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S01E61- Building a Thicker Skin
INTRO
Today, we're talking about the freedom we get when we stop taking everything so personal.
THE CHALLENGE
The challenge with not taking things personal is that sometimes it's hard not to. You're so invested to whatever it is that you're doing that when someone dislikes it or critiques it, you feel hurt or offended.
So the question now is, what does the freedom feel like? And how do I get there?
Some steps to help you out!
- Know Your Self-Worth.
If you know yourself and your worth as a person, you won't be so quick to take the judgments of others personally. Take time to get to know yourself apart from who others may say you are.
- Know Your Emotional Triggers.
All of us have emotional triggers from the past. Certain actions people take may trigger us to become sensitive about particular things. For example, if your father was overly critical, and you tried to be perfect to please him, someone pointing out that you made a mistake could trigger you to feel more sensitive than another person might under the same circumstances. When you do get upset about a situation, ask yourself, "Am I really upset about this situation, or is this one of my emotional triggers?"
- Practice Authenticity.
This is the practice of letting go of thinking that you need to be someone else and actually embracing who you are. You must truly accept who and what you really are in order to be authentically you. Practice authenticity by doing what's best for you, putting yourself first, and really understanding what's good for you.
- Set Boundaries.
Setting proper boundaries in your relationships will help you take things less personally. You put these boundaries in place by saying no to work, love, or activities that you don't want to do or that harm you emotionally. Doing too much to please others can lead you to feel overly sensitive when they do something that upsets you.
5.Let It Go.
Use a painful experience from your past to help make you who you are. Use it to give you strength, empathy, and character. We all have something that has hurt us. Don't let it define who you are. Instead, use it to get stronger and make yourself proud. You've been there, you can get passed anything.
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By Andres MartinezINTRO
Today, we're talking about the freedom we get when we stop taking everything so personal.
THE CHALLENGE
The challenge with not taking things personal is that sometimes it's hard not to. You're so invested to whatever it is that you're doing that when someone dislikes it or critiques it, you feel hurt or offended.
So the question now is, what does the freedom feel like? And how do I get there?
Some steps to help you out!
- Know Your Self-Worth.
If you know yourself and your worth as a person, you won't be so quick to take the judgments of others personally. Take time to get to know yourself apart from who others may say you are.
- Know Your Emotional Triggers.
All of us have emotional triggers from the past. Certain actions people take may trigger us to become sensitive about particular things. For example, if your father was overly critical, and you tried to be perfect to please him, someone pointing out that you made a mistake could trigger you to feel more sensitive than another person might under the same circumstances. When you do get upset about a situation, ask yourself, "Am I really upset about this situation, or is this one of my emotional triggers?"
- Practice Authenticity.
This is the practice of letting go of thinking that you need to be someone else and actually embracing who you are. You must truly accept who and what you really are in order to be authentically you. Practice authenticity by doing what's best for you, putting yourself first, and really understanding what's good for you.
- Set Boundaries.
Setting proper boundaries in your relationships will help you take things less personally. You put these boundaries in place by saying no to work, love, or activities that you don't want to do or that harm you emotionally. Doing too much to please others can lead you to feel overly sensitive when they do something that upsets you.
5.Let It Go.
Use a painful experience from your past to help make you who you are. Use it to give you strength, empathy, and character. We all have something that has hurt us. Don't let it define who you are. Instead, use it to get stronger and make yourself proud. You've been there, you can get passed anything.