You're tired, but somehow also wired. Rest doesn't quite rest you. You can't seem to switch off.

This episode explains why, and it's genuinely not your fault. You have an ancient, beautifully designed scanning system doing its best in a modern world that almost never gives it the all clear it's waiting for, where an email could be wonderful, neutral or awful, and they all look exactly the same.

But here's the twist: the answer isn't only more calm. I share why a permanently calm nervous system isn't actually the goal… and what turns out to be far more useful. There's a lovely parallel with strength training, a confession about my own back-to-back aerobics years, and a gentler way of understanding yourself that changes things on its own.

If you're curious about this work and are not sure where to start... maybe take a look at the Embodied Strength Profile a next step you can trust.

Thanks for listening to Rooted In Presence

If you’d like to get in touch with a question about today’s episode or find out how I can support you with coaching, here’s how to reach me:
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Instagram: @carlykillencoach

Do you crave unshakable confidence in your strength from midlife and beyond? Would you love to achieve your goals without sacrificing family time or self-care?

Ready to take your strength to the next level? Start building a stronger body and healthier bones with my Strong Bones Starter Kit; your step-by-step guide to safe and effective strength training at home.
👉 Click here to learn more and access today

🌟 Stay connected and inspired with daily wellness tips on Instagram @carlykillencoach
🌟 For tailored advice or personal queries, email me at [email protected]

Thank you for being here, and I look forward to supporting you on your journey to strength, health, and confidence! 💪🦴✨

Three clients, in three separate conversations this week, said a version of the same thing  and when something knocks three times, I pay attention.

They'd each realised they were spending huge amounts of energy not on doing a thing, but on repeatedly deciding whether to do it. And when they decided once, instead of over and over, something opened up. More got done  and they felt lighter.

This is a practical episode about decision fatigue, open loops, and a beautifully simple, well-evidenced tool for closing them. It's not about more willpower or hustle... it's the opposite. Think of it as discipline for people who are tired. Which, let's be honest, is most of us.

For Breathwork support find me at stillspacehull.com

For strength and menopause coaching visit carlykillen.com

Thanks for listening to Rooted In Presence

If you’d like to get in touch with a question about today’s episode or find out how I can support you with coaching, here’s how to reach me:
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Instagram: @carlykillencoach

Do you crave unshakable confidence in your strength from midlife and beyond? Would you love to achieve your goals without sacrificing family time or self-care?

Ready to take your strength to the next level? Start building a stronger body and healthier bones with my Strong Bones Starter Kit; your step-by-step guide to safe and effective strength training at home.
👉 Click here to learn more and access today

🌟 Stay connected and inspired with daily wellness tips on Instagram @carlykillencoach
🌟 For tailored advice or personal queries, email me at [email protected]

Thank you for being here, and I look forward to supporting you on your journey to strength, health, and confidence! 💪🦴✨

On a recent Wonder Walk down by the Hull marina, I spotted a boat with a name painted on the side, which became the inspiration for this week’s episode.

The words that get stuck to us when we're small, and the surprisingly expensive project of trying to outrun them. 

I share the true cost of the labels we are often given without our consent and the one question that might just flip your perspective: what if the thing you were told was wrong with you was never a defect at all?

Are you in search of a guide to support your midlife transitions? Get it touch at stillspacehull.com and carlykillen.com

Thanks for listening to Rooted In Presence

If you’d like to get in touch with a question about today’s episode or find out how I can support you with coaching, here’s how to reach me:
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Instagram: @carlykillencoach

Do you crave unshakable confidence in your strength from midlife and beyond? Would you love to achieve your goals without sacrificing family time or self-care?

Ready to take your strength to the next level? Start building a stronger body and healthier bones with my Strong Bones Starter Kit; your step-by-step guide to safe and effective strength training at home.
👉 Click here to learn more and access today

🌟 Stay connected and inspired with daily wellness tips on Instagram @carlykillencoach
🌟 For tailored advice or personal queries, email me at [email protected]

Thank you for being here, and I look forward to supporting you on your journey to strength, health, and confidence! 💪🦴✨

Content note: this episode gently touches on restrictive and disordered eating. Nothing graphic, and held with care  but please look after yourself and come back another time if that feels kinder today.

This week I had a photo taken that, completely by chance, mirrored one from my very first photoshoot five years ago. Same pose. Same kind of setting. Two very different women; or rather, the same woman, with far more of herself available to bring to the moment.

This episode is about what our reflection really shows us, and why, especially in midlife, the changing face in the mirror often isn't a problem to fix but an inner self asking to be met. I share the story of freezing in front of a camera in 2021, an idea about why we were never meant to scrutinise ourselves the way we do now, and what genuinely shifted in the years between those two photographs.

If you want support navigating midlife shifts like these, get in touch at carlykillen.com

Or discover your Midlife Presence Archetype free HERE for more resources to support your journey

Thanks for listening to Rooted In Presence

If you’d like to get in touch with a question about today’s episode or find out how I can support you with coaching, here’s how to reach me:
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Instagram: @carlykillencoach

Do you crave unshakable confidence in your strength from midlife and beyond? Would you love to achieve your goals without sacrificing family time or self-care?

Ready to take your strength to the next level? Start building a stronger body and healthier bones with my Strong Bones Starter Kit; your step-by-step guide to safe and effective strength training at home.
👉 Click here to learn more and access today

🌟 Stay connected and inspired with daily wellness tips on Instagram @carlykillencoach
🌟 For tailored advice or personal queries, email me at [email protected]

Thank you for being here, and I look forward to supporting you on your journey to strength, health, and confidence! 💪🦴✨

A shorter, gentler one about choice; not the tidy 'take control of your life' kind, but the honest kind. 

The choices we don't realise we're making, the ones we only spot after they've passed, and why 'I get to' doesn't always feel true when life is hard. If you've been feeling stuck lately, come and sit with this one.

Interested in exploring your life choices more deeply? Get in touch at carlykillen.com

Thanks for listening to Rooted In Presence

If you’d like to get in touch with a question about today’s episode or find out how I can support you with coaching, here’s how to reach me:
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Instagram: @carlykillencoach

Do you crave unshakable confidence in your strength from midlife and beyond? Would you love to achieve your goals without sacrificing family time or self-care?

Ready to take your strength to the next level? Start building a stronger body and healthier bones with my Strong Bones Starter Kit; your step-by-step guide to safe and effective strength training at home.
👉 Click here to learn more and access today

🌟 Stay connected and inspired with daily wellness tips on Instagram @carlykillencoach
🌟 For tailored advice or personal queries, email me at [email protected]

Thank you for being here, and I look forward to supporting you on your journey to strength, health, and confidence! 💪🦴✨

We've just passed the summer solstice; the peak of the light, and the precise moment it begins, very gently, to turn. It got me thinking about the thresholds we meet in midlife, and one in particular: strength.

In this episode I share a story about the heaviest weight I ever lifted on a competition platform and what happened next.

We get into the actual physiology of strength and ageing, why the cliff-edge narrative is wrong, and what genuinely changes whether you've trained for decades, are noticing a dip, or have never picked up a weight in your life and think it's too late.

Spoiler: it isn't. It might be exactly the right time.

Local to Hull? Try out the Strong Bones Club 2 week trial if you're curious about lifting in midlife and menopause. Learn more here

For gentle coaching through midlife transitions get in touch at carlykillen.com

For Breathwork 1-1 coaching and workshops head over to stillspacehull.com

Thanks for listening to Rooted In Presence

If you’d like to get in touch with a question about today’s episode or find out how I can support you with coaching, here’s how to reach me:
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Instagram: @carlykillencoach

Do you crave unshakable confidence in your strength from midlife and beyond? Would you love to achieve your goals without sacrificing family time or self-care?

Ready to take your strength to the next level? Start building a stronger body and healthier bones with my Strong Bones Starter Kit; your step-by-step guide to safe and effective strength training at home.
👉 Click here to learn more and access today

🌟 Stay connected and inspired with daily wellness tips on Instagram @carlykillencoach
🌟 For tailored advice or personal queries, email me at [email protected]

Thank you for being here, and I look forward to supporting you on your journey to strength, health, and confidence! 💪🦴✨

We so often treat joy as a destination, something we'll get to once everything is sorted, healed, achieved or resolved. I'll be happy when. I'll relax when. I'll feel free when.

But what if joy was never meant to be a finish line? What if it's already here, quietly woven through the ordinary moments we're moving too fast to notice?

In this episode I share a moment from a recent Wonder Walk that caught me completely off guard, a card about an egg that gave me permission to stop interpreting everything, and a gentle invitation to notice the nourishment that's already in your life. 

No waiting required.

Thanks for listening to Rooted In Presence

If you’d like to get in touch with a question about today’s episode or find out how I can support you with coaching, here’s how to reach me:
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Instagram: @carlykillencoach

Do you crave unshakable confidence in your strength from midlife and beyond? Would you love to achieve your goals without sacrificing family time or self-care?

Ready to take your strength to the next level? Start building a stronger body and healthier bones with my Strong Bones Starter Kit; your step-by-step guide to safe and effective strength training at home.
👉 Click here to learn more and access today

🌟 Stay connected and inspired with daily wellness tips on Instagram @carlykillencoach
🌟 For tailored advice or personal queries, email me at [email protected]

Thank you for being here, and I look forward to supporting you on your journey to strength, health, and confidence! 💪🦴✨

In this week's episode, Carly explores a very specific kind of grief: one that doesn't come from losing something, but from finally finding it. The 'why didn't I start sooner' feeling. The ache that can show up right alongside a genuine awakening.

It's something I've lived through more than once. And it's something I sit with my clients through regularly.

Come and have a listen. I think you might recognise yourself in this one.

In this episode:

— The grief of arrival — what it is and why it matters

— My own loops through this feeling (strength training, leaving the NHS, and more)

— Why the grief and the joy don't have to cancel each other out

— How breathwork and coaching have helped me process rather than suppress

— Four questions to sit with at your own pace

Links & next steps:

Still Space Hull: breathwork, coaching and community: stillspacehull.com

Book a free breathwork discovery call: Book Here

Enquire about one-to-one coaching: contact Carly

Thanks for listening to Rooted In Presence

If you’d like to get in touch with a question about today’s episode or find out how I can support you with coaching, here’s how to reach me:
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Instagram: @carlykillencoach

Do you crave unshakable confidence in your strength from midlife and beyond? Would you love to achieve your goals without sacrificing family time or self-care?

Ready to take your strength to the next level? Start building a stronger body and healthier bones with my Strong Bones Starter Kit; your step-by-step guide to safe and effective strength training at home.
👉 Click here to learn more and access today

🌟 Stay connected and inspired with daily wellness tips on Instagram @carlykillencoach
🌟 For tailored advice or personal queries, email me at [email protected]

Thank you for being here, and I look forward to supporting you on your journey to strength, health, and confidence! 💪🦴✨

If you're in a season of big change; menopause, midlife, or just that feeling of not quite knowing who you are anymore, this episode is for you. We close with a simple breath awareness practice that you can use anywhere, any time things feel like too much.

This week I learned something about butterflies that I haven't been able to stop thinking about.

Inside the chrysalis, the caterpillar doesn't just change. It dissolves. Almost completely.

And yet, one thing survives. Intact. Through all of it. 

Come and have a listen. I think you might need this one.

LINKS

Find Still Space Hull: breathwork, coaching and community for midlife transitions >> stillspacehull.com

Book a free breathwork discovery call: carlykillen.com

Enquire about the Embodied Strength Profile Assessment: carlykillen.com

Thanks for listening to Rooted In Presence

If you’d like to get in touch with a question about today’s episode or find out how I can support you with coaching, here’s how to reach me:
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Instagram: @carlykillencoach

Do you crave unshakable confidence in your strength from midlife and beyond? Would you love to achieve your goals without sacrificing family time or self-care?

Ready to take your strength to the next level? Start building a stronger body and healthier bones with my Strong Bones Starter Kit; your step-by-step guide to safe and effective strength training at home.
👉 Click here to learn more and access today

🌟 Stay connected and inspired with daily wellness tips on Instagram @carlykillencoach
🌟 For tailored advice or personal queries, email me at [email protected]

Thank you for being here, and I look forward to supporting you on your journey to strength, health, and confidence! 💪🦴✨

Something kept coming up across Carly’s client sessions this week. A composite thread running through different conversations with different clients all trying to figure out how to make their self-care and routines actually stick.

And the question that kept arising was this: could you plan your downtime as much as you plan your workout time?

In episode 137, Carly explores why scheduling the decompression first, before adding anything new, is often the missing piece. 

She introduces the continue, stop, start framework for creating space before scheduling, explores the two kinds of imbalance she sees most often, and talks honestly about what firm compassion really means in practice.

This isn’t about doing less. It’s about doing things in the right order.

In this episode:

→ Why adding new habits onto a full plate doesn’t work

→ Space before scheduling: decompression as the first habit

→ The continue, stop, start exercise for creating room

→ The two kinds of imbalance and how to know which one you’re in

→ Firm compassion: what it really means to be held accountable with care

→ Self mastery as the real investment

If you'd like to explore how to work with Carly, connect through email [email protected] or book a few clarity call at carlykillen.com

Thanks for listening to Rooted In Presence

If you’d like to get in touch with a question about today’s episode or find out how I can support you with coaching, here’s how to reach me:
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Instagram: @carlykillencoach

Do you crave unshakable confidence in your strength from midlife and beyond? Would you love to achieve your goals without sacrificing family time or self-care?

Ready to take your strength to the next level? Start building a stronger body and healthier bones with my Strong Bones Starter Kit; your step-by-step guide to safe and effective strength training at home.
👉 Click here to learn more and access today

🌟 Stay connected and inspired with daily wellness tips on Instagram @carlykillencoach
🌟 For tailored advice or personal queries, email me at [email protected]

Thank you for being here, and I look forward to supporting you on your journey to strength, health, and confidence! 💪🦴✨