What if your body has been whispering truths your mind has learned to silence?

In this episode, I sit down with Xanet Pailet—best-selling author, trauma-informed sex and intimacy educator, and the woman who has helped hundreds reclaim their pleasure after years of shutdown—to explore what it really takes to feel safe enough to feel again.

We walk through the tender terrain of:

🌿 Sexuality after trauma
🌿 Feeling safe in your own body
🌿 The difference between emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy
🌿 How stress, survival mode, and overfunctioning numb desire
🌿 Masculine & feminine energy and how they shape connection
🌿 Why communication is the doorway to both safety and pleasure
🌿 The journey from self-abandonment to self-worth inside relationships
🌿 How tantra, somatics, and nervous system healing reconnect you to pleasure

Xanet shares her own powerful story of leaving a sexless marriage, healing her relationship with her body in her 50s, and awakening to a life filled with desire, authenticity, and safety—proof that you’re never “too late,” never too far gone, and never beyond repair.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body… if stress has smothered your desire… if intimacy feels complicated or overwhelming… or if you’ve been longing to feel more alive, more open, and more you—this conversation is a gentle, liberating exhale.

This episode is an invitation to come home to yourself—one breath, one sensation, one truth at a time.

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Website: https://www.passionateintimacyretreats.com

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✨ Sacred Boundaries: Scripts for Saying No with Love ✨

If you’ve ever felt the pressure to say “yes” when your whole body was begging you to say “no,” you’re not alone. So many high-achieving, heart-centered women struggle with guilt, fear of disappointing others, or worry that boundaries will push people away.

But the truth is: boundaries don’t break relationships—they strengthen them. 💛

That’s why I created Sacred Boundaries: Scripts for Saying No with Love. It’s a free guide filled with gentle, real-life scripts you can start using today to:

🌿 Protect your energy without guilt🌿 Say no in a way that feels kind and authentic🌿 Ask for what you need—without overexplaining🌿 Create space for deeper, more respectful connections

This isn’t about being harsh or distant. It’s about finally honoring your needs while still showing up with love.

👉 Download your free guide here: ⁠⁠⁠www.drkellykessler.com/sacredboundaries⁠⁠⁠

Because your peace, your energy, and your voice matter.

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What if the feeling of “not enough” wasn’t the truth—but a wound waiting to be healed?

In this deeply honest conversation, Jetty Nieuwenhuis, speaker, model, Ironman finisher, and wellness advocate, shares her journey from bulimia, depression, and Lyme disease to radical self-acceptance.

Together, we unpack what it means to reparent your inner child, move through shame, and trust yourself again after years of people-pleasing and perfectionism.

We talk about navigating difficult relationships, releasing the victim narrative, and finding freedom in embracing all parts of who you are—especially the ones you used to hide.

Connect with Jetty:

https://www.instagram.com/trujetty/

✨ Topics We Explore:

• Inner child healing and emotional reparenting

• The connection between self-trust, shame, and eating disorders

• How to stop performing for love and start living authentically

• Releasing perfectionism and learning to be seen as you are

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still not feeling enough, this episode will help you remember the wholeness that’s been there all along.

If you tend to nod “yes” while your gut whispers “no,” this one’s for you.You’re not weak—you’ve just learned to equate kindness with compliance.To keep the peace. To avoid guilt. To hold everything together, even when it costs your own center.But every silent yes drains your energy, blurs your truth, and teaches others to expect what depletes you.Boundaries aren’t rejection; they’re self-respect in action. 💛That’s why I created Sacred Boundaries: Scripts for Saying No with Love — a free guide with real, compassionate language for moments when:🌿 You want to protect your energy without feeling selfish🌿 You’re ready to say no without apology or overexplaining🌿 You long to be honest and kind in the same breath🌿 You crave connection built on respect, not obligationThis isn’t about walls. It’s about rootedness—finally choosing peace over pleasing.👉 Download your free guide: www.drkellykessler.com/sacredboundariesBecause every “no” that honors your truth is really a deeper “yes” to yourself.Website:https://drkellykessler.com/Socials: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/drkellykessler⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drkellykessler⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/drkellykessler

Not all guilt is bad. Sometimes it’s your body whispering, “This isn’t who I want to be.” Other times, it’s someone else’s discomfort disguised as your responsibility.

In this episode, Dr. Kelly Kessler unpacks the difference between guilt that guides you back to your values and guilt that pulls you back into self-abandonment. You’ll learn how to recognize the somatic signals that tell you when guilt is a teacher—and when it’s a trap.

She shares a real-life example of value-based guilt, walks you through a simple reflection practice, and breaks down the side-by-side chart showing exactly how to tell the difference between integrity guilt and projected guilt.

If you’ve ever felt torn between honoring your peace and managing everyone else’s emotions, this one’s for you.

If guilt has been the reason your boundaries keep dissolving, it’s time to rebuild them from the inside out.

Join my free masterclass, The Hidden Cost of Peace: Rebuilding Boundaries Without Guilt, where you’ll learn how to regulate your body, quiet the people-pleasing reflex, and protect your peace without apology.

👉 Save your spot at drkellykessler.com/rebuildboundaries

Because peace that costs your sanity isn’t peace—it’s self-erasure.

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In this episode, I'm honored to chat with Lynn Hardy—actor, producer, and founder of The Aging Games—to explore what it really means to reinvent yourself at any age.

After a thriving business career, Lynn returned to acting at 55, now starring in the film Vases and co-producing Magdalena’s Land.

She shares her journey of trusting her inner voice, letting go of self-doubt, and stepping into a new chapter with courage and grace.

Together, we dive into what it takes to:

• Reclaim your power and rewrite your story after decades of “shoulds.”

• Build self-worth that isn’t tied to age, appearance, or others’ approval.

• Set boundaries that create freedom instead of guilt.

• Approach aging as an expansion of purpose, vitality, and wisdom.

If you’ve ever felt the tug of change but questioned whether it’s “too late,” this conversation will remind you—it’s never too late to begin again.

🎧 Tune in to rediscover your voice, your worth, and your limitless potential.

Connect with Lynn:

https://theaginggames.com

@TheAgingGames on all social media platforms

• ✨ Sacred Boundaries: Scripts for Saying No with Love ✨

  If you’ve ever felt the pressure to say “yes” when your whole body was begging you to say “no,” you’re not alone. So many high-achieving, heart-centered women struggle with guilt, fear of disappointing others, or worry that boundaries will push people away.

  
  

  But the truth is: boundaries don’t break relationships—they strengthen them. 💛

  
  

  That’s why I created Sacred Boundaries: Scripts for Saying No with Love. It’s a free guide filled with gentle, real-life scripts you can start using today to:

  🌿 Protect your energy without guilt🌿 Say no in a way that feels kind and authentic🌿 Ask for what you need—without overexplaining🌿 Create space for deeper, more respectful connections

  This isn’t about being harsh or distant. It’s about finally honoring your needs while still showing up with love.

  
  

  👉 Download your free guide here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.drkellykessler.com/sacredboundaries⁠⁠⁠⁠

  
  

  Because your peace, your energy, and your voice matter.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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In Part 2 of this powerful conversation, Richmond Heath goes deeper into the body’s language of safety, connection, and repair. You'll discover how true healing begins not with control, but with trust—trusting the body’s wisdom to guide release, restoration, and resilience from within.

You’ll hear Richmond explain how cultivating a sense of inner safety changes everything: your relationships, your stress response, even your ability to rest.

This episode goes beyond understanding TRE—it’s about learning to inhabit your body as a safe home again.

Tune in to discover how to stop managing stress and start transforming it.

Connect with Richmond:

https://www.treaustralia.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/richmond-heath-08719326/

Join the Self-Respect Reset Course

If you’re tired of carrying the guilt, the “shoulds,” and the constant exhaustion that comes from saying yes when your body means no—this is your moment to reset.

Self-Respect Reset is a 4-week guided experience that helps you calm your nervous system, release guilt, and rebuild self-trust from the inside out. You’ll learn how to:

✨ Say no without spiraling into shame

✨ Create peace without disconnecting from others

✨ Replace exhaustion with ease and energy

✨ Build boundaries that honor your worth without guilt

It’s time to stop surviving on empty and start living from alignment.

Join the journey at

⁠⁠www.drkellykessler.com/selfrespectreset⁠⁠

Let go of the guilt.

Leave the exhaustion behind.

Rebuild your peace, one boundary at a time.

In this episode, I sit down with Richmond Heath, a pioneer in somatic stress recovery and founder of TRE Australia. Together, they unpack the power of Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE)—a simple yet profound method that uses your body’s innate shaking reflex to discharge built-up stress and restore nervous-system regulation.

Richmond shares his unexpected journey from physiotherapy and mental-health work to discovering spontaneous movement during a meditation retreat—an experience that transformed his understanding of healing and resilience.

You’ll learn:

• What TRE is and how it differs from traditional stress-reduction methods

• Why shaking is your body’s built-in reset button for anxiety and tension

• How spontaneous movement can support emotional balance, even without mental effort

• Practical ways to begin connecting with your own tremor reflex safely

  
  

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things but still carrying hidden tension, this conversation offers a completely different doorway to peace—one that starts in the body, not the mind.

Listen now to discover how to let your body lead the way back to calm—and stay tuned for Part 2, where we explore what safety and healing truly feel like inside the body.

Connect with Richmond:

https://www.treaustralia.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/richmond-heath-08719326/

Join the Self-Respect Reset Course

If you’re tired of carrying the guilt, the “shoulds,” and the constant exhaustion that comes from saying yes when your body means no—this is your moment to reset.

Self-Respect Reset is a 4-week guided experience that helps you calm your nervous system, release guilt, and rebuild self-trust from the inside out.

You’ll learn how to:

✨ Say no without spiraling into shame

✨ Create peace without disconnecting from others

✨ Replace exhaustion with ease and energy

✨ Build boundaries that honor your worth without guilt

It’s time to stop surviving on empty and start living from alignment.

Join the journey at

⁠www.drkellykessler.com/selfrespectresetcourse⁠

Let go of the guilt.

Leave the exhaustion behind.

Rebuild your peace, one boundary at a time.

Have you ever said “it’s fine” while every part of your body screamed no?
That’s the implicit yes—the quiet agreement we give when we’re too exhausted or afraid to disappoint. It’s what happens when our nervous system learns that safety depends on keeping everyone else comfortable.

In this episode, I unpack the subtle ways high-achieving, heart-centered women abandon themselves through fawning, over-explaining, and chronic guilt.

You’ll learn:
🌿 How to spot the implicit yes hiding in your everyday interactions
🌿 Why your body confuses agreement with safety (and how to rewire that pattern)
🌿 The emotional and physical cost of living in constant compliance

This conversation is an invitation to stop performing peace and start living it.
Because your voice, your no, and your truth deserve space—without guilt.

🌿 Join the Self-Respect Reset Course

If you’re tired of carrying the guilt, the “shoulds,” and the constant exhaustion that comes from saying yes when your body means no—this is your moment to reset.

Self-Respect Reset is a 4-week guided experience that helps you calm your nervous system, release guilt, and rebuild self-trust from the inside out. You’ll learn how to:
✨ Say no without spiraling into shame
✨ Create peace without disconnecting from others
✨ Replace exhaustion with ease and energy
✨ Build boundaries that honor your worth—without guilt

It’s time to stop surviving on empty and start living from alignment.

Join the journey at

www.drkellykessler.com/selfrespectresetcourse

Let go of the guilt.
Leave the exhaustion behind.
Rebuild your peace, one boundary at a time.

What if your body held the blueprint for abundance?
In this conversation with Anna Finck, we explore the inner work of wealth—how interoception, nervous system regulation, and embodied awareness expand your capacity to both receive and sustain prosperity. Together, we unpack the shift from survival to expansion, the courage it takes to leave certainty behind, and why curiosity is often the first step toward true abundance.

If you’ve ever felt like your mind wants wealth but your body still lives in survival mode, this episode offers the bridge between the two.

✨ You’ll learn:

• How interoception connects health, wealth, and expansion

• Why safety in your body precedes sustainable success

• The difference between chasing abundance and allowing it

• How following curiosity can become your most abundant strategy

  
  

  Anna (Ah-nah) Finck (Fee-nck) is a Wellness Architect and Lifestyle Designer who is pioneering an innovative path in the wellness space. She has created a body of work called Embodied Wellness designed to transform the body, mind, and soul. Embodied Wellness is both science and spirituality, art and alchemy. In essence, it is where wellness and personal growth collide. Anna supports clients through a transformational embodiment and empowerment journey, one that she lived herself.

  
  

  After stepping away from medical school due to personal and family health crises, Anna committed herself to an unconventional, long-term and complex study of wellness. She healed her own hormonal imbalances, digestive issues, and reproductive health conditions naturally, despite the odds and lack of evidence. Anna coined the term “Pre-Conception Era” to describe a sacred, often-overlooked phase of a woman’s life: the time before conception, when she prepares physically, energetically mentally, emotionally, and spiritually to become the woman—and mother—she’s designed to be.

  Anna is devoted to supporting women in reconnecting to their bodies, reclaiming their health, remembering their power, and realizing their potential.

  Connect with Anna:

  
  

  https://www.instagram.com/iamannafinckhttps://www.facebook.com/iamannafinckhttps://www.annafinck.com

  
  

  ✨ Sacred Boundaries: Scripts for Saying No with Love ✨

  If you’ve ever felt the pressure to say “yes” when your whole body was begging you to say “no,” you’re not alone. So many high-achieving, heart-centered women struggle with guilt, fear of disappointing others, or worry that boundaries will push people away.

  
  

  But the truth is: boundaries don’t break relationships—they strengthen them. 💛

  
  

  That’s why I created Sacred Boundaries: Scripts for Saying No with Love. It’s a free guide filled with gentle, real-life scripts you can start using today to:

  🌿 Protect your energy without guilt🌿 Say no in a way that feels kind and authentic🌿 Ask for what you need—without overexplaining🌿 Create space for deeper, more respectful connections

  This isn’t about being harsh or distant. It’s about finally honoring your needs while still showing up with love.

  
  

  👉 Download your free guide here: ⁠⁠⁠www.drkellykessler.com/sacredboundaries⁠⁠⁠

  
  

  Because your peace, your energy, and your voice matter.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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When the world was in crisis, nurses like Audrey Rose carried more than their share of the weight. In this episode, Audrey opens up about her experience working on the frontlines during the pandemic, the deep burnout that followed, and the toll it took on her health and spirit.

What makes her story powerful is not just the struggle, but the path she found back: through holistic healing, nervous system regulation, and practices that allowed her to restore her energy and purpose.

If you’ve ever felt drained by caring for others, this conversation will remind you that your well-being matters too. You’ll hear how nervous system practices can become the foundation for sustainable care, both in the medical profession and in your everyday life.

Audrey is a Nervous System Regulation Coach and Registered Nurse who transformed her own life from burnout and chronic stress to one with more balance. With certifications in many somatic healing tools and years of studying the nervous system, her mission is to help ambitious women regulate their nervous systems to find balance and well being, without losing their drive. She hosts the global top 1.5% podcast, Ready To Rise. Audrey is also an author and community builder who has been featured in multiple wellness publications, on podcasts, and as a featured speaker at women's events.

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✨ Sacred Boundaries: Scripts for Saying No with Love ✨

If you’ve ever felt the pressure to say “yes” when your whole body was begging you to say “no,” you’re not alone. So many high-achieving, heart-centered women struggle with guilt, fear of disappointing others, or worry that boundaries will push people away.

But the truth is: boundaries don’t break relationships—they strengthen them. 💛

That’s why I created Sacred Boundaries: Scripts for Saying No with Love. It’s a free guide filled with gentle, real-life scripts you can start using today to:

🌿 Protect your energy without guilt🌿 Say no in a way that feels kind and authentic🌿 Ask for what you need—without overexplaining🌿 Create space for deeper, more respectful connections

This isn’t about being harsh or distant. It’s about finally honoring your needs while still showing up with love.

👉 Download your free guide here: ⁠⁠www.drkellykessler.com/sacredboundaries⁠⁠

Because your peace, your energy, and your voice matter.

Milk and Butterflies:

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So many of us are living under the weight of the implicit yes: agreeing without words, showing up when we’re depleted, saying yes with our actions even when our hearts are screaming no. It feels easier in the moment, but over time it leads to exhaustion, quiet resentment, and a sense that you’ve abandoned yourself.

In this video, we’ll explore why the implicit yes keeps you stuck, how it drains your energy, and why boundaries are not just optional; they’re essential. Boundaries are the doorway to freedom, self-respect, and peace. When you learn to say no from a grounded place, you create space to finally live in alignment with what matters most.

✨ Sacred Boundaries: Scripts for Saying No with Love ✨

If you’ve ever felt the pressure to say “yes” when your whole body was begging you to say “no,” you’re not alone. So many high-achieving, heart-centered women struggle with guilt, fear of disappointing others, or worry that boundaries will push people away.

But the truth is: boundaries don’t break relationships—they strengthen them. 💛

That’s why I created Sacred Boundaries: Scripts for Saying No with Love. It’s a free guide filled with gentle, real-life scripts you can start using today to:

🌿 Protect your energy without guilt🌿 Say no in a way that feels kind and authentic🌿 Ask for what you need—without overexplaining🌿 Create space for deeper, more respectful connections

This isn’t about being harsh or distant. It’s about finally honoring your needs while still showing up with love.

👉 Download your free guide here: ⁠⁠www.drkellykessler.com/sacredboundaries⁠⁠

Because your peace, your energy, and your voice matter.