What no one tells you about becoming a mother in your 40s — especially while moving through perimenopause — is that your sexuality doesn’t disappear.
It changes its language.
In this intimate and necessary conversation, I’m joined by somatic sex educator and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet to explore what happens to desire, arousal, and erotic identity when new motherhood and midlife collide.
We talk about the realities of being touched-out, sleep-deprived, hormonally shifting, and emotionally stretched — and how these conditions ask us to redefine intimacy rather than mourn what once was.
This episode is not about “getting your libido back.”
It’s about learning how desire wants to meet you now.
In this episode, we explore:
🔥 Sexuality as a new mother over 40
🔥 How perimenopause reshapes arousal and erotic timing
🔥 Why spontaneous desire often gives way to responsive desire
🔥 The grief, tenderness, and initiation of post-baby sexuality
🔥 How to cultivate intimacy without pressure, performance, or shame
This is a permission slip for mothers in midlife to stop forcing desire — and start listening for it.
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