One of the most frustrating obstacles to affair recovery is being ‘shut out.’ Being shut out blocks communication, it blocks you from connecting with them. Being shut out is also painful. It forces you to keep your own pain while denying you common decency. This 1-2 punch of rejection and blocking makes a formidable barrier. […]

When faced with an affair, you encounter volumes of advice. Some you look for, some comes to you like honey attracts flies. Some comes from family, some comes from yourself. So when you have all of this advice, how can you tell the good from the bad? | done, 5 min (RS) For more advice […]

Cheating requires myths to keep it going. It takes lies to keep a lying lifestyle going. The cheater may use these lies against you, whether to justify their behavior or to pressure you into their world/worldview. Much like vaccines are used to protect you against disease, you need a way to vaccinate yourself against the […]

Affairs are destructive to marriages, even more so to blended/fractured families. Affairs often re-trigger old hurts and impact old fault lines and cause affair trauma. Fractured/blended families are fragile. Affairs put the fragile family ‘under pressure.’ Blended families present unique challenges when it comes to surviving affairs.On one hand, they have resilience. They have already […]

The dangers of swinging.. Swinging will change your marriage. The sites promoting swinging hype many of those changes. They emphasize sex as being all-important. It is important, yet when truths are presented out of balance they become destructive. Sudden, abnormal growth, even in your marriage, is destructive. Some sites even give tips on how husbands […]

In this podcast, we’ll walk through some simple ways of figuring out whether your spouse is lying to you, and what to do about it… For more advice on recovering from an affair and fixing your relationship with your spouse, register for this webinar! It’s free and will help you figure out where to take […]