Do you know what a "sanctuary" is? It's a place where precious things are kept, or precious people are protected. In this podcast, the role of "sanctuary" is considered in the context of the primary relationship.

How do we work out how to influence that which we desire, and mitigate that which we don't desire? In the field of economics, the answer is Incentives & Trade-Offs. In this episode, incentives and trade-offs are explored in a relationship context. Could we be encouraging that which we do not desire, and discouraging that which we do desire?

The ability to emotionally self-regulate is an acquired skill, just like walking, cooking, or playing a musical instrument is an acquired skill.

In each of the above tasks, we both seek assistance to acquire the desired skill, and then we practice the acquired skill in order to get better at it.

Unfortunately, if reactions and responses that have been emotionally modelled to us growing up are unhelpful, hindering, or even destructive, then we likely need a course correction to learn better ways of emotionally responding or reacting.

In this Podcast, 8 Core emotions that are most often at the source of a relationship conflict are discussed in terms of managing emotional self-regulation. 

"Why does nobody take me seriously?" is a common question asked by those struggling to find their voice in relationships, work environments, or as parents. This podcast looks to answer this question in a direct and efficient way, which at first may appear somewhat uncomfortable to those not used to defending their legitimate personal sovereignty and relational territory.

What is the "what works evidence in the Mental health field?

What if what is being funded, doesn't actually work?

Over 50 reports being written about Mental Health in New Zealand since 1994, with no meaningful improvement in client outcomes.

Whether it's $1.9 billion dollars being injected into the Mental Health sector for no improvement, or the $25 million national tertiary Counselling fund that ended up costing over $82,000 per Counselling session delivered, RML Director Stephen Taylor canvasses the "what doesn't work, but what we still keep funding" ideology of the current sorry state of mental health service provision in New Zealand.

When considering a new relationship, it's not uncommon for people to be on the lookout for "red flags", or negative indicators to progress. But what do "green flags" look like, the positive indicators that encourage progression? This podcast reviews some of the more common "green flags" for anyone who is in the process of considering entering a new relationship.

If enhanced sanity is a primary goal of seeking Counselling assistance, how does one go about attaining this goal?

In this Podcast, listeners are guided through four key components (Rest, Review, Reset, Re-start) that, taken together, can result in living with an increased level of good sense, and in a reasonable and intelligent manner within the world.

The prospect of a new relationship can invoke feelings in people that can range from giddy excitement to anxious terror. 

In this Podcast, listeners are encouraged to become aware of (and then avoid) 7 common mistakes people can make when entering a new relationship.

Coupling, speed, red flags, the family of origin and more are traversed in this express summary of what NOT to do when considering a new relationship.

In order to enhance goodwill in relationships, one must:

* Stay off the defensive;

* Not go on the offensive, and;

* Not succumb to the myth of "being offended". 

Q: What is left? 

A: Taking a position of Enquiry, or seeking to understand, and then seeking to be understood, one, with another.

In this podcast, RML offers some tips towards securing better understanding and empathy in relationships via taking a mutual position of Enquiry in conflict.