Restored 2 More

Ever wondered what a sexual fast is? How do you successfully do one, and why would anyone willingly embark on this journey? 

Welcome to the Restored 2 More podcast, where today, we dive into our transformative journey of sexual fasting and the benefits of following God's design for sex!Join us as we tackle burning questions like: Can you go 30 days without climaxing? Is it okay to masturbate during a fast? And, our personal favorite, is sex a need?

Spoiler alert: A sexual fast isn't just an intriguing concept—it's a biblical practice that could breathe new life into your marriage in ways you've never imagined! In this week's episode, we delve deep into the often-overlooked topic of sexual fasting, sharing our personal stories, candid discussions, and insightful scripture that hopefully will inspire you to try it. Trust us; you'll be glad you did!

We'll guide you through essential questions: How long should your fast be? What can you do while fasting? And how do you foster intimacy when sex is off the table? Whether you're seeking guidance on restoring sexual intimacy, looking for resources to help you on your restoration journey, or simply curious about our experiences, we're glad you're listening! Together, we'll explore the complexities of relationships, celebrate growth, and embrace the grace found in faith-filled love.

Have burning questions of your own? Swing by our website and jump into our "Ask Us Anything" segment—your topic might just spark our next episode! Tune in and get ready for a conversation that could change everything!

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Have you been at a loss to find the best way to make your home tech-safe? 
Has creating healthy tech boundaries with your kids or spouse been a battle? 
Have you struggled to understand healthy tech practices, much less model them for your family? We most certainly have. 

Today's guest, Chris Mckenna, has fought long and hard to become a respected voice on digital safety. He is the executive director of Protect Young Eyes and has dedicated his career to creating practical tools and resources for families, caregivers, and schools. 

In this episode, we discuss incredible topics like the five habits of a tech-ready home, micro-moves that make a big impact, and how to model tech usage for our kids to create healthy habits. We also learn about the toxic trio—the three places when and where tech is most often used in destructive ways—and the five layers of protection we can implement in our homes and on our devices. 

Chris explains that we don't need to fear tech but learn how to steward it well using the principles he shares at Protect Young Eyes. Instead of moving to an Amish community with our kids ( we get it, it's tempting), we can learn how to implement Chris's teaching of "right kids,  right tech, at the right time."

Protect Young Eyes Resources:

Start here! Do these 3 things to get started.
Learning: 5 Habits of a Tech-Ready Home on-demand course for parents.
Community: The Table

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Why do most accountability circles seem ineffective? How is it that Clint had accountability partners since high school but still struggled with his addiction?

In this episode, Charity interviews Clint about his understanding and experience with accountability and why it fell short. Is the purpose of accountability merely to publicly confess and hope to do better the following week?

Clint shares that many of his Christian AA circles focused more on "do's and don'ts" rather than on the transformation of the heart. They often failed to explain how to process emotions, triggers, or life's burdens using community support. Although the temptations and struggles of life remain, learning to manage them healthily through proactive accountability has transformed his life. Meeting weekly with brothers in Christ allows them to share feelings and triggers about their faith, family, finances, fitness, and work, which has helped him avoid medicating negative emotions related to these areas.

Clint emphasizes that we will either understand our feelings, express them, and learn how to stay safe while experiencing them or resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms. Practicing proactive accountability has become a powerful tool on his recovery journey.

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In this episode, hosts Clint and Charity engage in an insightful conversation with Erin Stretar, a skilled therapist from Ohio who holds both CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) and CPTT (Certified Partner Trauma Therapist) credentials. This discussion dives deep into the often-ignored feelings of anger that betrayed spouses experience during their recovery journeys.

Erin paints a vivid picture of the two common responses a betrayed spouse may have toward their anger. For some, this powerful emotion serves as a strategy for protection, providing a false sense of control and safety and an attempt at balancing the power differential. Conversely, others may find anger to be an unfamiliar and unwelcome feeling, fearing that expressing it could lead to even more heartache and emotional pain.

One of the key principles Erin discusses is that anger is a natural and essential reaction to feelings of injustice. She asserts the importance of giving this emotion a voice, emphasizing that when expressed healthily, anger can pave the way for healing rather than leading to feelings of guilt and shame. Clint then asks how a spouse can support their partner in processing their anger in a way that promotes healing for the betrayed spouse and strengthens their relationship. There is so much gold in here that it would take too long to write it out, so hit that play button and get your notepad ready!

Favorite One-Liners:
-Unprocessed anger results in unhealthy coping.
-If you stay angry, you can’t process other emotions like grief and fear.
-Your anger needs to be given a voice.
-Anger is a sign of injustice.

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Do you find it challenging to find joy in church on Sunday mornings while in the midst of your recovery journey? Clint and Charity often do. In this episode, they share their heartfelt struggles with serving, enjoying, and experiencing church life, even after visiting many congregations, serving in a few, and being on staff full-time.

It's vital to recognize that you're not alone in this journey. Clint and Charity aim to normalize these challenges and uplift anyone feeling the same way. Church can often feel daunting when it seems to lack authenticity, when sermons skirt around real-life issues, or when the atmosphere feels devoid of hope and joy. Yet, within this turmoil, we can still embrace and embody God's beautiful design for the Church. We can choose to be the church, worship amidst hardships, and hopefully lead the change by passionately following Christ. Together, we can open our hearts to allow Jesus to meet us in this wrestling match, guiding and teaching us along the way.

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The heart of the issue is the issue of the heart. Removing harmful behaviors may be the starting point, but heart change is when Charity started to have true hope that restoration is possible. Sobriety can’t be the ultimate focus. It’s about what we get free from AND what we get free to. Listen now to hear Charity share how Clint changed and why the changes were key to becoming Restored 2 More.

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Sometimes, God has to hit the pause button on a ministry to transform it from merely good to truly great! Clint and Charity are ready to share the incredible journey behind the scenes as they unveil the reasons the podcast took a break, the social media platform quieted, and why course #2 never reached completion. But even more thrilling is how this pause ignited a blazing new fire of enthusiasm and vision within them!

Get ready, because Restored 2 More is about to embark on an exhilarating shift that includes YOU like never before! This is a God-sized dream, and it requires a passionate God-sized team. The only question that remains is—are you ready to be part of this amazing adventure?

Once you've listened, and if your heart is stirred, we invite you to reach out and book a personal Zoom meeting with us at [email protected]. 

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In this episode, Cody and Michelle share their devastating story of betrayal due to sexual addiction and affairs in the workplace. His actions completely blindsided Michelle while Cody lied and hid in self-protection mode, unable to face the reality of where his addiction had taken him. Their story begins, like most, before they were ever together but chose to seek individual and couple's work in an attempt to experience freedom and healing. Years later, they are now the newest addition to R2M Certified Coaches and are leading our next Couples Course 1 starting on Thursday, September 14th, 2023!

Listen now to hear how they share the hurt and pain of betrayal, the questions and conflicts they wrestled with, and how God took them from crisis to closeness.

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Hey, y'all! Wow, it has been a hot minute since we have been able to record!

Today we share what's happened and why we haven't recorded a podcast in four months. We update you on what we learned through losing our home and how God has used it for good in our lives. 

Next Tuesday, we launch course 1 for a new self-led 8-week session with a pivot that makes it more affordable, accessible, and convenient. Check out the details in this episode, and then sign up through the link below. Thank you for all your continued prayers and support!

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Hillary Morgan Ferrer is the founder and Mama-Bear-in-Chief of Mama Bear Apologetics. She is the chief author and editor of the bestselling Mama Bear Apologetics: Empowering Your Kids to Challenge Cultural Lies and Mama Bear Apologetics Guide to Sexuality: Empowering Your Kids to Understand and Live Out God's Design. Hillary has her master's degree in biology from Clemson University and a master's degree in apologetics from Biola University. 

Today she shares how she was led to a deeper understanding of God and inclined to worship during her master's in biology. She explains how as she studied cell biology, she was given  example after example of how the physical attributes of our body point us to God and the spiritual realm. Her teachings and writings have inspired thousands of people to understand and experience how physical things continue to point us to the spiritual. 

She explains that if the physical points us to the spiritual, then gender and marriage have new meanings and purposes. She teaches that our bodies are the language of God's mystery, a roadmap guiding us into deeper intimacy with the Divine. 

One of our favorite moments in this recording was understanding how sex has been so perverted in our culture, distorting our view and understanding of God.  

One of the amazing questions Charity asked is, "What does it look like for us to celebrate our kid's sexuality, guide them in what is appropriate but avoid shaming them for things that they have done wrong?" Hillary takes the question and adds a new perspective on how gratitude and humility play a huge part in leading our kids in their sexuality. We too often avoid choosing gratitude and showing mercy because of our own brokenness and pride. If we can teach our kids to be self-aware through our own example of awareness, our children can choose Christ instead of merely abstaining from sin out of unhealthy motives. 

The challenge is: "Are we being then Deputy Holy Spirit to our kids and leading with shame? Or are we leading with an example of humility and gratitude?"

Hillary Morgan and Mama Bear Apologetics:
https://mamabearapologetics.com/
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