Jay Hughes returns to the show to talk with me about the new book he co-authored with Mary Duke and Stacey Allred, Family Flourishing: The True Meaning of Wealth. We talk about his abiding interest in wealth as well-being, some of his insights on history and philosophy, and practical ideas that any family can put into practice.

Jay refers to the book Homo Ludens (A Study of the Play-Element in Culture) by the Dutch cultural historian and philosopher Johan Huizinga, which translates literally from the Latin as "man the player" or "man at play". (The book Man at Play, with that exact English title, was written by the German Jesuit theologian Hugo Rahner, Rahner explicitly drew his inspiration and foundational concepts from Johan Huizinga's Dutch work.)

The mission of The James E. Hughes, Jr. Foundation is “Advancing the study of family governance and generational well-being.” Many resources are available here: https://jehjf.org/.

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When we are in a situation that is mildly unsettling, a little dicey, possibly heading toward a nasty conflict, we can assume the worst about the other person, the situation, and/or ourselves. That assumption does not serve us well.

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Last time, I talked a bit about the meaning of the “attention economy”, a term coined over fifty years ago by Herbert Simon, a Nobel prize winner for economics. The idea is that human focus is a limited natural resource. From a conflict perspective, quick thinking rarely serves us well.

So, what do we do?

First, as with many things, recognize what is going on in ourselves.

Second, once we are aware of a growing tendency to embrace speed, we can be more conscious of the value of slowing down. 

Third, we can recognize that others are subject to these same external forces that are encouraging speed.

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The “attention economy” is a term coined over fifty years ago by Herbert Simon, a Nobel prize winner for economics. The idea is that human focus is a limited natural resource. Speedy, reactive thinking is prioritized by our brains when we are exposed to it again and again. And rewarded, in a number of ways, for diving into it.  This type of thinking, reactive and not especially deliberate, patient, or careful, becomes more and more comfortable. And the slower, truly thoughtful and contemplative type of thinking is used less. A type of thinking that took more effort to begin with is now seeming even more difficult as we just don’t do it as much.  From a conflict perspective, nothing good comes from moving farther away from patient and careful thought to quick reaction.

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Over time, I have come to see my podcast as a way to give back. Through my own content, I can share what I have learned so far. And I can continue to learn and to share even more.   My guests are … no one word sums them up.Insightful is the closest. 

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Rana Gujral joins me to talk about his book, The AI Instinct: The Future of AI and Human Decision-Making. We discuss whether we humans are paying attention to the right things when we consider our relationship with AI and whether our fear of what we don’t know gets in the way of that. We talk about challenge of cognitive drift, the problem of oracle worship, and what we forfeit with a loss of friction. 

You can learn more about the book here: https://www.theaiinstinct.com/. You can learn more about Rana’s work here:

https://ranagujral.com/ and follow him on  X here: @ranagujral.com.

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When we are stuck. At an impasse in a conflict. Or feeling that valued relationships are at risk of falling apart. Or paralyzed because we don’t know how to broach the topic that is percolating under the surface. 

We can benefit from looking back, in order to move forward. 

We have all heard that hindsight is 20/20. We can actually embrace that idea and use the advantage of hindsight to help us figure out our next, positive steps.

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Sometimes, the idea of the journey and the destination can be taken too far. Better: when a group needs to make a decision, that decision-making process can be, if not as important as the ultimate decision, a profound influence on the interpersonal relationships. In a professional context, the best advisors are those who continue the journey to learn, grow, and evolve. 

Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at [email protected]! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/.

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Progress that is -- not “success”. It can be essential to focus on progress, instead of success – however success might be defined. Think about markers of progress. If we focus on progress, and not success, it can be easier to see positive signs. And seeing them can motivate anyone involved to continue working on the problem.

Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at [email protected]! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/.

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Polina Rabinovich Crottty joins me to talk about her journey from fairly traditional work in wealth management to her co-founding of Generations Aligned with Matthew Rezac, where they provide coaching, facilitation, retreats, and workshops for families where something is longing to shift. 

We touch on how her early life experience, moving to the U.S. from Russia as the Soviet Union collapsed, informed her initial views about money, her training in Compassionate Inquiry™ and in the Family Constellation framework.

Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at [email protected]! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/.

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