We've all seen it and some of us have done it: the people or companies who show allyship during Pride month and then pack it all up at the end of June and store it away until next year, like it's a holiday. In this episode, let's explore what performative allyship is, why it is harmful, and how to avoid it.

Mentioned or related to this episode:

• Library of Congress: 1969: The Stonewall Uprising
• Rizing Tide Foundation: Identifying and Dismantling Performative Allyship
• IGLTA: Pride Calender
• Outright International: Pride Around the World
• Volvo Group: LGBTQ+ Flags and What They Stand For
• We Shape Tech: Performative Allyship: How to Spot it and Avoid Engaging with it
• Seventeen (video): What is Performative Allyship?
• Workplace: GLAAD's Recommendations for Corporate Allies
• Workplace (PDF): LGBT Great: Striving for More - Authentic Allyship Guide

Due to current events in the US:

• Rainbow Railroad
• TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens
• Transgender Law Center Resources

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

Places to look for therapy and professional support:

• Psychology Today
• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

More transgender families:

• YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
• YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
• TikTok: TransitionTogether
• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

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