No, we aren't talking The Bachelor. We are talking Season 3, Episode 1 of Sex and the City, "Where There's Smoke," with Kate Lindsay of Refinery29. This episode is all about how we try to rescue one another and we get into:

• Do women want to be rescued then or now?
• Is "fixing" people a version of rescuing them?
• Are there different levels of rescuing someone?
• Dating (judging) people based on where they live
• The role of fantasies
• Manifesting

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