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Raising kids is one of the toughest and most fulfilling jobs in the

world, (at least to me and many other parents I know)— and the

one for which you might feel the least prepared.

I have put together few tips, that helped me fill I am working

towards the right direction as a parent

1.Put Limits and Be Consistent With Your Discipline

Discipline is necessary in every household. The goal of discipline is

to help kids choose acceptable behaviours and learn self-control.

They may test the limits you establish for them, but they need those

limits to grow into responsible adults.

Establishing house rules helps kids understand your expectations

and develop self-control.

You might want to have a system in place: one warning, followed by

consequences such as a "time out" or loss of privileges. A common

mistake parents make (and I struggled with this and still do) is

failure to follow through with the consequences. You can't discipline

kids for talking back one day and ignore it the next. Being

consistent teaches what you expect.

2. Hold kids being good

Have you ever stopped to think about how many times you react

negatively to your kids in a given day? You may find yourself

criticising far more often than complimenting. How would you feel

about a boss who treated you with that much negative guidance,

1. Keep calm and parent on.

Watch how you respond to misbehavior and mistakes in your home, whether it’s spilled juice on the carpet or unfinished chores.

If your kids worry about being yelled at or punished when they mess up, they won’t want to come to you with the truth.

Focus on using a calm voice – yes, it can be tough, but it’s possible. That doesn’t mean kids are off the hook for lying. But instead of getting angry and assigning blame, discuss solutions to the problem with your child.

2. Don’t set up a lie.

If you can see piles of laundry on your daughter’s floor, don’t ask her if she’s cleaned up her room yet.

When we ask questions to which we already know the answer, we’re giving our children the opportunity to tell a lie. Instead, emphasize ways to address the situation. If you know Evan hasn’t touched his homework, ask him, “What are your plans for finishing your homework?”

Instead of “Where did all this mud come from?” ask, “What can we do to clean this up and make sure it doesn’t happen next time?”

This can help head off a power struggle and allows your child to save face by focusing on a plan of action instead of fabricating an excuse.

It also teaches a lesson of what they can do next time – sitting down with homework right after school or taking off their shoes in the mudroom instead of the living room – to avoid problems.

3. Get the whole truth.

While we may want to put our child on the spot when we catch them in a lie, accusing or blaming them will only make things worse.

Getting to the root of the problem and understanding why she couldn’t be honest with you will help you encourage your child to tell the truth in the future.

Open up a conversation gently, saying, “that sounds like a story to me. You must be worried about something and afraid to tell the truth. Let’s talk about that. What would help you be honest?”

You can use the information you glean to help her be more truthful in the future.

4. Celebrate honesty.

Even if you’re upset that there’s a sea of water on the bathroom floor because your daughter tried to give her dolls a bath in the sink, commend her for coming to you and telling the truth.

Tell her, “I really appreciate you telling me what really happened. That must have been difficult for you, but I really appreciate you telling the truth and taking responsibility.”

5. Delight in do-overs.

Think of mistakes as a way to learn how to make better choices. When we stay calm and avoid yelling or punishing our kids for mistakes, our kids will be more likely to admit their slip-ups in the future.

Turn the mistake into a learning opportunity.

Ask, “If you could have a do-over, what would you do differently?” and brainstorm different ideas. If someone else was affected – maybe he broke his sister’s scooter – ask what he can do to make it right with the other party.

6. Show the love.

Let your kids know you love them unconditionally, even when they make mistakes.

Make sure they know that while you don’t like their poor behaviour, you will never love them any less because of the mistakes they might make. This helps your kids feel safe opening up to you.

7. Walk the talk.

Remember that your kids are always looking to you and learning from your actions.

Those little white lies we tell, whether it’s to get out of dog sitting for the neighbours or helping with the school fundraiser, aren’t harmless – they’re showing your kids that it’s okay to lie.

Get your child to listen

One of the most popular complaints amongst parents is that children don't listen 👂. In a moment of utter defeat, you’re left screaming the same demands you had requested calmly just minutes ago. The energy escalates and everyone is left frustrated and discouraged. I get it and so do most parents.

Here’s the thing though, if you want to get a handle on your child’s unresponsiveness, the first thing you need to do is figure out WHY he is NOT listening. More often than not, his lack of response is a SYMPTOM, not the actual problem.

If you don’t address this issue at its roots, you’re sure to see a simple case of “not listening” blossom into bigger behaviour issues such as tantrums, defiance, and backtalk.

I’m not saying there aren’t times when your child is just flat-out ignoring you–that happens! However, more often than not, it’s less about “not listening” and more about some underlying issue. Is it may be how you communicate with the child?

How to Get Kids to listen

1. Get on Their Level

When you need your child’s attention, make sure you get her attention–that means eye contact. When you lower yourself down and look her in the eye, you not only verify she sees and hears you, but you strengthen the communication as well.

This means you might have to step away from the laundry or put down the whisk for a minute and step into the other room. Proximity is key–you’re not talking down to her or barking orders from the other room–you’re speaking with her. 

2. Shorten your Speech

Oh boy, I was as guilty of this as anyone. Parents, and especially moms, tend to turn a five-second answer into a five-minute dissertation!

There’s a saying in the sales industry, “never sell with blah-blah what you can sell with blah.” I think it makes sense in parenting too. When trying to get your kid’s attention, be as concise as possible and they won’t even have time to tune you out!

3. Say Thank You in Advance

Help your kids make an appropriate choice by taking this leap of faith. Your preemptive “Thank you for hanging up your towel after your shower,” will encourage your kids toward good behavior much more than, “I better not see your towel on the floor again!”

People, and yes, even children, will usually live up to our expectations if we manage them in a positive way. Letting them know, in advance, that you trust them to do the right thing will cultivate open communication lines and increase the likelihood the task will get completed.

4. Ensure Comprehension

A simple way to ensure your child has heard you and that she understands is to ask her to repeat back what you said.

5. Make an Observation

If you see a task that’s been left undone, don’t dive in with a big reprimand,  just make an OBSERVATION: “I see a jacket on the floor,” or you can ask, “What is your plan for taking care of the trash today?” 

“What is your plan for?” is one of my favorite strategies to avoid power struggles. It’s empowering because it’s assumptive on your part that they have a plan–and gives your child an opportunity to save face and quickly come up with a plan in the moment if they didn’t already have one!

Parents we sometimes say harmful things to our children — without realising it. 

We don’t set out to say hurtful or harmful things to our children, but it happens. You’re tired, they’re pushing your buttons, and you’re frustrated after asking them for the 600th time to clear their plates or get out the door on time. You could also be inadvertently repeating things you heard in your childhood that your parents didn’t realize took an emotional toll.

As parents, we are trying our best, but sometimes — a lot of times — we fall short. That’s why it can be helpful to know some of the potentially damaging phrases parents often resort to without realizing their impacts.

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