Have you ever believed something about yourself that simply wasn’t true?

In this heartfelt episode, we talk about the “gunk in the attic” — the unhealthy beliefs, painful words, and emotional wounds that quietly steal our peace and keep us from living in freedom. Through a biblical lens, we explore how God’s truth can replace the lies we’ve carried for years.

This episode continues with inner healing that improves relationships in big ways. It includes a gentle guided prayer for emotional healing, forgiveness, and renewing your mind with God’s truth.

In this episode, we discuss:

Scriptures referenced:

If this episode encouraged you, would you consider subscribing, sharing it with a friend, or leaving a comment? Your story and feedback help others find healing too.

May you walk in freedom, truth, and the deep love of God today.

* Inspired in part by teachings from Restoring the Foundations, along with decades of ministry experience and biblical study.

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Mother’s Day is coming—but what if flowers aren’t enough?

In this special episode, we explore how to truly honor your mom in a way that speaks directly to her heart—based on her God-designed personality.

Whether your mom is fun-loving and social, driven and hardworking, calm and steady, or thoughtful and detail-oriented, you’ll discover simple yet meaningful ways to make her feel deeply loved and appreciated.

💡 In this episode, you’ll learn:

This isn’t just about Mother’s Day…

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❤️ Relationships are my thing—and I want yours to be the best.

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This is the last episode of the “basic training” series designed to prepare listeners for special relational conversations and mapping in future episodes.

Host Cyndy Bartelli introduces Episode 8 of Relationship Reality about God’s miraculous heart healing for people wounded by disappointment, abuse, rejection, and fear, sharing stories of abused women in Mexico and a young woman who survived multiple suicide attempts and found God’s love. She explains this final “basic training” episode in her relationship trifecta—personality (God’s design), learned behavior, and heart wounds—and describes how misunderstanding emotional needs, based on personality, can lead to deep heartbreak, using her mother’s nervous breakdowns as an example. Cyndy shares her own healing after prayer revealed a childhood trauma around not being able to say goodbye to her hospitalized mother, and cites scriptures about God healing the brokenhearted. Scriptures specifically referred to here: 2 Kings 20:5, Psalms 34:18, and Isaiah 57:15. She invites listeners to study the word “heart” in the Bible, mentions her book and course, The Heart Healer, as tools for healing, leads a simple but impactful prayer for emotional and physical healing, and asks support for the nonprofit Vertical Hearts.

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This is part of a series of episodes with “basic training” to prepare listeners for special relational conversations and mapping in future episodes.

Host Cyndy Bartelli introduces Relationship Reality and continues a basic training series on relationships by explaining the difference between God- designed personality and learned behavior. Drawing on her experience as a certified personality trainer and longtime human resources director, she describes using personality profiles and integrity surveys and emphasizes that character, ethics, and morals are developed through training and life experiences, not personality. She explains how people may modify behavior to cope — such as a naturally outgoing child appearing introverted under a controlling parent — and shares a retreat story of a woman realizing she had lived to fit someone else’s mold. Bartelli notes learned behaviors can be unlearned, while basic personality typically remains. She urges parents and influencers to teach right from wrong, prays for integrity and wisdom, and previews a next episode on heart healing connected to her book, The Heart Healer.

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This is part of a series of episodes with “basic training” to prepare listeners for special relational conversations and mapping in future episodes.

Host, Cyndy Bartelli, continues her series on the four basic personalities by explaining thePerfect Melancholic, a temperament marked by a drive for order, planning, and doing things well. She contrasts Melancholics with task-oriented Cholerics, shares examples of how to spotMelancholics through impeccable, subdued style and meticulous habits, and highlights strengths like organization, research, analysis, artistry, science-minded detail work, and careful money management. Cyndy describes using a Melancholic teenager’s skills to organize and color-coordinate her closet, and tells a story illustrating financial caution during a medical emergency. She also covers emotional needs such as quiet time alone to refuel, a desire for order, and sensitivity to feelings, urging families of all types to understand and adjust to one another. The episode promotes a free personality chart download, previews upcoming topics, and ends with a prayer and mention of Vertical Hearts Ministry support.

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Peaceful Phlegmatic Personality: Are You a Peacemaker? | Relationship Reality Podcast

This is part of a series of episodes with “basic training” to prepare listeners for special relational conversations and mapping in future episodes.

Host Cyndy Bartelli continues her foundational Relationship Reality Podcast series by describing the Peaceful Phlegmatic as the calm, introverted, people-focused temperament known for listening, observing, and quietly processing. Drawing from her HR experience and personal stories about her husband (“My Guy”) and her mother, she explains how Phlegmatics may show little facial expression even when enjoying themselves, prefer subdued clothing with small hints of humor, value peace and stability, and can be underestimated despite offering wise, thoughtful counsel. She highlights their strong need for routine, desire for quiet to recharge(often with TV, devices, or movies), and how they help hold relationships together by noticing what others miss. She emphasizes the importance of communicating their value, mentions Vertical Hearts’ nonprofit support for families, and closes with prayer.

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Powerful Choleric Personality Types: Born Leaders | Relationship Reality Podcast

This is part of a series of episodes with “basic training” to prepare listeners for special relational conversations and mapping in future episodes.

In this Relationship Reality Podcast episode, Cyndy Bartelli explains the task-focused extrovert temperament known as thePowerful Choleric.Cholerics are described as intense, productivity-driven people who think in to-do lists, stay busy with projects, and often appear serious because they’re focused on work.

The episode outlines identifying traits (intentional presence, fidgeting, time-blocking), natural strengths (born leadership, goal orientation, getting projects done), and key emotional needs:appreciation for hard work and a measure of control.

Through personal stories about parenting a Choleric child and a family scenario involving a hardworking husband, the host shows how giving appropriate control and expressing gratitude can reduce conflict. The episode closes with a prayer and previews the next topic: the Peaceful Phlegmatic.

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Popular Sanguine Personality Types: Natural Communicators | Relationship Reality Podcast

This is part of a series of episodes with “basic training” to prepare listeners for special relational conversations and mapping in future episodes.

Host, Cyndy Bartelli, introduces the Relationship Reality Podcast episode on the “Popular Sanguine” personality (using Hippocrates’ Greek terms and “P” descriptors) and shares a free downloadable quadrant chart in the description. She explains how to identify Sanguines as extroverted, people-oriented, often loud in voice and style, fun-loving, talkative, superlative-using, sometimes absent-minded, and strong networkers who can be the life of a party.

Through stories (including leaving a car open while shopping), she highlights their positivity, encouragement, and humor, while noting the need for moderation in conversation. Bartelli emphasizes Popular Sanguines’ emotional needs for fun and attention, describing how isolation during the pandemic affected them and how her Sanguine sister coped by connecting with others.

She cautions against labeling, affirms God’s purpose in personalities, offers parenting guidance for Sanguine children, mentions Vertical Hearts’ mission (especially for foster/adoptive families), previews the next episode on “Powerful Choleric,” and closes with prayer and a request to subscribe and share.

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Host Cyndy Bartelli introduces the Relationship Reality Podcast, explaining her goal to offer hope for broken relationships and inspiration for healthy ones through a “relationship trifecta”: God’s design (personality), learned behavior from life experiences, and unresolved soul wounds that affect motivations, actions, courage, and health. She outlines a foundational “basic training” series covering the four basic personalities, learned behavior, and heart healing, leading into future episodes addressing listener questions. Cyndy shares her “peanut butter epiphany” from a parenting seminar skit illustrating four personality types in children and how it helped her understand her kids could be different from her and still valued. She previews identifying traits, strengths, and emotional needs for each type, offers a free one-page personality chart download, mentions nonprofit sponsor Vertical Hearts supporting foster/adoptive parents, and closes with prayer.

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Why Relationships Feel Easy or Hard: Introducing Relationship Reality

This is part of a series of episodes with “basic training” to prepare listeners for special relational conversations and mapping in future episodes.

In the first episode of the Relationship Reality Podcast, host Cyndy Bartelli introduces how simple insights can change the way we understand ourselves and others, helping relationships become more harmonious as God calls us to live.

Drawing from over 40years of speaking and her background as a Human Resource Director, prayer ministry partner, and certified personality trainer, she shares how a long-ago prayer for help as a single mom began a journey of learning that ultimately changed her and shaped her work.

She outlines her “Relationship Trifecta”: God’s design (personality), learned behavior (life experiences and training), and wounds to the soul requiring heart healing. Upcoming episodes will provide a basic training series, then interviews and listener questions, with prayer at each episode’s end. The nonprofit Vertical Hearts sponsors the podcast, with a special focus on foster and adoptive families.

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