RQ: Relational Intelligence Podcast with Dolphin Kasper

What does it really mean to love well—and why is it so hard to do? In this episode of the RQ: Relational Intelligence Podcast, Dolphin Kasper is joined by Kristy Scher, Relationship Coach and creator of The Adored Woman, for a wide-ranging and emotionally honest conversation about the lived reality of modern relationships. Together, they unpack the complex, often messy territory of love, self-awareness, and emotional growth, bringing clarity to why so many of us struggle in intimacy, and what it takes to create connection that actually lasts.

At the heart of this episode is the insight that we must first love poorly before we can love well. We come into relationships carrying wounds, patterns, and unconscious expectations—often shaped by our early attachments—and it’s through the rupture, repair, and reflection inside those relationships that we learn what love truly asks of us. Dolphin and Kristy explore how relational intelligence requires us to face our own emotional homes, develop the ability to differentiate without disconnecting, and show up as both sovereign and emotionally attuned partners.

This episode also zooms out to explore the cultural and technological forces shaping our relational lives. From the disembodiment and distraction created by modern tech, to the growing tension between masculine and feminine dynamics in today’s world, Dolphin and Kristy examine how these larger systems influence our capacity to connect, and how we can reclaim agency through presence, self-definition, and the cultivation of conscious values. They remind us that deep relationships require more than chemistry—they require character, courage, and care.

You’ll hear insights on emotional regulation, the importance of tolerating imperfection, and how to navigate disappointment without defaulting to blame or withdrawal. You’ll also explore the difference between choosing someone for who they are versus choosing them for who they help you become. In this way, love becomes less about having your needs met, and more about becoming someone capable of co-creating a life of meaning and mutual growth.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to move beyond surface-level advice and into the real work of relational transformation. Whether you're navigating a breakup, deepening a long-term partnership, or questioning your own patterns in love, The Art of Loving Well offers a rich and grounded conversation that will leave you more self-aware, more hopeful, and more empowered to love with integrity and depth.

https://relationflix.com/the-art-of-loving-well-a-road-map-to-healing-relational-trauma-and-creating-lasting-love-w-kristy-scher

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The Erotic Upgrade: Communication, Orgasm & the Soulmate Pact with Susan Bratton

What if better sex wasn’t about performance—but communication?

What if the biggest barrier to orgasmic, connected intimacy was simply never having been taught how?

this episode has explicit sexual content.

In this powerful and unapologetic conversation, Dolphin sits down with Susan Bratton—Intimacy Wellness Expert and bestselling author of Sexual Soulmates—to unravel the deeper truths behind pleasure, satisfaction, and sexual connection that lasts a lifetime.

Together, they explore:

• Why communication is the most underrated aphrodisiac
• The truth about orgasmic intercourse and how to make it possible
• How the Sexual Soulmate Pact can create instant safety, connection, and sexual synergy
• The real reasons some people struggle with orgasm—and how to overcome them
• Techniques like Thrust-in-Time and the role of ejaculation, amrita, and synergy in ecstatic sex
• Tools like the Relationship Magic Workbook and Sex Life Bucket List that can upgrade your love life today

This episode goes deep, wide, and deliciously real.

It’s honest, irreverent, and packed with practical wisdom you wish someone had taught you sooner.

Whether you're in a committed relationship, single and exploring, or trying to reconnect to your sensual self, this conversation will challenge old stories, debunk persistent myths, and give you powerful tools to create the intimacy—and orgasms—you deserve.

About Susan Bratton

Susan Bratton is a trusted Intimacy Wellness Expert and the bestselling author behind over 30 sexual vitality programs, including Sexual Soulmates and Relationship Magic. She is a fierce advocate for ageless, passionate intimacy and a pioneer in regenerative sexual health. Find her work at BetterLover.com and check out her supplements at The20.store.

Or find her and her work here.

About Your Host

Dolphin Kasper is the creator of the Relational Intelligence (RQ) model and has spent 25+ years helping people transform their relationships from the inside out. A dynamic speaker, coach, and educator, Dolphin has delivered over 2,500 workshops around the world. Learn more at RelationFlix.com.

This episode is for the 15% of people who are willing to fight for a better sex life.

Are you one of them?

👉 Subscribe now and share this with someone who needs to hear it.

🎧 Tune in wherever you listen to podcasts.

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Love, Loss, and Redefining the Future of Love – Angela & Paul's Journey of Breakup, Growth, and Remarriage - Episode #30:

In this raw and deeply human episode of RQ: The Relationship Intelligence Podcast, we follow the powerful real-life journey of Angela and Paul—a couple whose story includes multiple breakups, emotional reconnections, and a total redefinition of what love and partnership can look like.

From navigating the complexities of parenting, distance, and trust after a financial scam, to confronting their own blind spots, self-abandonment, and emotional triggers, Angela and Paul open up about the hard truths and transformative insights they’ve gained along the way.

Through heartbreak, therapy, and conscious uncoupling, they eventually found a new foundation—not just for love, but for personal alignment, boundaries, and lifestyle design. This conversation dives deep into the emotional terrain of modern relationships, where real growth requires real honesty.

Whether you're going through a breakup, rebuilding after emotional burnout, or simply craving clarity in your relational life, this episode will speak to your heart and your healing.

• Why trying to “fix” your relationship solo often backfires
• How parenting and geographical distance can shape relational dynamics
• The difference between intense connection and sustainable partnership
• How therapy, coaching, and deep self-reflection shift everything
• The hidden role of self-abandonment in repeated relationship breakdowns
• How to spot your own blind spots—and what to do when you see them
• What conscious uncoupling really looks like (and why it matters)
• Why lifestyle design and redefining priorities are keys to relational success

🎧 Chapters Include:

• First meetings, breakups, and emotional reunions
• Push-pull dynamics and parenting conflicts
• Trust breakdowns and the fallout from a financial scam
• Emotional invisibility, resentment, and crisis points
• The power of therapy, self-reflection, and external support
• Boundaries, self-respect, and relationship redefinition
• Blind spots, grace, lifestyle design, and the road to remarriage

💬 What’s your take on conscious uncoupling, relationship resets, and redefining love after heartbreak?

We’d love to hear your thoughts—drop a comment or DM us.

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https://relationflix.com/episode-30-love-loss-and-redefining-the-future-of-love-angela-pauls-journey-of-breakup-growth-and-remarriage

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Healing Attachment Wounds and Creating Huge Relationship Breakthroughs Using Extreme Ownership with David Lea

In this powerful and eye-opening episode of RQ: The Relationship Intelligence Podcast, host Dolphin Kasper sits down with renowned relationship coach, speaker, and author David Lea to explore the transformative power of extreme ownership in relationships. Together, they dive into the impact of childhood trauma, the dynamics of masculine and feminine energy, and the crucial role of personal responsibility in healing and relational growth.

David shares his personal journey and professional insights, shedding light on how narcissism and codependency often coexist, why trust issues stem from a lack of self-trust, and how relationships can serve as profound containers for healing. With candid reflections and actionable wisdom, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone looking to break free from past patterns and step into healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

• Extreme ownership is essential for relationship healing.
• Personal responsibility is the foundation of relational success.
• Childhood trauma has a profound impact on adult relationships.
• Healing is an individual journey before it can benefit a partnership.
• Narcissism and codependency are often interwoven.
• Healthy masculine and feminine energies create balance in relationships.
• Trust issues typically arise from a lack of self-trust.
• The healing journey is ongoing and requires deep commitment.
• Relationships can be powerful catalysts for transformation.
• Understanding personal wounds is key to relational growth.

• "You cannot mend, fix, or save a marriage."
• "You are responsible for your own healing journey."
• "Healing is blocked by the desire to blame others."

00:00 – Introduction and Focus of the Conversation

01:52 – Approaching Relationship Challenges with Extreme Ownership

03:49 – Challenging the Labeling of Behaviors

05:52 – Understanding the Role of Childhood Trauma

08:49 – The Journey of Healing and Growth

13:31 – Supporting Others in Recognizing the Need for Change

27:25 – Understanding Wounded Feminine and Masculine Energy

29:51 – The Importance of Extreme Ownership

33:23 – The Desire to Come Together and Nurture

38:29 – Embracing Core Energy for Intimacy

42:07 – Practical Steps to Identify Core Energy

47:46 – Exploring Opposite Ends of the Polarity Spectrum

49:19 – Taking Responsibility for Personal Healing

Tune in to RQ: The Relationship Intelligence Podcast and gain the tools you need to transform your relationships and your life. Subscribe now and start your journey toward deeper connection and fulfillment!

https://relationflix.com/episode-29-healing-attachment-wounds-and-creating-huge-relationship-breakthroughs-using-extreme-ownership-with-david-lea

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Understanding and Dispelling Myths about Narcissism: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse w/ Nisanka

In this enlightening episode of The Relationship Intelligence Podcast, host Dolphin Kasper teams up with life coach Nisanka to explore the intricate world of narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and co-parenting under these challenging circumstances. Together, they debunk common misconceptions and delve into the spectrum of narcissistic traits, illustrating how narcissistic individuals often target empathetic partners and create environments fraught with emotional abuse and manipulation. The discussion addresses the long-lasting impact on victims, especially children who may feel unsafe or unloved, and underscores the crucial role of self-awareness, firm boundaries, and zero tolerance for abuse in the healing process.

Listeners will gain insight into essential strategies for personal development, recovery, and trauma resolution, including how to recognize narcissistic red flags, protect one’s emotional well-being, and support children through co-parenting challenges. The conversation highlights the importance of reconciling reality with the narcissist’s “fantasy,” teaching children to advocate for themselves, and maintaining emotional health while navigating difficult relationships. This episode serves as a guide for anyone seeking a clearer understanding of narcissism, the path to healing, and the empowering process of reclaiming self-worth in the aftermath of abuse.

If you want to connect with Nisanka or find out more about her work please go to:

https://www.coachingwithnisanka.com/

For more about Dolphin and his work go to:

https://dolphinkasper.com/

If you want more relationship education content and opportunities to grow go to:

https://relationflix.com/

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"From Crippling Shame to Incredible Connection: Embracing Growth & Authentic Relationships with Shane Kohler"

In this Episode of the Relationship Intelligence Podcast, Shane Kohler discusses the challenges of dating and relationships, emphasizing the importance of staying grounded and clear. He also explores the balance between online dating and real-world connections. As a coach, Shane provides practical takeaways for listeners to implement in their own lives.

The conversation concludes with a discussion on preparing for the interview and the distribution of the video format. Overall, the conversation highlights the difficulties of dating, the need for self-awareness, and the importance of personal growth in relationships. The conversation explores the themes of shame, self-worth, and healing. It delves into the importance of addressing shame and working with it in order to develop a positive and healthy sense of self.

The role of identity and somatic elements in the healing process is discussed, emphasizing the need to reframe one's identity and release stagnant energy from the body. Practical steps for healing are provided, including body scanning and breathing exercises. The conversation also touches on the role of the ego in healing and the importance of practical experience in personal growth. Finally, the challenges of finding authentic connection in the modern world are explored, along with the importance of acceptance and exploring one's passion.

In this conversation, Dolphin Kasper and Shane Kohler discuss the paradox of self-acceptance and personal growth. They explore the importance of embracing the dark night of the soul and how it can lead to transformation. Shane shares his personal journey of going from jail to healing and how it impacted his relationships. They also discuss finding love and connection in challenging times and the power of going to the edges and coming back. The conversation concludes with a focus on shifting the focus from dating to connection.

Key takeaways:

• Addressing shame and working with it is crucial for developing a positive and healthy sense of self.
• Reframing one's identity and releasing stagnant energy from the body are important steps in the healing process.
• Practical exercises such as body scanning and breathing can help release tension and promote healing.
• The ego can hinder healing and it is important to surrender control and allow the healing process to unfold naturally.
• Practical experience and taking action are essential for personal growth and development.
• Finding authentic connection in the modern world can be challenging, but accepting oneself and exploring passions can help in building meaningful relationships. Self-acceptance and personal growth are not contradictory but rather complementary. It's about becoming more of yourself and embracing your journey as a work in progress.
• The dark night of the soul is an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. It is in facing our deepest fears and uncertainties that we find wisdom and transformation.
• Finding love and connection requires a shift in mindset from seeking to acquire something to creating meaningful connections. It's about cultivating connection in all areas of life and being open to the possibilities.
• Going to the edges and coming back is a powerful journey that allows us to bring depth and wisdom to our relationships. It is through facing our own darkness that we can truly appreciate the light.

https://relationflix.com/from-crippling-shame-to-incredible-connection-embracing-growth-authentic-relationships-with-shane-kohler

Welcome to Episode 26 of The Best Relationship Podcast with Dolphin Kasper! In this special episode, Dolphin is joined by three remarkable guests: Philippe Lewis, Francesca Gentille, and Sarah D'Antoni. Together, they dive deep into the nature of attachment in human relationships and share their unique approaches to healing insecure attachment.

This enriching conversation touches on common themes and challenges associated with insecure attachment and explores the primary attachment styles. The guests introduce the concept of "the journey to secure" as a framework for understanding and navigating the transition from insecure to secure attachment.

• Philippe Lewis brings his expertise in empowerment, sovereignty, and various forms of intelligence and sense-making in intimate relationships. He discusses how these elements are crucial for navigating and deepening intimate connections.
• Francesca Gentille shares her profound knowledge of inner aspects and parts work. She emphasizes the importance of gaining confidence in caring for these parts to achieve wholeness and maturity, especially when relationships become challenging.
• Sarah D'Antoni offers a unique perspective on the histories and lineages of attachment. She focuses on the role of belonging in our relational systems and how finding our true place within these systems can lead us back to security and wholeness.

This powerful conversation provides a real roadmap for anyone looking to heal their deepest attachment wounds and create the love they most desire. The discussion is not only enlightening but also practical, offering insights that listeners can apply to their own lives.

Additionally, this episode highlights an incredible opportunity for deeper learning and healing: the annual summer retreat, "Journey to Secure," hosted by these four relationship experts. Happening on July 18th-23rd in Northern California, this 6-day retreat immerses participants in the work of attachment healing, promising newfound clarity and security in fostering long-term, healthy connections.

Join us for this transformative episode and take the first step on your journey to secure attachment. Subscribe, tune in, and discover the magic of healing and growth in your relationships!

https://relationflix.com/the-journey-to-secure-attachment-healing-insecure-bonds-with-expert-insights-with-philippe-lewis-francesca-gentille-and-sarah-dantoni

Episode #25: Journey to Secure Love with Julie Menanno and Philippe Lewis

Welcome to Episode #25 of "The Best Relationship Podcast with Dolphin Kasper"! In this special episode, Dolphin sits down with two incredible guests: Julie Menanno and Philippe Lewis.

Julie Menanno MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, and renowned Relationship Coach. With a Master’s degree in Psychology from Phillips Graduate Institute in Los Angeles, Julie brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to her clinical therapy practice in Bozeman, Montana.

She also leads a global relationship coaching practice with a team of dedicated coaches. Julie specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and is an expert in addressing attachment issues within relationships. You might know her from her popular Instagram account, @thesecurerelationship, or her new book, "Secure Love."

In this insightful conversation, Julie and Philippe delve into the true meaning of secure love, based on the principles in Julie's latest book. They explore a four-stage model of developing security in relationships, providing practical skills, tools, and personal stories to help you understand and overcome insecure relationship strategies.

You'll also hear about the thriving attachment community on Facebook and get details on the upcoming "Journey to Secure" retreat near the Bay Area, happening from July 18th to 23rd.

Join us for an enlightening discussion that will transform your approach to relationships and guide you on your journey to secure love.

Listen now and take the first step towards a more secure and fulfilling relationship!

https://relationflix.com/journey-to-secure-love-with-philippe-lewis-and-julie-menanno

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Episode #24: "Redefining Masculinity: A Journey to Authenticity and Confidence"

Join host Dolphin Kasper in a powerful conversation with men's coach and facilitator, Soma Miller, as they delve into the complexities of modern masculinity. In this episode, Dolphin and Soma explore the challenges men face in today's world, the importance of healing emotional wounds, and the journey toward authenticity, confidence, and leadership.

In a society where men are often expected to "do it on their own," Dolphin and Soma shed light on the struggles many men face in their pursuit of success, happiness, and fulfillment. They discuss the impact of societal norms and expectations on men's mental health, relationships, and overall well-being. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, Soma offers valuable guidance on how men can navigate these challenges and cultivate a deeper sense of self-awareness and purpose.

Soma shares his own experiences of overcoming fear, posturing, and the pressure to conform to traditional masculine stereotypes. He highlights the importance of self-discipline and emotional intelligence in the journey towards authentic masculinity and effective leadership as well as his experience raising his daughter. Additionally, Soma and Dolphin touch on the role psychedelics can play in providing men with valuable insights and realizations on their journey of self-discovery and personal growth.

By challenging key misunderstandings and addressing crucial changes that men must make, Soma provides listeners with practical tools and strategies to lead lives of meaning and integrity. Whether you're a man struggling to find your place in the world or someone seeking to better understand the men in your life, this episode offers valuable insights and perspective.

Listeners will find this conversation to be natural, relatable, and highly supportive. Tune in and discover the path to reclaiming your power, embracing your authenticity, and living a life you love. Don't miss out on this insightful discussion that is sure to resonate with anyone looking to redefine masculinity, find their purpose, and cultivate genuine confidence, pride, and leadership skills.

https://relationflix.com/redefining-masculinity-a-journey-to-authenticity-and-confidence-with-soma-miller

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Episode 23: Embracing Vulnerability and Personal Power with Heart Ninja Emily Orum

Join Dolphin Kasper in an invigorating conversation with Emily Orum, also known as the Heart Ninja, as they dive deep into the intricacies of relationships, personal growth, and empowerment.

In this episode, Dolphin and Emily explore the delicate balance between compassion and authenticity, emphasizing the importance of attunement and discernment in effective communication. Emily shares her journey to becoming the Heart Ninja, highlighting the transformative power of vulnerability and self-ownership.

Discover the significance of building support structures and cultivating authentic connections as essential tools for navigating life's challenges. Through heartfelt discussion, Dolphin and Emily underscore the importance of connecting to the meaning of life and choosing love and creation.

Key Takeaways:

• Balancing Compassion and Authenticity: Learn why finding the right balance is crucial in fostering healthy relationships.
• Embracing Vulnerability: Explore how embracing vulnerability and self-ownership leads to profound personal growth and empowerment.
• Building Support Structures: Discover the importance of authentic connections and support systems in navigating life's challenges.
• Choosing Love and Creation: Connect with the deeper meaning of life and learn how to make choices that lead to fulfillment and inspiration.

Tune in to this enlightening episode and unlock the secrets to embracing vulnerability, recognizing personal power, and choosing a life filled with love and creation.

Listen now on Relationflix or wherever you get your podcasts!

Love,

Dolphin Kasper

Co-founder of Relationflix & Founder of Evolve Now

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