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“Boundaries are the way in which you teach others how to treat you,” says Audia Reggie. “Without boundaries, you don’t have self-respect.” Not only does Audia teach others about the importance of boundaries in her role as a psychotherapist, but she also regularly shares her words of wisdom on her TikTok account @truthheals.
Although Audia started her TikTok account primarily as a COVID pastime, she quickly noticed a need for more content surrounding the intersection between parenting and intergenerational trauma. After posting her first video and receiving a surprising amount of encouraging feedback, Audia went on to produce more regular content and now has over 60k followers!
As for her role as a psychotherapist, Audia explains that the two most crucial things she tells her clients are to (1) critically reflect on how their childhood has shaped them and (2) create meaningful and resilient boundaries. Audia actively incorporates both of these tips into her own parenting style by encouraging her two-and-a-half-year-old daughter Nyma to always ask questions, use her voice, and feel comfortable telling others no.
Join Eric and Nina Quick on this week’s episode of Bathtime 2 Boardroom for a conversation with Audia about helping your child find their voice. Learn why breaking away from the mistakes of our parents requires us to confront our intergenerational trauma, how Audia has managed to avoid unsolicited advice about her daughter, and why trusting your intuition is key when it comes to parenting.
Quotes
• “We as parents have good intentions...and we all are left with a sense that we want to do better than our parents, we want to provide our children with more. But for a lot of people, it stops right there. And the reason is that it requires a deep amount of introspection: the ability to look at self and also learn new skills and then implement these skills every single day with our kiddos! But if we have not been healed from trauma, we get triggered by our kids and we go back to square one.” (10:19-11:07)
• “Maybe you have the best intentions, but you might need a little support. Lean into your support network. (11:43-11:51)
• “Our DNA changes with our trauma experiences, so healing yourself is giving a gift to the next generation.” (15:11-15:20)
• “I have clients – couples – who I tell to do exactly that. Maybe once per month, you schedule a time to air out your grievances. Schedule it, so it’s not going to come in your face at a time when you’re maybe not ready for it. You know, and you can prepare, and you recognize that this is not a threat, it’s an opportunity to help come together.” (18:28-18:57)
• “Boundaries are at the heart of healthy relationships with self and with others. Boundaries are the way in which you teach others how to treat you. Without boundaries, you don’t have self-respect.” (21:37-21:51)
• “Respect your elders….well, let’s talk about that. Let’s talk about this blanket respect that you’re just handing out to people over the age of 40. No, my child is going to ask questions. My child is not just going to blindly obey. My child is going to have the voice and feel confident enough to ask questions and tell you no.” (26:02-26:26)
• “One of the most important features of therapy is your relationship with the therapist. And if you lean into that relationship, a lot of the family of origin issues can be healed in the therapeutic relationship.” (32:40-32:59)
• “QTIP: quit taking it personal.” (34:18-34:21)
• “I’m big on trusting your intuition as a parent and making sure that you lean in on your support network. And if you don’t have one, build one. (35:03-35:16)
• “Remind yourself that you’re doing the very best you can in very challenging times. Even outside of a pandemic, it’s challenging on a daily basis to be a parent. Give yourself grace.” (36:12-36:26)
• “Hug your kids. Tell your children that you love them. Tell your children that you’re proud of them for simply being your child and give them these things every single day.” (36:36-36:48)
• “Begin from within. Start with self. A lot of times we are trying to fix others….Start with self, and everything else will come into place.” (38:58-40:16)
Links
Audia’s TikTok: @truthheals
Podcast production and show notes provided by FIRESIDE Marketing
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By Colleen Blake & Eric Quick“Boundaries are the way in which you teach others how to treat you,” says Audia Reggie. “Without boundaries, you don’t have self-respect.” Not only does Audia teach others about the importance of boundaries in her role as a psychotherapist, but she also regularly shares her words of wisdom on her TikTok account @truthheals.
Although Audia started her TikTok account primarily as a COVID pastime, she quickly noticed a need for more content surrounding the intersection between parenting and intergenerational trauma. After posting her first video and receiving a surprising amount of encouraging feedback, Audia went on to produce more regular content and now has over 60k followers!
As for her role as a psychotherapist, Audia explains that the two most crucial things she tells her clients are to (1) critically reflect on how their childhood has shaped them and (2) create meaningful and resilient boundaries. Audia actively incorporates both of these tips into her own parenting style by encouraging her two-and-a-half-year-old daughter Nyma to always ask questions, use her voice, and feel comfortable telling others no.
Join Eric and Nina Quick on this week’s episode of Bathtime 2 Boardroom for a conversation with Audia about helping your child find their voice. Learn why breaking away from the mistakes of our parents requires us to confront our intergenerational trauma, how Audia has managed to avoid unsolicited advice about her daughter, and why trusting your intuition is key when it comes to parenting.
Quotes
• “We as parents have good intentions...and we all are left with a sense that we want to do better than our parents, we want to provide our children with more. But for a lot of people, it stops right there. And the reason is that it requires a deep amount of introspection: the ability to look at self and also learn new skills and then implement these skills every single day with our kiddos! But if we have not been healed from trauma, we get triggered by our kids and we go back to square one.” (10:19-11:07)
• “Maybe you have the best intentions, but you might need a little support. Lean into your support network. (11:43-11:51)
• “Our DNA changes with our trauma experiences, so healing yourself is giving a gift to the next generation.” (15:11-15:20)
• “I have clients – couples – who I tell to do exactly that. Maybe once per month, you schedule a time to air out your grievances. Schedule it, so it’s not going to come in your face at a time when you’re maybe not ready for it. You know, and you can prepare, and you recognize that this is not a threat, it’s an opportunity to help come together.” (18:28-18:57)
• “Boundaries are at the heart of healthy relationships with self and with others. Boundaries are the way in which you teach others how to treat you. Without boundaries, you don’t have self-respect.” (21:37-21:51)
• “Respect your elders….well, let’s talk about that. Let’s talk about this blanket respect that you’re just handing out to people over the age of 40. No, my child is going to ask questions. My child is not just going to blindly obey. My child is going to have the voice and feel confident enough to ask questions and tell you no.” (26:02-26:26)
• “One of the most important features of therapy is your relationship with the therapist. And if you lean into that relationship, a lot of the family of origin issues can be healed in the therapeutic relationship.” (32:40-32:59)
• “QTIP: quit taking it personal.” (34:18-34:21)
• “I’m big on trusting your intuition as a parent and making sure that you lean in on your support network. And if you don’t have one, build one. (35:03-35:16)
• “Remind yourself that you’re doing the very best you can in very challenging times. Even outside of a pandemic, it’s challenging on a daily basis to be a parent. Give yourself grace.” (36:12-36:26)
• “Hug your kids. Tell your children that you love them. Tell your children that you’re proud of them for simply being your child and give them these things every single day.” (36:36-36:48)
• “Begin from within. Start with self. A lot of times we are trying to fix others….Start with self, and everything else will come into place.” (38:58-40:16)
Links
Audia’s TikTok: @truthheals
Podcast production and show notes provided by FIRESIDE Marketing