In this episode, I’m chatting with my friend Thalia about her experience of being a lesbian while living with borderline personality disorder and bipolar type 2. Thalia shares what life felt like before she had words for her inner world, what it was like to finally receive her diagnoses, and the mix of relief, grief, fear, and clarity that came with that. We talk about how those labels initially shifted the way she saw herself, and the parts of BPD and bipolar that don’t get spoken about enough but show up very real in her day-to-day life.

We also dive into how intense emotions can play out in relationships, dating, and falling in love, especially within queer spaces. Thalia reflects on moments of feeling misunderstood by the mental health system, times where her feelings felt hard to trust, and what’s helped anchor her when things feel chaotic inside. We talk boundaries, safety in love, and the relationships and friendships that have felt grounding, regulating, and genuinely healing. This episode gently challenges the “too much” stereotypes around BPD and bipolar, and offers an honest, compassionate look at love, identity, and learning to understand yourself with more softness over time.