As the oldest daughter, I was always responsible for something. I was thrust into responsibility long before I was ready. At the age of ten, I was helping with homework, dinner, and cleaning. If my siblings did not complete a task or chore, I was the often the one who was punished for “not watching” them. Subconsciously, a belief was created that I was responsible for the actions of others.

What I didn’t realize at the time is that responsibility would become my identity. This identity would transfer into the way I ran my business. If a client did not get results, I blamed myself. I would sit on vacation with my family and could not put the laptop down, convinced that if I stopped checking in, the whole thing would crumble. Of course, there were times things needed to be tweaked to be more effective. However, I took full responsibility even when it was clear others were not doing what they needed to do.

I lived by “The success and failure falls on my shoulders.” You can imagine what happens when you take the blame for everything. You carry the weight of the world on your shoulders even when you shouldn’t.

It wasn’t until I released responsibility that I was able to have a business that could profit without my presence 24/7 and relationships that were no longer a burden but a blessing. I could take time away from the business without panicking.

The practice that got me here didn’t start with delegation, hiring more people, or automating my tasks. Neither did it start with praying more. It started with a shift in my identity and creating the kind of safety in God that my body could actually feel, the kind that let me stop bracing for everything to fall apart the moment I stepped back. I call it the Stillness Sequence, a biblically backed and scientifically supported nervous system regulation practice that teaches your body it is safe to set the weight down.

I walk you through exactly how that shift happened in the video. And when you're ready to feel that safety in your own body, not just understand it, this is the practice that gets you there:

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