At what point does respect start to feel like pressure?

In this episode of Perspective Unfiltered, I reflect on growing up in an African household where being “respectful” often means being quiet, obedient, and not questioning anything.

But somewhere in all of that, it’s easy to lose your voice without even realising it.

This isn’t about being disrespectful… it’s about understanding the difference between respect and people pleasing, and learning how to exist without constantly shrinking yourself.

My article on people pleasing

https://open.substack.com/pub/bisolasdiary/p/is-it-people-pleasing-or-just-manipulation?r=6l0qe5&utm_medium=ios

The enmeshment article

https://open.substack.com/pub/beautifullyunscripted/p/some-mothers-do-not-like-their-daughters?r=6l0qe5&utm_medium=ios