For the narc, suffering is not enough. You must prove it -- and prove it until they allow you to stop.

It is not enough to grieve—they must see it in your eyes.

It is not enough to apologize—they must hear it in your voice, over and over, long after the moment has passed.

It is not enough to endure pain—they must ensure you carry it, wear it, and perform it indefinitely.

And if you dare to heal too soon? They will punish you for it.

In this episode of Defense Against the Narc Arts, we reveal the ritual of forced suffering—how the narc demands you stay wrapped in guilt, shame, and grief for as long as they decide. We break down why they deny you permission to heal, the spells they use to keep you stuck, and most importantly—how to cast off the ashes and reclaim yourself.

Because healing is not something you have to earn. It is something that belongs to you. Tune in now.