, clinically informed, and deeply human look at how the past can inform the present—and how healing is always possible.

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Learn more about our integrated child health @kinpsychological.com
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Get ready for an eye-opening conversation about rupture moments—the turning points in relationships that can either deepen intimacy or create lasting wounds. In this episode, we’re exploring why these moments matter, how they shape connection, and what it takes to turn conflict into an opportunity for growth.

We’ll break down the difference between ruptures that can be repaired and those that signal deeper issues, uncover the role of attachment styles in navigating conflict, and share practical strategies for moving through tension with understanding and resilience.

Joining us is Danny Salinas, a Conscious Dating Coach who specializes in helping couples and individuals navigate relational challenges with compassion and insight. With a wealth of experience in Relationship Coaching, Danny brings a fresh perspective on how couples can rebuild trust and create lasting emotional security.

Tune in for a conversation that might just transform the way you see conflict and connection.

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Life Collective Counselling is a Relationship & Sex Therapy Center. If you've got any comments or questions about relationships and sex that you'd like to see answered, send your email to [email protected]

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In this episode, we dive into the deep and often unspoken impact of the core belief “Not Good Enough.” This belief, shaped by early experiences, can influence how we show up in relationships, work, and our overall well-being. But what if we could challenge and reframe it?

Our guest, Sabrina Trobak, is counsellor and author of the book "Not Good Enough". In this episode she shares insight into how this belief forms, the misconceptions about overcoming it, and practical strategies for cultivating confidence and resilience in the face of self-doubt.

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Life Collective Counselling is a Relationship & Sex Therapy Center. If you have any comments or questions about relationships and sex that you’d like to see answered, send an email to [email protected].

Get resources on relationships and sex at lifecollectivecounselling.com.