Becoming a new father is hard.

You’re in a hospital, probably resting on an uncomfortable couch,

your wife goes through a long tense labor process that you have no way to help with,

and then they hand you a baby, and probably tell you to take your shirt off.

But what then?

Whether you’re ready for it or not, this is now your new life. And nothing can prepare you for it.

All the books in the world or conversations with other fathers will never be enough to replace the lessons you will learn as you walk through new challenges and experiences that fatherhood brings.

Most importantly, the baggage, whether you have done the work to process it or not, will begin to show up again. Stuff you’ve forgotten about, stuff you’ve worked through, it all comes back in new ways.

Because being a parent opens your eyes to many new avenues of life. You see things the way your father saw things. And sometimes this isn’t easy to process.

How could he have done that?

How did he get through that?

What was he thinking when…

Did he realize that was hurting me?

Did he mean to hurt me?

Why didn’t he ask for help?

Will I be able to be better?

Fatherhood brings out the best, and worst, of our childhood.

And if we aren’t prepared to walk through it, it can very easily hold us back from being the best father’s we can be.

Hi, my name is Ryan Guerra, and this is A Father’s Voice, and today we talk with my friend Martin Cervantes. Martin and his wife Nelly are new parents to a wonderful little boy named Jonah. I have had the opportunity to walk alongside Martin since day one of him being a father, and I’ve seen him grow more and more into his role as a dad, and recently as the primary provider for his son Jonah.

Martin is a quiet man. A truly humble dude. He thinks less of himself than most I talk to, admittedly almost to his detriment.

And yet he is super talented, and has a high capacity to love and care for others. He’s also one of the few people in my life who can consistently cause me to laugh out loud in public.

I cherish our friendship. I’ve greatly grown in my admiration for him, and have been thankful he’s trusted me to speak into his life as a new father and a man. I brought him onto the show because I wanted to hear his experiences as a new dad, what I got was so much more, and I’m excited to share this conversation with you on this episode.

And so I am proud to present to you, my conversation with Martin Cervantes.

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