Gossip might feel harmless—just “sharing” or “processing”—but it can quietly destroy relationships, hearts, and trust. In this episode, Becky and Zer dive into the sneaky ways gossip shows up in our lives—whether it’s disguised as a prayer request, masked as concern, or shared under the label of “processing.”

They explore important questions:

• What actually counts as gossip?
• Are you responsible if you just listen to it?
• How do you respond when you’re the one gossiping, the bystander, or the one being gossiped about?
• Gossip, often regarded as a social norm, can have damaging effects on relationships and community dynamics.
• Understanding the definition of gossip is imperative to discern when it becomes harmful or unhelpful in conversations.
• It is essential to approach discussions about others with a mindset of honor and respect, rather than judgment or criticism.
• Engaging in gossip not only reflects poorly on the speaker but can also undermine the integrity of the community as a whole.

Through vulnerable stories and biblical wisdom, they unpack how gossip reveals the condition of our hearts and why honoring others—especially when they're not in the room—matters deeply to God.

📖 Scriptures Mentioned:

• Proverbs 16:27–28 – “A gossip separates close friends…”
• James 3 & 4:11 – On the power of the tongue and slander
• Romans 1:28–32 – How gossip is listed among sins that break relationship with God
• Galatians 5:16–26 – Walking by the Spirit vs. gratifying the flesh
• James 2:12–13 & 1 Peter 2:9 – On mercy, identity, and living as God’s chosen people
• Matthew 5:23–24 – The call to be reconciled before offering your gift

💡 Practical Tips:

• Keep your processing circle small and spiritually mature
• Guard your words—especially when you're hurt
• Ask the Holy Spirit to check your heart before you speak
• When in doubt: pray instead of pass the info
• If someone gossips to you—change the subject, redirect, or lovingly shut it down

Whether you've been the gossiper, the bystander, or the one gossiped about, this episode reminds us all: there’s grace, redemption, and a better way forward. Don’t miss it.

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