When my now husband and I were dating, I was, for a period of time, the “bread winner” and often treated him and my son to a nice meal out when I wasn’t cooking or for a special occasion. I noticed that he would always order the same meal as me, or something that was the same price or less expensive.

我和现在的丈夫还在约会的时候，曾经有一段时间，我是“负责生计”的那个，不自己下厨或有值得庆祝的事情时，带他和我儿子出去吃饭都是我来付钱。我注意到他总是点和我一样的餐，或相同价位甚至便宜一些的。

When I finally asked him why he did that, rather than getting what he truly desired, he explained that whenever he goes out to eat and isn’t paying, he orders the same thing as the host as a sign of respect. It used to bother me that he wouldn't get what he wanted if he perceived it as too expensive, but I understand that he is the epitome of a Southern gentleman.

当我终于忍不住问他不点自己真正想吃的，而这样做的原因时，他解释说，只要和别人吃饭时自己不付钱，他就点和主人一样的以表示尊重。那时看到他因为觉得贵而不点自己喜欢的菜时，觉得心里特别不是滋味，但我完全理解，因为他是一位典型的南方绅士。

He still has the tendency to do that now, out of habit, but I found out that if I insist that he orders first I can get around it ;)

其实出于习惯，他现在还是经常会这样做，但我发现，如果我执意让他先点菜的话，问题就解决啦！