when you pray the Lord’s Prayer, and you’ve not done the critical work of forgiving someone else, what you are literally praying is, “God, please don’t forgive me.” “God since I can’t forgive my ex, since I’m unwilling to forgive my neighbor, my co-worker, that girl at school that lied about me, that guy that bullied me…God since I can’t or won’t forgive them, please don’t forgive me.