In this episode, I’m answering anonymous instagram questions about coming out, labels, fear, and community.

We talk about that strange mix of relief and heaviness after coming out, and whether that feeling ever shifts. I share how living openly felt like putting down a backpack I didn’t realise I was carrying.

We get into the reality that coming out isn’t a one-time thing. It shows up at work, with family, in dating. Over time, you learn discernment, when to share and when you don’t owe anyone anything.

We also chat about the fear of pushing people away, label pressure, and how identity can evolve. And finally, we talk about how powerful queer community can be when you’re figuring yourself out.

Today I’m joined by Brihony Dawson, a non-binary entertainer, performer, and entrepreneur who’s built a life and career by backing themselves, even when the path wasn’t obvious.

We talk about Brihony’s gender journey, their experience of top surgery, and how they went from feeling stuck in jobs that didn’t fit, to touring the world and now running a seven-figure entertainment business.

This is a conversation about finding alignment, trusting your instincts, and figuring out who you are when you stop living by other people’s rules. Enjoy my loves xx

To find Brihony's Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/brihonydawson/

Brihony's entertainment business:

https://brihonydawson.com/

In this episode of Less Surface Level, I sit down with Blue and Kim, two lesbians who are on a huge travel year together and sharing their lives online, joining us from Vietnam.

We talk about how life has shifted for them over the last few years, including living in Amsterdam and taking a year off to travel together as partners. We explore the big moments that shaped who they are, the beliefs they’ve had to unlearn, and the fears they’ve had to face along the way.

Blue and Kim open up about what drew them to each other, how they navigate conflict and vulnerability while being visible online, how they protect their individuality, and what they need from each other in moments of stress. We also talk about coming out, what queerness means beyond sexuality, and how love can evolve when you give each other room to grow. It’s an honest, grounding conversation about partnership, growth, and the quieter things we admire in each other but don’t always say out loud.

To follow their journey:

https://www.instagram.com/blueandkim/

In this episode, I’m chatting with my friend Thalia about her experience of being a lesbian while living with borderline personality disorder and bipolar type 2. Thalia shares what life felt like before she had words for her inner world, what it was like to finally receive her diagnoses, and the mix of relief, grief, fear, and clarity that came with that. We talk about how those labels initially shifted the way she saw herself, and the parts of BPD and bipolar that don’t get spoken about enough but show up very real in her day-to-day life.

We also dive into how intense emotions can play out in relationships, dating, and falling in love, especially within queer spaces. Thalia reflects on moments of feeling misunderstood by the mental health system, times where her feelings felt hard to trust, and what’s helped anchor her when things feel chaotic inside. We talk boundaries, safety in love, and the relationships and friendships that have felt grounding, regulating, and genuinely healing. This episode gently challenges the “too much” stereotypes around BPD and bipolar, and offers an honest, compassionate look at love, identity, and learning to understand yourself with more softness over time.

For the season finale I’ve got a change of pace, the mic gets turned around and my girl Holly interviews me while we have a few pre-drinks. 

We start with a quick fire about guilty pleasures, google searches, and the best advice I’ve ever been given and then get into bigger questions about work, identity, mental health, queerness and illness.

We talk about what people often assume about me in the first 10 seconds, how childhood illness shaped my relationship with my body and safety, what my mental health lows have taught me, and how queerness, business, healing, and purpose all intersect in this season of life. Thought it was about time I practiced what I preach and get less surface level with you guys, enjoy x

1. this is basically my mini survival guide for heartbreak, the actually-helpful things that kept me afloat.
2. if you’re freshly going through a break up, need a helping hand or chronically overthinking about the what ifs, hopefully this is an antidote.
3. i love you. it get's easier.

T. X

Today I'm sitting down with my beautiful friend Courtney to explore the parts of her story that often stay unseen, the ones that shaped how she came to understand herself, her sexuality, and the kind of love that comes from realising what you deserve.

We talk about dating women for the first time, the patterns she noticed repeating, and the lessons that showed her the version of herself she was growing into. Courtney shares the moment she realised she deserved more than the love she had accepted in the past, and the boundaries and non-negotiables that became clearer along the way.

Courtney also opens up about falling in love with Amy, the ways she softened in the safety of that relationship, and what felt different about Amy from the beginning. She speaks honestly about what was happening internally for her in those early days, and how being with Amy changed what she believed she deserved in love.

We then move into their donor conception journey, from the first conversations about having a baby to the emotional and practical realities of researching fertility options, choosing a donor, and the conception process as a same-sex couple. Courtney shares what she wishes she knew earlier, what felt overwhelming, and how this process both strengthened and stretched their relationship. Finally, she offers gentle guidance for queer women who want to explore donor conception but don’t know where to begin.

This episode is a tender look at identity, unlearning, partnership, and creating a family in a way that feels true.

To follow Courtney's journey:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courtneygledhill/

Today I’m sitting with Brooke Blurton, Noongar woman, youth worker, author, television figure, and powerful voice in queer and First Nations storytelling; for a conversation that steps beyond the public versions of her life.

Together we explore what the last year has looked like for Brooke, including a deep chapter of healing, self-connection, and learning how to hold herself with more softness. Brooke discusses what it means to begin a love affair with yourself, and the difference between inner work done quietly and the expectations placed on her publicly.

We look at inner child work, where Brooke shares how reconnecting with “little Brooke” has shaped her healing, and helped her create emotional safety as an adult.

Sweet Sammy Foster is back on Less Surface Level, and a lot has changed since we recorded an episode a year ago. In this episode, we catch up on everything that’s happened in her world; the heartbreak, the healing, the lessons, and the ways she’s grown into a clearer, stronger version of herself.

We talk about what it’s like to look back at your past self after a big chapter ends, the things that surprised her most about who she’s becoming, and how her values in love and relationships have shifted. Sammy shares openly about moving through a breakup, what was hardest to let go of, how it changed the way she sees herself, and the support and practices that actually helped.

We also get into the real, messy parts of wlw relationships: the red flags that make more sense now, the green flags she actually pays attention to, and how trusting herself has become a whole new skill. Sammy reflects on the role queer community has played in her healing, and why talking honestly about queer relationships matters so much.

Ever wondered if you're queer enough to be involved in the LGBTQIA+ community?

Today we answer this question and so much more. I'm meeting Moose. She is Queer, Polyamorous, and brilliant. Moose is works at Queer Move, a company dedicated to providing a safe and welcoming culture for Queer people to work at.

Moose discusses her diagnosis of Autism and ADHD, her experiences as a Queer, Polyamorous woman, and how therapy supported her to understand herself in a way that allows her to be authentically her. She talks about acceptance, love and relationships in a way that reminds us that being exactly who we are is always the key that unlocks what we want and need.

Finally we chat about how her Queer community has evolved significantly over time, and we discuss how that evolution feeds into the culture and operations of Queer Move.

To find out more about Queer Move and Moose:

https://www.instagram.com/queermove/

https://www.instagram.com/theloosemoose/

https://www.queermove.net/