What should you do about a situation where you are being deliberately baited: in a one-on-one setting, in a small group, or in a polarized family? Don’t rise to the bait! I can see no upside to that and plenty of potential downside.

Choose not to avoid the conflict but to resist the bait. What would that look like? You could carefully frame the message you want to send. With or without explicitly mentioning the bait. But thinking through how to move toward a better situation, not make things worse.

When the bait is dangled publicly – when more than the dangler and the, um, danglee are aware of the bait – consider taking it private.

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