Whether we realize it or not, many of us have inner conflicts that affect our relationships with ourselves and others. In this episode, Steve and Pete offer practical tips for putting relational conflict behind you to find full freedom. 

Transformation Tip: If you own this story, you get to write the ending. 

Roots of conflict that cause us to get off track 

• Involuntary: what people have done to cause conflict to you
• Voluntary: what you have done to cause conflict to others

How to bring ourselves back into alignment:

• Involuntary 
  • Forgiveness
• Voluntary 
  • Taking responsibility 
  • Forgiveness
  • Accepting yourself 

Pete’s Poem: “Should” 

When I take stock of who I am and see that things are good. 

A thief comes in to steal my joy accusing me, “but you should”. 

You should be more productive. Your body should be slim. 

That guy right there is so well-liked. You should be more like him.

So now there's a rubbly where my esteem once stood, knocked down with cruel intention by the wrecking ball of should. 

“How dare you be contented! Your best will never do.”

“Try harder still”. His voice demands, “become a different you”.

I get back on the hamster wheel determined to improve 

but hear him say to my dismay, “the finish line has moved”.

Then in a time of clarity, I see I have a choice. 

I can choose to tune him out and hear a different voice. 

I hear I am accepted. I hear I am enough. 

And where I lack, God’s got my back, I'm covered by his love. 

I'll celebrate my talents working hard at what I do. 

I'm doing fine with my design my limitations too. 

I don't do super exploits. Sometimes I wish I could, 

but I accept me as I am. I've had enough of should.

Transformation Application: Write your list and complete the forgiveness exercise discussed in the podcast. If you need more guidance on this topic or want to dive deeper, go  buy Steve's book “Free to be Me” :) 

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