When word spreads that your spouse has come out as a transgender person, usually on an as-needed basis, the people you thought you knew suddenly have a shift in behavior and opinions form. In this episode, I talk about how opinions change after a longer period of time and the disappointing text message I received from the mom of my son's friend.

Mentioned or related to this episode:

• Giphy: Homer Simpson backs into bushes
• TikTok: Dolly Parton's comment about people judging her

Due to current events in the US:

• Rainbow Railroad
• TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens
• Transgender Law Center Resources
• US: LGBTQ+ equality maps: MAP
• Europe: LGBTQ+ equality maps: ILGA

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

Places to look for therapy and professional support:

• Psychology Today
• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

More transgender families:

• YouTube Channel: Wives Vs World
• YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
• YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
• TikTok: TransitionTogether
• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

More transgender related podcats:

• FeedSpot Podcasts: 100 Best Transgender Podcasts

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Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions.

If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

My father-in-law visited for the first time in four years, after a difficult start with my spouse's transition. In this episode, I talk with my spouse about how she decided it was time to invite her parents for a visit and whether it went as expected. Ultimately, relationships can be complicated but life is short.

Due to current events in the US:

• Rainbow Railroad
• TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens
• Transgender Law Center Resources
• US: LGBTQ+ equality maps: MAP
• Europe: LGBTQ+ equality maps: ILGA

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

Places to look for therapy and professional support:

• Psychology Today
• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

More transgender families:

• YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
• YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
• TikTok: TransitionTogether
• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

More transgender related podcats:

• FeedSpot Podcasts: 100 Best Transgender Podcasts

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Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions.

If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

Our son just finished his first school year in a new country. This episode is a quick check-in of how it was, if he feels the perception of having a transgender parent is different here, and if he has any advice for other kids with a transitioning parent.

Due to current events in the US:

• Rainbow Railroad
• TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens
• Transgender Law Center Resources

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

Places to look for therapy and professional support:

• Psychology Today
• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

More transgender families:

• YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
• YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
• TikTok: TransitionTogether
• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

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Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions.

If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

We've all seen it and some of us have done it: the people or companies who show allyship during Pride month and then pack it all up at the end of June and store it away until next year, like it's a holiday. In this episode, let's explore what performative allyship is, why it is harmful, and how to avoid it.

Mentioned or related to this episode:

• Library of Congress: 1969: The Stonewall Uprising
• Rizing Tide Foundation: Identifying and Dismantling Performative Allyship
• IGLTA: Pride Calender
• Outright International: Pride Around the World
• Volvo Group: LGBTQ+ Flags and What They Stand For
• We Shape Tech: Performative Allyship: How to Spot it and Avoid Engaging with it
• Seventeen (video): What is Performative Allyship?
• Workplace: GLAAD's Recommendations for Corporate Allies
• Workplace (PDF): LGBT Great: Striving for More - Authentic Allyship Guide

Due to current events in the US:

• Rainbow Railroad
• TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens
• Transgender Law Center Resources

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

Places to look for therapy and professional support:

• Psychology Today
• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

More transgender families:

• YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
• YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
• TikTok: TransitionTogether
• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

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Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions.

If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

I call baloney on anyone who suggests that only a man and woman can lay the foundation for a so-called nuclear family. As someone whose marriage began in the heterosexual sense and morphed into a mixed orientation marriage, we remain more traditional than most. In this episode, my spouse and I chat about the term nuclear family and why it is anti-LGBTQ+ at the core.

Mentioned or related to this episode:

• Advocate: June is Pride Month. Tennessee Republicans Say it's 'Nuclear Family Month'
• Raising Children Network: How to Support LGBTQ+ Families in Your Community
• QueerAF: Challenging the "Nuclear Family" Helps Everyone, Not Just Queer Families

Due to current events in the US:

• Rainbow Railroad
• TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens
• Transgender Law Center Resources

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

Places to look for therapy and professional support:

• Psychology Today
• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

More transgender families:

• YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
• YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
• TikTok: TransitionTogether
• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

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Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions.

If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

A brief dive into how anti-transgender hate bills and laws are set in motion. It is a well-coordinated, 50-year-running long con to dismantle democracy.

Mentioned or related to this episode:

• PBS LearningMedia: How Laws are Made in Congress
• Rock the Vote: State Legislatures, An Explainer
• American Bar Association: What is an Executive Order?
• Video: Human Rights Campaign - Who's Behind the Anti-LGBTQ+ Movement?
• ACLU: Project 2025 Explained
• Greenpeace: The Heritage Foundation
• PBS News Hour: What is Christian Nationalism and Why it Raises Concerns about Threats to Democracy
• Common Cause Foundation: Why Does Big Oil Bankroll the Anti-Trans Movement?
• Open Secrets: Top Contributors, Federal Election Data for DT, 2024
• Open Secrets: Companies that Publicly Condemned Anti-LGBTQ Legislation, Sent Political Contributions to Advancing Anti-LGBTQ Legislation
• Greenpeace: The Fossil Fuel Industry is Inherently Patriarchal and Criminal
• Williams Institute: The Impact of Anti-Transgender Legislation on Youth
• ACLU: The Impacts of Anti-Transgender Laws and Policies
• ACLU: Mapping Attacks on LGBTQ Rights in State Legislature
• Erin in the Morning to follow for transgender legislation updates

Due to current events in the US:

• Rainbow Railroad
• TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens
• Transgender Law Center Resources

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

Places to look for therapy and professional support:

• Psychology Today
• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

More transgender families:

• YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
• YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
• TikTok: TransitionTogether
• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

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Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions.

If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

New laws are trying to erase transgender people and Law SB 244 that recently passed in the U.S. state of Kansas is a prime example. Transgender people are here to stay and in this episode, I touch on how wasteful and cruel this law is for the transgender community, a sliver of the population who are people like the rest of us.

Mentioned or related to this episode:

• ACLU: Understanding the SB 244 Law in Kansas
• Kansas SB 244 Law Details
• Request Assistance from ACLU Kansas
• Transgender Law Center Resources
• Lamda Legal
• LGBTQ Foundation of Kansas
• Trans Lawrence Coalition
• Boots on the Ground Midwest
• Transgender Institute (Kansas City, MO)
• PFLAG Kansas City (including KS)
• Erin in the Morning to follow for transgender legislation updates
• Advocate & Educator to follow on Instagram

Due to current events in the US:

• Rainbow Railroad
• TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens
• Transgender Law Center Resources

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

Places to look for therapy and professional support:

• Psychology Today
• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

More transgender families:

• YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
• YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
• TikTok: TransitionTogether
• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

* * *

Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions.

If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

In this episode, my spouse shares whether she has regrets not coming out sooner and touches on the topic of what might have been missed since she came out as an adult.

Due to current events in the US:

• Rainbow Railroad
• TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens
• Transgender Law Center Resources

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

Places to look for therapy and professional support:

• Psychology Today
• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

More transgender families:

• YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
• YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
• TikTok: TransitionTogether
• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

* * *

Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions.

If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

The new season begins with a reflection on the fourth year post-disclosure and how things looked then versus now.

Mentioned in or related to this episode:

• PFLAG and International PFLAG: Support, Education, and Advocacy for LGBTQ+ People and their Loved Ones

Due to current events in the US:

• Rainbow Railroad
• TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens
• Transgender Law Center Resources

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

Places to look for therapy and professional support:

• Psychology Today
• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

More transgender families:

• YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
• YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
• TikTok: TransitionTogether
• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

* * *

Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions.

If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

The season ends with a message of hope and an encore interview with special guest, Abbe Kruger. Abbe is a life coach who dedicates herself to supporting cisgender and straight spouses or partners, and couples, managing changes in sexuality, gender identity and gender expression. Abbe can help you anywhere in the world, you can contact her here.

The podcast returns in January. Thank you for listening and here's to hoping for a wonderful year ahead.

Mentioned in or related to this episode:

• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx
• Them: How to Prepare for your First Visit Home after Transitioning
• TransVitae: Helping Your Family Accept a Transgender Partner
• Pronoun Pins: Human Rights Campaign pronoun pins , PFLAG pronoun buttons, Dissent pins, Etsy pronoun pins

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

Places to look for therapy and professional support:

• Psychology Today
• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

More transgender families:

• YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
• YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
• TikTok: TransitionTogether
• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

* * *

Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions.

If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.