Self seeking is the selfish promotion of ones interest without concern for that of others. On this episode Toru explains that seeking the attention of our partners and withholding ours from because we don't care about their welfare, as far as we are getting our way in the dating-relationship is a self-seeking wicked act. So get it right and fix things. Ps self-seeking is not selfishness one seeks interests, the other lives in interest in the detriment of another.