SaberWaves Performance Show

How you continue your journey once you get to a certain spot of your success

 

"Does the walker choose the path, or the path the walker." –Garth Nix--

1. What’s success?
   1. A journey
   2. A lifestyle
   3. An attitude
2. Decide where you want to be
   1. Look back at when you started, what was your vision
      • If you had a vision:
        1. Assess its validity
        2. How willing are you to continue on the same path
      • If you didn’t have a vision
        1. Create one
        2. Lay down the steps that will lead you there
        3. Determine where you are, how far / close to the steps you just listed
        4. Assess your resources (mental readiness, belief readiness, physical readiness, emotional readiness, space readiness)
        5. Lay a map with a time frame that will take you from where you are to each step you listed to make your vision a reality

"A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. –Lau Tzu--

How you prepare for peak performance It’s better to be prepared for the opportunity and not have one, than to have an opportunity and not to be prepared. –Less Brown--

1. What’s peak performance?
   1. The ability to perform your best at every moment you choose
   2. A lifestyle
   3. An attitude
2. How to prepare for peak performance?
   1. Master yourself
      • know what ignites and what extinguishes you
      • Master how you boost your igniters and how you manage your extinguishers
        1. Your belief system
        2. Your Thoughts
        3. Your Emotions and feelings

1. Master how you integrate the external influencers:
   • Know what they are
   • How to spot them
   • How they impact you
     1. Space of performance
     2. Human environment

1. Prepare your energy, and thus yourself to deal with various scenarios
   • Remember: Result is 100% dependent on your response. The event happens anyway
2. Baby exercise:

Think of times where you felt you did certain things really well and answer the following:

1. 1 to 10, how prepared were you?
2. What did you do to prepare (list all the juicy details)?
3. What would you like to keep from that practice and what would you like to improve?
4. Among the items that you want to improve, pick the one that you believe matters the most
5. How are you going to improve it?
6. When are you going to start?

 

“Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity”. – Roman philosopher Seneca –

Do you wonder Why you have NOT achieved your ultimate power yet?

Welcome Back ? . Have you ever been disappointed because you could not meet your own expectations? And if you go back to those times, can you remember the conversations you had with yourself? Are they “blame” conversations? May be “filling bad for myself” conversations? Or may be “what did I learn and how can I do it better next time” conversations?

The reality is: the first two options are not real options for peak performers. They are energy drainers. They suck the power out of your heart and the air out of your lunges. They disempower you and keep you helpless and stuck in your tracks. However, Taking responsibility for what happens, no matter what it is, empowers you to take charge and lead life like a boss.

Here’s a fact: Outcomes always mimic responses. Mathematically we say an Outcome is a function of response (O= f(R)). This means, if your response is highly empowering, then the outcome is highly favorable. Why? Because events happen anyway. It’s called life circumstances. Nothing against you personally ?. Events are outside of your control. Your response to any event, however, is 100% in your control.

So if you have not achieved your optimum potential yet, here’s the million dollar question: “what have you been rationalizing?” in other words:

1. What are the circumstances? And 2. What has your response been? You can get more answers following the link in this post. Next thursday we'll talk about How to aster your goals. Until then ... please remember to seize the moment, perform your best and live consciously.

http://bit.do/UltimatePower

SWP147 How To Stop Feeling unappreciated   Do you ever feel like you're not appreciated no matter what you do, no matter how much you sacrifice, nothing matters nobody even says thank you. If this is you or if this applies to you more often that you would like, this episode is for you please listen up   This is Saber your host and I’m honored and excited to have you on the show again today.   In today's episode we talk about appreciation or the feeling or the lack of appreciation. the things that you do every day, all day, to many people, to many entities in life, and you still feel and appreciate it.   Where does it come from? why do you feel that way? and how do you stop feeling the way you do?   It is quite often that I hear from my clients, especially when we start working together, the feeling of not being appreciated. the feeling of not being valued. and if you wonder if this is applicable to any specific industry the answer is no. it is not specific to an Industry. it is applicable to all industries. Why? because anyone who is in any industry is a human being and every human being has the desire to feel valuable, to feel appreciated, to feel loved.   We learn from the beginning. how we were raised in our families we get praise when we do good things and we don't get praise when we don't do good things. when we go to school is the same thing, we pass the exam  we have good grades. if we don't do the exam well we're not going to have good grades. in high school, in college, on the job, when you start working on corporate or even in private practice. when you do certain things you got results when you don't get results you believe that you did not get results. meaning whatever you did is not good and whatever you did is not good or was not good automatically translated to yourself automatically. translated to what you and why did not land results for you.   the trick here is how we look at it. are we looking at it from the perspective of what was done or from the respective what did I do. when I talk to my clients about this, more than often we talk about judgment versus assessment. however this is a little Advanced for today's episode so let me go to the root of the feeling of un-appreciation or feeling of unvalued.   so the example I give them, and you can imagine with me the time for example when you go to the mall; and if you don't go to the mall you can imagine where you hold the door for someone and they don’t recognize your act.  what is the first feeling or thought that comes to you?   if you're like most of the clients I work with you would be disappointed. why would you be disappointed? because you had the expectation of you doing something good for them and you expect them to do something good for you, which is a thank you or at least or an acknowledgement in any form. they can look back and give you a head nod or smile or anything that would acknowledge that they appreciate what you did.   if we take that example in all other areas, where you do not feel appreciated? How likely is it that it applies? How likely is it that it is true that whenever you have expectation you get disappointed? and when you get disappointed you think of your value and yourself worth? let's break it down a bit more. when you open the door to somebody else and they go through the door and didn't acknowledge you the first thing that comes to mind is about you not necessarily about them. or another situation when you think about them not being appreciative, immediately after that you would think of yourself and ask what is it about you that makes them not appreciate you. so even when you first think of them not being appreciative, or not being thankful to what you did or not being a good citizen if you will, immediately after that you get back on yourself and you say what is it in me? what is it in what I did that did not make them appreciate what I did or what I normally do?   How likely is it that when you’re not appreciated, instead of focusing on the situation and assess what happened you focus more on yourself and what is wrong with you or what is wrong with what you did that caused that person not appreciate you? the main point here is the expectation. so let me ask you this,  whatever you do, how often are you detached from the outcome? in other words, you do not have an expectation about whatever you do that is related to you?   if you are an athlete how often do you go to practice without any expectation that is not related to you in person? when you play a game and you want to win how often do you want to win for a reason other than yourself and feeling good about yourself? if you're an executive how often do you do good job because you expecting somebody to tell you thank you or you're an amazing leader or I wish we can clone you? if you're running a business, how often do you do your daily tasks attached to the expectation that you should have certain results otherwise you would rate yourself as not working well or not performing the way you should perform?   if the answer is yes to all these questions then here's the simple answer: if you try to do whatever it is that you do, do it without an expectation that is connected to you in person. what does it mean?   if you're an athlete, you go to practice with the expectation to get better, to do things better, to help yourself become a better player on the field, not necessarily a better human being and more valuable. Now we talking about the assessment of the actual thing that you do.   if you were a leader or executive, how about when you make decisions or you pass policies or you do things for your company, do it for the sake of doing things for the company and for the employees and for the community and for clients; not because you want them to tell you “thank you” or how great you are. You want them to be done because they are the right things to be done.   if you are a business, how about when you do your daily tasks you do them for the sake of your clients and for the sake of your business and for the sake of assessing and improving your process not to validate how good you are. so I think by now you got whatever it is critical that is not connected to ourselves if you do so most of the time you will be disappointed and the times that you are not you will feel a quick and good Rush of amazing feeling that it goes down quickly because you need something bigger than that to make you feel better about yourself the reality is my friend you are who you are no matter what happens on the field no matter what happens in the company no matter what happens in your business your expectations if you would like to call them expectations other people may call them hoes or wish list call it whatever you would like to see happening as long as it is connected to a process as long as it is connected to a goal and it is assessed not judged and not connected to you as a person is a human being you will always have metrics and you will always have him to improve on and you will never ever feel again you are and appreciated because it has nothing to do with you you're smart about you as a person is not about you as a human being it's not personal it's business as we normally say so either in the field or in the company or in your small business it's about business it's about the ACT it's not about you now you may ask me hear well if I do good things then I feel good by myself and if I'm doing something wrong and you will always find a reason to blame yourself and you will always find a reason to be disappointed without meeting your expectations and this is where we get to the advanced part 2 based on facts not to judge based on emotions and we talked about assessment versus judgement in other episode of savor wavs perform the show and we talked and how to your person and how not to connect them to your value if you have any questions specifically about this still please let us know and we can point you to those episodes in details if you have more questions after those episodes I am happy to answer those questions any comments I am happy to answer them for you the main point that we talked about today is not have expectations that are related to your value why because you are valuable no matter what he expects stations are you are very valuable no matter what the results are results do not determine who you are results to determine how good or bad the process is and even when I say bad I'm just using the term that we used to but it's not bad it's just not working it is good why is it good because it tells me was not working so we can find out what works essentially there's no bad there's what works and what doesn't work so we can become working I hope that this episode has been beneficial to you as much as I would love for it to be for you if you have any questions you can find me at savorwavs you can go to save email on YouTube on Twitter and on Facebook and until I talk to you next please remember to seize the moment perform your best and live consciously

Dr. Theo Tsaousides is a New York City-based neuropsychologist who serves as a clinician, researcher, educator, and author. He provides services to individuals, groups, and organizations locally and nationally. He received his Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology at the University at Albany, State University of New York in 2006. He completed a postdoctoral fellowship in clinical neuropsychology and rehabilitation research at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York. He joined the faculty in the Department of Rehabilitation Medicine at Mount Sinai shortly thereafter, and served as the Director of Training at the Brain Injury Research Center. He is an adjunct assistant professor at Mount Sinai and at St. John’s University. He is board certified by the American Psychological Association. Dr. Theo is a brain-training expert. He has extensive clinical and research experience in cognitive rehabilitation, a set of interventions that aim to improve a person’s ability to perform cognitive tasks. His training programs target the executive functions of the brain, a set of cognitive skills whose purpose is to ensure that goals lead to success. Through intensive strategy training and skill practice, he helps his clients achieve results in the pursuit of their own goals. Dr. Theo contributed to the development of the Executive Plus program, designed to improve executive functions in people with traumatic brain injuries. He also created EmReg™, a training program designed to increase emotional intelligence, and improve communication skills and social problem solving. He is currently involved in a research project at Mount Sinai designed to investigate the effectiveness of delivering emotional regulation training to a group of participants through online video interaction. Success of this program will increase access to health care for individuals with traumatic brain injuries. Dr. Theo has published articles in prestigious journals and co-authored textbook chapters in his area of expertise. He delivers presentations and workshops nationally and internationally. He is a peer reviewer for a number of high-impact scientific journals, and continues to provide training and supervision to clinicians and staff on assessment and intervention following brain injury. Dr. Theo is the founder of The LEAP Center, a personal development company focused on self-improvement and goal achievement, by translating science into practical daily strategies. To contact Dr. Theo click here. Published Books: Brain blocks: Overcoming the 7 Hidden Barriers to Success Website: http://www.dr-theo.com 

How you focus for peak performance Focus on what you want, not where you are today. –Unknown-- Last episode we talked about being prepared or how to prepare for peak performance. What does it have to do with focus, our topic for this episode? Well, it is part of the groundwork to focus  

1. You can’t focus if you don’t have clarity on where you are and where you want to be
2. If you can’t focus, you have scattered power
3. Scattered power is way far from peak performance. WHY?
   1. Because peak performance happens when you’re 100% engaged in that one thing that you’re doing or pursuing

So How do I focus for peak performance?

1. Be prepared. HOW? Listen to the previous episode for specific details
2. Once you’re prepared, you have the various scenarios and how to manage them
3. Believe what you prepared works
4. Execute, without a doubt. With full faith
5. If you don’t get the desired results, assess, correct and go back to step #1

  The magic of focus in peak performance comes from mastering the process.  A magical peak performance equals a magical process. Here’s a baby exercise

1. Once you’ve done the work from the previous episode ask yourself:
   1. On a scale from 1 to 10, how prepared do you feel?
      1. If not 9 or 1o, what needs to happen to make your faith in your preparedness at 10?
   2. What’s the process to follow, step by step and with time frames for every executed step?
   3. Take the first step and continue all the way through until you’re done with your process
   4. Assess, DO NOT JUDGE, your progress. How close or far are you from your desired result?
      1. If close to what makes you satisfied, then we may have a winner
      2. If not, what needs to be improved to get the expected results?
   5. Adjust the process by going back to the prep stage so you are ready for focused execution

TIP: focusing on anything outside of you and the moment will only delay your progress and kill your performance. Stay true to who you are. Trust what you have done and achieved so far. Believe you’re on track to get there and this part of the journey, because ultimate success is a journey, not a station   “Do Not expect, rather Accept that you’ll find the way to meet yourself at the next station of your journey to your promise land. When you get there wave so high so I can wave back” –Saber Fatnassi—

How To Assess & Analyze

Beyond being timely, an obituary has a more subjective duty: to assess its subject's impact. --Walter Cronkite--

1. What does it mean to assess & analyze?
   1. To detach from the situation completely
   2. To have no emotional ties to the outcome
   3. To be fair about what we know
   4. To be honest about what we don’t know
   5. To ensure we’re doing for all the good reasons that will lead to the desired outcome

  It’s a necessary to any successful actionable path toward achieving any goal  

1. Why don’t most people analyze OR over analyze?
   1. Fear of failure
   2. Fear of embarrassment
   3. Don’t know where they are or where they want to go
   4. Lack of confidence
   5. Used to it by force of habit

 

1. How does it shape your game of life?
   1. It trains you to take leaps and change your circumstances
   2. It brings the real possibilities into your doorsteps
   3. It makes the impossible possible
   4. It kills procrastination
   5. It puts you on the map of your success journey
   6. It changes everything for the better no matter what anyone says

 

1. How to start assessing and analyzing?
   1. Through your belief system, your thoughts, your emotions, your physical state, your space of engagement, and through the people around you
   2. Assess/analyze where you are
   3. You clarify where you want to be, no joke
   4. Assess/analyze your plan the best you can be based on what you know best right now
   5. Seal the deal

  For today let me leave you with this baby exercise:

1. When was the last time you Assess/analyze something to find yourself sit back and watch the days pass without starting it?
2. Go back and focus on what you think stopped you back then. Write down everything that comes to mind
3. If you had the power today to do it differently, what would you change to get the outcome you intended initially?
4. What is that you wanted to accomplish this week. Pick a simple task
5. Write down 3 things you can to achieve that outcome
6. Assess the 3 options
7. Pick the easiest
8. Do it today, now
9. If you don’t, take your time and write down your explanation of why you didn’t. most likely it is what’s been stopping every time.

 “Panic causes tunnel vision. Calm acceptance of danger allows us to more easily assess the situation and see the options. --Simon Sinek--

“An idea not coupled with action will never get any bigger than the brain cell it occupied.” ―Arnold Glasow--  

1. What does it mean to take an action or execute?
   1. To move forward
   2. To physically do something related to a thought
   3. To do something that changes the status, condition and current flow forever
   4. To change your life, history, future even on the micro level
   5. To do something that takes from one point to another
   6. To create a new space, condition, circumstances even on the micro level

  Taking action is what differentiates winner from the rest  

1. Why don’t most people take action?
   1. Fear of failure
   2. Fear of embarrassment
   3. Don’t know where they are or where they want to go
   4. Lack of confidence
   5. Used to taking the back seat by training, not by nature

 

1. How does it shape your game of life?
   1. It trains you to take leaps and change your circumstances
   2. It brings the real possibilities into your doorsteps
   3. It makes the impossible possible
   4. It kills procrastination
   5. It puts you on the map of your success journey
   6. It changes everything for the better no matter what anyone says

 

1. How to start taking action?
   1. Through your belief system, your thoughts, your emotions, your physical state, your space of engagement, and through the people around you
   2. You master where you are
   3. You clarify where you want to be, no joke
   4. You plan based on what you know best right now
   5. Take the first step today, right now, No delays

  For today let me leave you with this baby exercise:

1. When was the last time you pursued something to find yourself sit back and watch the days pass without starting it?
2. Go back and focus on what you think stopped you back then. Write down everything that comes to mind
3. If you had the power today to do it differently, what would you change to get the outcome you intended initially?
4. What is that you wanted to accomplish this week. Pick a simple task
5. Write down 3 things you can to achieve that outcome
6. Pick the easiest
7. Do it today, now
8. If you don’t, take your time and write down your explanation of why you didn’t. most likely it is what’s been stopping every time.

 “People may doubt what you say, but they will believe what you do.” ―Lewis Cass