Historically women, and more specifically, black women have been taught and expected to be strong. Show up at work - be on at home. Be available emotionally for everyone and to most certainly, click on all cylinders sexually. Give it to him or someone else will! 

 

We have to be courageous. Be seen not heard. Be helpful. Be nurturing. Be self-sacrificing. Voice our opinions but not too loud. Speak up but don’t be aggressive. Be ambitious but not too flashy. Be confident but for heaven's sake, don’t be cocky. 

 

Take care of ourselves but not spend much money and frankly, it’s exhausting. Then you add a history of family unit degradation, generational traumas and a long standing inability to put our faith in anyone but ourselves, and you have a recipe for disaster. 

 

What is vulnerability and what are emotional risks when you’ve never been able to explore that realm? What does it take to truly RE(tire) these thought negative patterns and behaviors and get to a place of full healing? My mom spent so much time molding me to be strong. She knew that one day I would be a wife and Mom; fully aware of the load that her little black daughter would one day have to carry. But what she failed to tell me was that I didn't HAVE TO carry it alone. 

Join me as I chat with Chanta Blue, author, speaker and certified sex therapist on RETIRING some of the strength that we were forced to carry. Whew chile….ISSALOT but you are worth it!