How To Heat The Heart Of A Holy Hottie
1 Peter 3:7 (NIV)
“Husbands, in the same way BE CONSIDERATE as you LIVE WITH your wives, and TREAT THEM WITH RESPECT as the weaker partner, and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”
According to 1 Peter 3:7, three things will warm the heart of a Godly woman toward her man.
1. Understand my wife!
Hard Because of the way we’re made so different…
Starts - “BE CONSIDERATE”
Difficulty in Communication is Hard Wired (Illus. Communication 3)
Woman 25,000 words – Man 10,000 words…
Wife 45 Min to 1 Hour a day – Husband 15-20 Min. Once, Twice Week
My Wife: Deep Yearning to Know – I want to Know Her –
NOT JUST FIX HER… Understanding is the FIX!!!
Definition: Thoughtful of the needs and feelings of another.
Be in tune with her feelings.
We need to be able to discern our wives feelings and respond to them accordingly.
Don't ignore, belittle, or get angry at your wife's feelings.
Know her desires. - Concerning herself. - Concerning your family
Understand her moods.
Some days she'll be blue a need an extra dose of tenderness.
Some days she'll be fed up with the kids and need you to give her some relief.
Some days she'll feel lonely, and need a little extra time.
Some days she'll feel unlovely, and may need a new dress or a hairdo to make her feel attractive.
There's No System.
Sensitivity grows out of communication.
More than just talking. It is LOOKING, LISTENING, and LEARNING.
Many wives Say, Husbands are BLIND and DEAF Understanding their needs and desires.
So Busy trying to fix it – Never Understand Her –
Understanding is the REAL FIX!
Requires Attention - Every part of the human body communicates:
The eyes - show anger, disinterest, Happiness.
The body - It shows when it's tired, depressed, bored.
The tone of voice often reveals the truth behind our words.
Just - Open our EYES and EARS - Wives are saying (to us and to others), we would learn how to RESPOND TO THEIR EMOTIONS and MEET THEIR NEEDS.
Ask Yourself
Does she need COMFORT?
Does she need ENCOURAGEMENT?
Does she need HELP?
Does she need LEFT ALONE?
2. Spend time with my wife!
“LIVE WITH”
Most Modern Marriages – Suffer from a Simple lack of Togetherness…!
Careers have Destroyed Relationships…
Outside Interests have destroyed Relationships – No Automatic Pilot…
Lack of time together - Opens up room for a deep soul loneliness – Vulnerable!
Definition: Share my life … do things together… be companions.
(Illus.) Sharing Life is Not – Pack Mule, Mouse, Lion, Worker Bee
“What Women Want”… (Illus. Dishes with me 8)
3. Honor my wife!
Value of a Wife:
Proverbs 31:10 An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.
Prov 12:4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband
Prov 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.
Guy who didn’t do understand this (Illus. Undertaker 9)
“TREAT THEM WITH RESPECT”
Guy Really tried to Change (Illus. Come Home Drunk 7)
Definition: Show that I put her needs and desires ahead of my own by my words, attitudes, and actions.
(Illus.) GOLD
Practical ways to assign honor:
1) Tell her you love her and appreciate her…When we got Married…
2) Tell others that you love her and appreciate her (especially in her presence)
3) Treat her “Heir of the Gracious Gift of Life… Before God” --- CROSS
Frustration builds up - Shown that she is Special
“What’s Wrong?” -- “Why Frustrated?”
“TREAT THEM WITH RESPECT – AS THE WEAKER PARTNER”
Explain: “Weaker – Caution: HANDLE WITH CARE”
HOW? --- 3 Ways…
Pamper Her.
By doing so, you let her know that you want her to dress and smell like a