In this episode, we talked about the process of moving from rupture to repair with our children. We emphasise the difference that happens when are are not willing to judge ourselves or pick up the guilt sticks, and not being willing to say things like, “I shouldn’t have done that” or “I’m a naughty mummy” or “what I did was wrong.” We offer ways to take responsibility and apologise without judging ourselves. We share how this helps children when they are needing to repair. We also suggest attachment play that we can use to support the repair process, such as the doing over game and power-reversal games.

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Marion and Lael
xoxo

Episode 104: Rupture and repair

The Aware Parenting Podcast is based on Aware Parenting which was created by Aletha Solter, PhD. Marion Rose, PhD is a level two Aware Parenting instructor and the regional coordinator for Australia and New Zealand. The podcast explores all aspects of parenting and reparenting from an Aware Parenting perspective.

Kids & Family

In this episode, I talk to Maru Rojas again. Maru is an Aware Parenting instructor in the UK and is originally from Mexico. She was a guest on the podcast on episode 139, also talking about sleep. If you haven't listened to that episode, I highly recommend listening to it after this one.

Maru shares her journey of sleep with her daughter and son, as she gradually increased the depth of her understanding and practice of Aware Parenting.

In particular, she talks about her daughter's night waking and moving all around the bed as a toddler. 

She shares how she stopped breastfeeding at night, and about her increasing awareness of the surprising control pattern that was the lynchpin for more sleep.

She also shares more about the huge difference in sleep between her daughter and her son, with whom she started practicing Aware Parenting with at birth, alongside having much more understanding and experience with Aware Parenting by that time.

Maru is also a teacher of Elimination Communication and offers courses and 1:1 consultations in both EC and Aware Parenting.

You can find out more about her work and can contact her at: https://parenttogether.co.uk/ and https://www.instagram.com/_maru.rojas_/

Episode 184: Night waking and night weaning for toddlers, with Maru Rojas

In this episode, I share why Aware Parenting doesn't include the terms 'overtired', 'wake windows', and 'sleep regression', and what we perceive is going on when these terms are used.

Because Aware Parenting has such different ways of understanding what's going on with sleep, it doesn't use a lot of terminology commonly used in other parenting paradigms.

If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here:
https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 183: Why terms such as 'overtired', 'wake windows', & 'sleep regression' aren't used in AwP

In this episode, I talk about the three ingredients for restful sleep. 

The first is well-known, the second is less well-known in this culture, and the third is often not recognised at all.

I also explain the three different ways to bring about calmness before sleep, and why two of those only lead to superficial calmness, which often leads to babies and children waking up easily and frequently.

Then I share the third way, which leads to deep relaxation.

This is a part of Aware Parenting, and I talk about why that way that leads to relaxed, restful and restorative sleep.

If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here:
https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 182: The three ingredients for relaxed, restful and restorative sleep

This little mini episode continues on from the last episode on cultural beliefs in relation to sleep.
I talk about how looking at sleep practices all around the world helps us understand biological needs and cultural practices.
Babies and children vitally need sleep, so it's adaptive for there to be many ways to support them to be able to go to sleep in whatever climate and culture, but these different ways have consequences in other areas.

There are three reasons I find it helpful to look at the wider cultural context with sleep:
To see how sleep practices are related to climate, culture, etc.
To get free from shame and guilt about what others might think if you choose your own way.
To see clearly what you might hvae been told is from a cultural belief rather than what's most helpful for babies and children.

I also talk about the three main ways for sleep to happen:
With closeness - eg movement, feeding, etc. -> frequent night waking.
Without closeness - eg. swaddling, stillness, etc -> baby wakes up but doesn't call out.
Aware Parenting: Closeness and natural relaxation through release -> more relaxation and more restful sleep and longer sleep.

If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here:
https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 181: Sleep, cultural contexts, and Aware Parenting

I love looking at how cultural beliefs and practices affect parenting, and in this episode I explore this in relation to sleep for babies and children.
I talk about The Continuum Concept book about the Yequana people, by Jean Liedloff, and how reading it affected me back in 1992.
I explore how Classical Attachment Parenting was deeply influenced by Indigenous cultures in hot climates, and how parenting beliefs and practices were often quite different in cold climates.
I share about how Aware Parenting aims to differentiate between parenting practices that are based on cultural beliefs around and practices that are based on innate needs and body wisdom.
If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here:
https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 

You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net

You can also find me here:
https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/
https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/
https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/
www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Episode 104: Rupture and repair

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