"Ok, so "try" is actually a pretty useful concept; there's a reason we  have a very short word for it in the English language. Nevertheless, I  have found it quite useful to occasionally spend a few weeks refusing to  use the word "try" or any of its synonyms, at least when talking about  myself, and especially when thinking about myself to myself."

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Original post: http://mindingourway.com/there-is-no-try/

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"Many years ago, when I was in high school, a friend of mine came back from college having joined a fencing team. He wanted to show me some of  the basics, so he tossed me a sabre, and we had at each other. We  crossed swords a few times, and he said something along the lines of "Nate, the goal isn't to hit my sword, the goal is to hit me." [...] "

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Original post: http://mindingourway.com/stop-trying-to-try-and-try/

"SENS is currently fundraising, by the way": www.sens.org

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"The last arc of posts has been about how to handle a dour universe. Become unable to despair, learn to see the darkness rather than flinching from it, learn to choose between bad and worse without suffering. Learn to live in a grim world without becoming grim yourself, learn to hear bad news without suffering, and stop needing to know your actions were acceptable. Come to terms with the fact you may lose, use the darkness as a source of fuel, and let go of dreams of total victory. These are the tools I use to tap into intrinsic motivation, in a precarious world where the problems are larger than I am. [...]"

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Original post: http://mindingourway.com/dark-not-colorless/

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"In fiction, protagonists narrow their focus until the difference between success and failure on their specific task seems like the difference between victory and defeat. Batman attempts to solve the mystery while ensuring that nobody dies; meanwhile, children in Africa suffer from Malaria. The crew in The Martian spends billions of dollars worth of capital to save one man; capital that could have been spent curing diseases. Real people run a risk of duplicating this error, if they try to find the very best action available. ..."

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Original post: http://mindingourway.com/best-you-can/

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"Most of the time, if something is hurting you, I recommend making it stop. There is one exception, though..."

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Original post: http://mindingourway.com/transmute-guilt-i/

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"So here's my advice: Think the unthinkable. Consider that which is  painful to consider. Figure out what, exactly, is at stake. Weigh the  consequences. Come to terms with them."

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"If you have an excuse prepared, you will be tempted to fall back on it. An excuse makes failure more acceptable, in some way. It's a license to fail."

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Original post: http://mindingourway.com/have-no-excuses/

"But you know about the planning fallacy"

"a wonderful opportunity for self-signaling"

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"... Maybe some part of you is pushing against reality, trying to deny it, willing the past to change."

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Original post: http://mindingourway.com/simply-locate-yourself/

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"I'm betting that the last three posts have given many readers an incorrect impression about my demeanor. It's  easy to read those posts and conclude that I must be a grim, brooding  character who goes around with his jaw set all day long.

Which is understandable, but silly. You don't need to carry a grim demeanor to draw strength from seeing the dark world. It's quite  possible to deeply want the world to be different than it is, and tap  into a deep well of cold resolve, and still also be curious, playful,  and relaxed in turn.

This isn't a story, and we don't need to pretend to archetypes."

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Original post: http://mindingourway.com/detach-the-grim-o-meter/

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"When given a choice between bad and worse, you need to be able to choose "bad", without qualm."

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Original post: http://mindingourway.com/choose-without-suffering/

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