Dating advice for high-achieving women isn’t “follow the butterflies.” In this episode, we dismantle the lie that intense feelings equal real potential—and show you what actually predicts commitment.

You’ll walk away able to separate chemistry from compatibility, stop projecting your feelings onto him, and use a simple alignment check to protect your standards without hardening your heart.

• A no-drama filter to spot commitment-ready men using actions, not adrenaline rushes.
• How to keep standards in dating high when your feelings are loud (and your hopes are louder).
• The 3 hidden assumptions that tank momentum—and the intentional dating swaps that fix them fast.
• A post-breakup reality check that ends the closure spiral and brings your power back.

If you’re done confusing butterflies with green flags, this episode gives you the grounded roadmap to stay magnetic, keep your standards, and move toward the right man—without wasting another month on mixed signals.

ABOUT THE PODCAST

Said Lovingly is the podcast for high-achieving women entrepreneurs, creators, and powerhouse professionals who are ready to attract committed love without lowering their standards.

Said Lovingly is hosted by Crystal Irom, a lawyer-turned-love coach and educator for high-achieving women who has helped 70+ women go from single to happily married with her proven frameworks for attracting love.
Subscribe to Said Lovingly for new episodes every Thursday—and follow me on Instagram @crystalonlove for daily insights.

Ever had a man come on strong at the start… only to suddenly cool off? If you’re wondering why men stop pursuing and how to respond without chasing him, this episode is your blueprint.

You’ll finally understand the real reason pursuit fades, what it means about him (not you), and how to stay magnetic instead of falling into the exhausting cycle of over-functioning.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why men stop pursuing after the early dates—and what it really signals about commitment-ready men
• The #1 mindset shift that keeps you from chasing when he pulls back
• How to use his pursuit (or lack of it) as clarity about his emotional availability
• The secret to staying confident in dating even when things slow down
• What to do instead of lowering your standards or “auditioning” to be chosen

If you’ve ever felt that sting of someone pulling away, this conversation will change how you see pursuit forever. You’ll leave knowing exactly what to do instead of chasing—so you can attract the man who doesn’t stop showing up.

About Said Lovingly

Said Lovingly is the podcast for high-achieving women entrepreneurs, creators, and powerhouse professionals who are ready to attract committed love without lowering their standards. Said Lovingly is hosted by Crystal Irom, a lawyer-turned-love coach and educator for high-achieving women who has helped 70+ women go from single to happily married with her proven frameworks for attracting love.

📌 Subscribe to Said Lovingly for new episodes every Thursday—and follow me on Instagram @crystalonlove for more daily insights.

Think you need to fix your flaws to be chosen? The truth: confidence in dating comes from embracing every part of you. Yes, even if you think you're "too much" or have "thin skin."

Confidence in dating doesn’t come from pretending to be perfect—it comes from embracing your so-called flaws, quirks, and sensitivities. When you stop hustling to “prove you’re not too much” and start owning every part of yourself, your magnetism skyrockets.

In this episode, I share how I went from being crushed by comments like “you’re high-maintenance” to attracting men who loved me because of it—not in spite of it. If you’ve ever felt like you need to tone yourself down or fix yourself to be chosen, this conversation will be be a gamechanger for you.

You’ll learn how to:

- Build confidence in dating that isn’t shaken by “too much” or "not enough" labels

- Shift your self-worth in love so flaws no longer hold power over you

- Stop over-explaining and start attracting men who celebrate you

- Unlock magnetic feminine energy that draws in commitment-ready love

Here’s the truth: you don’t need to be perfect to be loved. You get to bring your full self—flaws, fire, and sensitivity—and still have a happy, healthy, committed relationship with a man who adores you. Listen to the episode to understand how. 

ABOUT THE PODCAST

Said Lovingly is the podcast for high-achieving women entrepreneurs, creators, and powerhouse professionals who are ready to attract committed love without lowering their standards. Said Lovingly is hosted by Crystal Irom, a lawyer-turned-love coach and educator for high-achieving women who has helped 70+ women go from single to happily married with her proven frameworks for attracting love.

📌 Subscribe to Said Lovingly for new episodes every Thursday—and follow me on Instagram @crystalonlove for more daily insights.

The dating mindset for women that kills magnetism? Proving you’re “the one.” Here’s why it pushes commitment-ready men away.

If you’ve ever found yourself over-giving, over-proving, or silently hoping he’ll finally see you as girlfriend or wife material…this episode is your wake-up call.

The truth? Proving your worth pushes men away.

Inside this episode, I’ll show you how to take him off the pedestal, reclaim your energy, and embody the self-worth that makes you magnetic to commitment-ready men.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- Why proving you’re “the one” lowers your magnetism and self-worth in dating;

- The hidden energy shift that repels emotionally available, high-quality men;

- How to raise your standards in dating and attract commitment-ready love with ease; 

- The #1 mindset shift that stops chasing and starts magnetizing love

Stop proving. Start attracting. Tune into the episode!

ABOUT THE PODCAST

Said Lovingly is the podcast for high-achieving women entrepreneurs, creators, and powerhouse professionals who are ready to attract committed love without lowering their standards. Said Lovingly is hosted by Crystal Irom, a lawyer-turned-love coach and educator for high-achieving women who has helped 70+ women go from single to happily married with her proven frameworks for attracting love.

📌 Subscribe to Said Lovingly for new episodes every Thursday—and follow me on Instagram @crystalonlove for daily insights.

If dating as a high-achieving woman feels like hard work, the problem isn’t effort. It’s your identity. Here’s how to shift it and attract love with ease. 

What if the reason love feels hard has nothing to do with men, dating apps, or your worth—and everything to do with how you see yourself? 

I’m breaking down why effort never creates the love you want—and how shifting your identity does. I’ll share the exact framework I used to go from “always the bridesmaid” to married in less than a year, and how my clients have done the same.

Here’s What You’ll Discover: 

• The hidden identity beliefs keeping you annoyed with men instead of adored and committed; 
• Why effort-based dating backfires—and how identity shifts for love flip the script instantly; 
• The shortcut to attracting commitment-ready men without rewriting every limiting belief; 
• How to embody the version of you who gets love effortlessly (and keeps it that way)

In this episode, I reveal the power of identity shifts for love: the mindset framework that took me from perpetually single to married in less than a year—and that has helped hundreds of women do the same.

Shifting your identity isn’t just mindset work—it’s the difference between overworking in dating and being naturally chosen by high-quality men who adore you.

When you stop pouring energy into effort and start aligning your identity, love stops feeling like hard work—and starts feeling inevitable.

Said Lovingly is the podcast for high-achieving women entrepreneurs, creators, and powerhouse professionals who are ready to attract committed love without lowering their standards and is hosted by Crystal Irom, a lawyer-turned-love coach and educator for high-achieving women. Crystal’s proven frameworks for manifesting love and dating advice has helped hundreds of women go from single to happily coupled up.  

📌 Subscribe to Said Lovingly for new episodes every Thursday—and follow me on Instagram @crystalonlove for more daily insights.

Attracting love as a high-achieving woman requires more than apps or luck—it’s about identity, mindset, and a whole new approach.

Welcome to Said Lovingly. In this episode I’m laying the foundation for everything this podcast is about: how smart, successful, high-achieving women can attract committed, extraordinary love—without lowering their standards or chasing after it.

I share my story of going from situationships and heartbreak to marriage, and break down the exact shifts every ambitious woman needs to make in order to call in the love she deeply desires.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men?” or “Why does dating feel harder for women like me?”—this episode is your starting point.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The hidden role your identity and dating mindset play in love
• Why successful women often feel stuck in situationships—and how to stop the cycle
• The truth about self-worth in dating (and why “nice guys” often feel wrong if yours is off)
• What it actually means to attract love with ease instead of chasing it
• The guiding tenets of my work that have helped 70+ women go from single to married

If you’re ready to rewrite the way you see yourself, men, and love, this episode will give you the foundation to attract the relationship you’ve always wanted—said lovingly.

Said Lovingly is the podcast for high-achieving women entrepreneurs, creators, and powerhouse professionals who are ready to attract committed love without lowering their standards.

Said Lovingly is hosted by Crystal Irom, a lawyer-turned-love coach and educator for high-achieving women who has helped 70+ women go from single to happily married with her proven frameworks for attracting love.

 📌 Subscribe to Said Lovingly for new episodes every Thursday—and follow me on Instagram @crystalonlove for daily insights.