Relationships with Abby Rodman

At what point in history did we become so youth-obsessed that we agreed to take any steps necessary to preserve our own? At some juncture, we decided it was no longer okay to let our hair choose its own hue, to allow our hips to widen and our boobs to sag, to embrace the muumuu and not the string bikini.

Join Psychotherapist Abby Rodman as she puts in her two-cents on what it means to be (horrors!) an aging woman in our culture -- and what we really should be focusing on instead.

You know that person in your life who drives you nuts but you can’t really pinpoint why? That person who brings out the worst in you no matter how many times you promise yourself you’ll stay cool and collected?

If this sounds painfully familiar, you may be dealing with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. You can find out more about the DSM-5 criteria for this diagnosis here. But what if you read the list of symptoms for BPD and realize your “person” doesn’t hit all the markers for it?

That’s why I’m suggesting there’s a real diagnosis of Borderline-ish Personality Disorder. A Borderline-ish Person (BIP) has some (or many) of the markers of the diagnosis, but just not all the DSM purports they should have. 

Join me as I talk (from personal AND professional experience) about what it means to have a BIP in your life. And, no, you're not crazy.

Is there such a thing as an empathic narcissist? I believe there is. Not because of what it means to be a narcissist, but because of what it means to be empathic. What evokes empathy in each of us is complex, singular, and multi-layered.

If you suspect someone close to you is an empathic narcissist, pay close attention to what garners their empathy. If it’s usually big picture empathy like sick kids or abandoned puppies, you may be right. Because those are empathic no-brainers. No heavy lifting there.

Join me as I delve into strange phenomenon of empathic narcissists...and how to recognize them!

There’s something about GTS that I love. It’s a hopeful acronym. It intimates that whatever we’re going through, we’re going to come out on the other side of it. Whatever it is will eventually be in our rearview.

It also encapsulates what it means to be alive. If we’re breathing, we’re going through something, we’re processing something. As you read this, you’re going through something. I am, too. 

In this age of social media masking and masquerading, the recognition that everyone is GTS is more important than ever. And we can’t be lured into numbness by believing (about others and, yes, even ourselves) that our perfect Insta selfies will ever/accurately/actually/remotely represent our whole truth.

Listen in as I talk about what it means to go through something -- and how to honor that experience in others.

Gaslighting is a psychological term that refers to one partner’s efforts to undermine the other’s grasp on reality in order to gain control. This is done by systematically making the victim feel like whatever the circumstances, her (or his) version of events is skewed, misconstrued, or imagined.

Gaslighting makes you forfeit your own truth. Self-doubt takes over because you no longer rely on your reality. You lose touch with who you once were or thought you were — because everything is hazy now. You desperately want the someone closest to you to validate your feelings, beliefs, and experiences. But the validation never comes.

Join Psychotherapist and best-selling author, Abby Rodman, as she discusses gaslighting -- and its very real impact on relationships.

Even though divorce sucks, it isn’t what screws up your kids. Listen, a can of paint is just a can of paint until you slap it on a wall. And an unhappy marriage is just an unfortunate circumstance until you handle it poorly.

Because a divorce (or even an agreement to stay in an unhappy union) done maturely, done with your children’s future emotional and relational health in mind, can really be okay for them. If you choose to divorce (or to stay in a suffocating, directionless marriage) with some semblance of awareness and amicability, the kids will be okay. Really, they will.

Because it’s the behaviors associated with your unhappiness — not your unhappiness itself — that will take the biggest toll on your kids. 

Join Psychotherapist Abby Rodman as she discusses how to keep your kids happy and healthy through your divorce or unhappy marriage. There is a way! Listen in. 

For more of Abby's blogposts, podcasts, and generally unsolicited opinions, go to abbyrodman.com.

Teaching kids personal responsibility starts at home. There’s a meme floating around that outlines things kids need to hear from their parents. In addition to, “I love you” and “I’m proud of you,” perhaps the most important one is, “I’m sorry.” Because when you apologize to your child, when you admit wrongdoing, you’re teaching your kid to do the same.

Join Psychotherapist Abby Rodman as she discusses what it looks like to raise kids who are honest and take personal responsibility -- instead of blaming, whining and pointing fingers.

For more of Abby's blogposts, podcasts, and generally unsolicited opinions, go to abbyrodman.com.

It's not a secret: Those in successful marriages know the formula for their marital success isn't all that complicated. With a couple of adjustments, you too can have a healthier, happier, and more peaceful union.

Join Psychotherapist Abby Rodman as she shares a personal experience in the journey of her own marriage -- and what people in successful marriages already know to be true about what makes a marriage and partnership the best it can be.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is selfishness and self-absorption on steroids. It takes self-righteousness to levels that always leave destroyed relationships in its wake. Unfortunately, it isn’t easily treated in therapy and it’s almost never adequately addressed by those afflicted by it.  

If you’re in a relationship (of any stripe) with someone who never sees it your way, never apologizes fully, or always thinks others (including you) are responsible for his/her disappointments, you may be dealing with a narcissist.

Join Psychotherapist Abby Rodman as she highlights the dangerous emotional costs and pitfalls of having a narcissist in your life.

One of the most dreaded steps in the divorce process — if not the most dreaded — is telling your kids your marriage is over and that their family as they’ve known it is about to change forever.

If your kids are old enough to be “sat down” to have the divorce convo, there are some things you want to make sure to include as you roll out this unwelcome news.

Join psychotherapist and bestselling author, Abby Rodman, as she outlines the things your kids need to hear -- and the promises you shouldn't make.